https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 12 Jun 2026 17:56:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-462145 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 20:31:03 +0000 Piccateer 462145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've yet to announce my pregnancy on facebook, and I've asked everyone we've told that we are keeping it to ourselves for as long as possible. I don't know what it is exactly that's holding me back, because my husband and I are big facebook users. I know it will come out eventually, and I'm ok with that. I guess I'm already feeling protective? My mom is so ready to put the news all over facebook and I think she's frustrated. I'm not sure how we will approach posting pictures; more than likely I will keep it very limited. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-462098 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 19:54:39 +0000 autumnlove 462098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my BILs posted a pic of LO and her name as soon as he met her in my recovery room. He tagged us and by the time I checked FB later that day to post what I thought would be the first pic of her on social media...there were tons of likes and comments from our friends on his pic! Oh well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-462092 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 19:49:22 +0000 eeh 462092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It doesn't really bother me if people post pictures of my daughter. Strangers see her all the time at the grocery store, mall, doctor's office, etc so it doesn't seem all that different for them to see her face on facebook. I dont post naked pictures and won't post information like school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-462084 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 19:42:57 +0000 Meridian 462084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, I'm glad that neither set of parents are on Facebook! ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461705 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 14:30:08 +0000 sarac 461705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, that's not ok. I'm a total share-er on facebook, but whatever my rules were, I'd require my family to follow them. Like, I don't post naked pictures. If I take a cute one, I'll email it around to close family, but it wouldn't go on facebook. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461621 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 12:59:12 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 461621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in-laws (both parents &amp; siblings) are WAY into FB &amp; posted that I gave birth even before I was in my recovery room. I was pissed, because I didn't tell them not to do that - I just assumed they'd have some respect. </p> <p>After about a month of seeing random pictures of LO on FB, including a giant photo album including his name &amp; my MIL re-sharing the few photos I posted, DH &amp; I were fed up. I have a personal blog that friends &amp; family read, and that's where we put up the most pictures/info about LO. I wrote a post asking people not to put any photos of LO on FB without asking us first.</p> <p>MIL has been good, although she complained about it. Right after thanksgiving there were a few more, but it wasn't just LO so I let it go. If people posted something we weren't comfortable with, I'd private message them on FB to ask them to take it down. If they did it again, honestly I'd probably hit that "report" button FB has.</p> <p>My child, my rules, is how I feel about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461597 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 12:17:02 +0000 .twist. 461597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: haha exactly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461592 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 12:12:06 +0000 sorrycharlie 461592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: ah..like my grandmother that shared the video of baby's first belly laugh before I did? LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461589 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 12:10:07 +0000 .twist. 461589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I'm a little confused about that too.... maybe if they post status updates about milestones before the parents?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461586 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 12:08:36 +0000 sorrycharlie 461586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im confused on the milestone thing that some PPs are mentioning - does this mean for instance family can post pictures of LO smiling but not like..when she learns to walk? haha..confused! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461583 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 12:03:48 +0000 Foodnerd81 461583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty meh. On the issue. My dad is a big one on saving and reposting pics of my nephews as his own and I know it sort of annoys my sister, but not enough to say anything. And he does post some pretty unflattering pics that he takes but what can you do. I do expect people to respect things like not announcing the pregnancy on fb and no ultrasound pics, but that's about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461507 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 10:54:13 +0000 .twist. 461507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a pretty small facebook friends list, however there are people from the internet on it who are friends from online gaming. I have ALL the friends in my list separated into specific groups and depending on the album, only certain groups can see it. </p> <p>I'm not going to stop family and friends from taking photos of my LO. They do it because they love them and want to enjoy memories with the as much as I do. Milestones are a little different and I will just have to deal with those as they come along. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461496 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 10:40:30 +0000 Mrs. Tricycle 461496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When LO was born we asked all our family to refrain from posting pictures of the baby on FB. So far, they've really respected it. The only photos we've shared on FB are the ones from our newborn photo shoot. Everything else we share via text message with those we want to see it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461490 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 10:34:29 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 461490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I recently took all my photos off facebook and asked people to not post photos of my kids there. I share on Flickr with my family and I trust flickr a lot more than I trust facebook. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461488 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 10:33:04 +0000 sorrycharlie 461488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: that is a really good idea!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461486 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 10:32:30 +0000 sorrycharlie 461486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>seems like the popular thing seems to be stealing photos! Although my grandmother actually screenshots them with her ipad and reuploads them. it drives me NUTS. </p> <p>she actually uploaded a video to facebook that my dad texted her the other day. I was SO angry and called my parents, who told her to take it down. Obviously if it's not already ON facebook, I don't want it on facebook!</p> <p>I don't upload a ton of photos to facebook of her to begin with - I have one album that I'll occasionally update with a handful of photos, or I'll share an instagram one. But I primarily use instagram now to avoid that..even though technically people can screenshot instagram too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461469 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:51:34 +0000 Mrs. Pen 461469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's pretty much impossible to regulate depending on the family members you have. I am pretty open with posting pics of LO. But everytime I post a pic my mom or my mil "share" it... Well not everytime- but in the early days. When DS had just been born DH texted mil a picture and she put it on fb, I was max cause it was a really bad picture and definitely not flattering haha he had that ugly newborn look. I didn't want it on fb but there wasn't much I could do. She was a proud grandma so I had to get over myself. </p> <p>I'm pretty meh about it now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461458 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:41:45 +0000 boiledpnut 461458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're asking that no pictures be posted. We will tag whoever wants to be tagged in any pics we post though. That way we can still control who actually sees the pictures through our privacy settings. If people get huffy about it, oh well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461387 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 07:59:37 +0000 heffalump 461387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind most pictures and stats up.... I just like them at my own pace. Like I didn't want any info that I was pregnant until I had told all my close friends and family in person. I didn't want any info that I was going to the hospital or lo was born or she was here until I knew she was here and healthy. Once that was confirmed.... They were free to post away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461380 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 07:38:07 +0000 lomom 461380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: I like this idea, I think they'd be respectful of the "for your eyes only" message. I just really want to be cognizant of the non-private nature of facebook and protect my LO. I have been a little alarmed by people I don't know talking on my MIL's facebook about my unborn child (they're friends of hers, obviously, but it's still a bit unsettling to me) and I just don't feel super comfortable with the idea of a bunch of pictures of my LO being out there for a bunch of people I don't know to see. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461379 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 07:37:03 +0000 junebugmama 461379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I post a million things on Facebook. However, when my MIL right clicks downloads, and then posts it on her wall it makes me cringe. I have 108 friends and she has over 700. I choose to keep my friends group small, because I feel comfortable sharing that information with the people I interact with in real life. </p> <p>I'm not friends with people I don't see in person, and so when she shows it to people she hasn't seen in 40 years it flips me out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461376 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 07:22:58 +0000 Bao 461376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind. However, we asked that no one post anything after LO was born until we got to first, and then they could have their chance if they felt they needed too. We had issues with my in laws about what's for us to share and what's for them to share. My in laws will take pics of my LO from my FB, save them to their computer, then add them to their FB as if they were their pics to begin with, which is really annoying! I know that's not exactly what you meant, but still. I guess their are certain boundaries and lines that shouldn't be crossed without permission. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461375 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 07:09:54 +0000 rachiecakes 461375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I made a private album that said "the photos in this album are for your eyes only, please do not share on Facebook or repost". I set it up so only close friends and family could see and use it for the pregnancy pictures (I felt weird having belly pictures on there but my family that lives across the country was asking), newborn in hospital and milestone photos.<br /> I still post some photos available to everyone but this way I can choose. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461374 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 07:03:46 +0000 mamabolt 461374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know...I have friends who don't want pics of their kids (7 and 9) on FB and I have no idea how diligent they have had to be about it but there aren't any. So it's possible, but I think it's trickier if you just don't want certain pics up there vs. taking a hard line of "no facebook pics period." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461369 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 06:35:34 +0000 travelgirl1 461369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This one's tricky... I definitely think I have the right to ask they don't put pictures on (like you say, ones of her on her own not group shots) and that that should be respected. Her dad is way more bothered about this than me bit for now I only put the odd one on myself while I figure out our stance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461367 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 06:28:12 +0000 LemonLong 461367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't care, my mom reposts every picture/status about my LO so her friends can see it. I love that she's a proud grandma! I think the chances of a stranger stalking us with ill intentions is pretty low so it's not a big concern to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461349 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 04:17:47 +0000 lomom 461349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't mind if it was like everyone unwrapping presents at Christmas and my LO was in the picture with cousins or from a family wedding where they're dancing with a bunch of other people. But I don't like the idea of blatantly just posting pictures of LO. I wouldn't expect people to try to crop out LO, just to not purposefully post pictures or post LO's full name and age and milestones, especially ones that contain private information like "LO just started kindergarten at XYZ Elementary!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461347 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 04:16:15 +0000 808love 461347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If someone takes their own pic and tagged LO in a pic I don't necessarily want up, I click 'like' to acknowledge and then untag her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461343 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 04:11:28 +0000 shopaholic 461343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say that's pretty hard about certain pics. I know I will take and post pics from my camera and phone of our relatives' kids and friends' kids and tag the parents. Sometimes, they even ask me for the files so they can print them. Some things like the ultrasounds (and vital stats) of course, I think are parents' domain only. But other than that, I think if you don't want them posted, you would have to never let people take pictures of your LO? I've never been asked not to post pics, but if I were, I would refrain immediately and forever (and then feel weird, like I did something wrong or offensive to the parents). Usually, you post a pic of a loved one's LO because you love them too and found them to be so cute and had to take a picture! IDK, maybe I will feel differently after I have LO, but mostly I feel it's okay since it's just friends and family on my FB. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/facebook-and-babies#post-461333 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 03:58:55 +0000 lomom 461333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What are your rules regarding Facebook and your LO? I'm tempted to ask that no one post pictures of LO but I know that'll be met with a lot of resistance. My SIL asked this and everyone in the family mocks her and ignores this request, which frustrates me. </p> <p>I'm also cringing at the idea of people posing videos or information about my LO, such as birth stats, milestones, etc. I feel as though it's my right, as the parent, to disclose that information or to keep that information private.</p> <p>I bring this up because there was an incident of MIL posting an ultrasound picture on Facebook without asking and while I hadn't specified that it wasn't something I wanted on Facebook, I hadn't posted it... Because I didn't want it on Facebook. Ultrasound pictures are definitely something I feel is the "right" of the parent to choose whether to share or keep private.</p> <p>Just curious what others' rules are and how you communicated to your families. I think Facebook can be a great way to keep in touch, especially considering my in-laws live across the country, but I also want to protect my LO and be the one to make decisions regarding what photos and information are shared. I feel very strongly that once it's posted on Facebook, it's out there for the world to see, regardless of your privacy settings. Even with the strictest privacy settings, friends can easily right-click and save your photo and repost it as their own... </p>