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When we got our BFP after our m/c I noticed a big difference in DH. I couldn't call his name for anything because he would rush in thinking I was spotting or bleeding. He was very anxious for a long time. Even now, at 12 weeks I have to be careful not to scare him. It's weird but in a way it's been helpful. I've been scared too! My m.o. though is to voice every concern I have every single time, and I think that leads to more anxiety for me. so a silver lining in having to be more careful not to freak out DH is that I've been freaking MYSELF out less. does that make sense?

I think it's hard for them to talk about, or even recognize how traumatised they are after mc's. The best thing for DH was talking to other men about their experience. It's tough, women get a lot of sympathy for it and the men tend to act as caretakers directly after and have no time to really go through it themselves...

all that being said, he better get ok with you being laid out! I had ms from sun up to sun down and couldn't help around the house at all. It was a source of tension for us, but we had to just talk it out, and honestly I could NOT do domestic stuff feeling the way I did!

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Wow. That would really upset me. My hubs has been really great. I had morning sickness until 20 weeks and then got put on modified bed rest from 26 weeks to 36 weeks and now I'm just too huge and uncomfortable to function. So hubs got one 6 week break where I felt ok and other than that he did soooo much work around the house. If it weren't for him some days I wouldn't have been able to even get out of bed never mind eat, shower, or take care of myself.

No my DH hasnt behaved like that. I also think he could be a saint. We have had a very difficult 10 weeks in and out of hospital multiple times and he has been an amazing support. I told him at the start that his job was to support me, which he has done wonderfully.

However, whenever I have had a reprieve I have made sure to make him feel special by baking his favourite bread or cake or making a batch of home made ice-cream. In short, when I'm well, he knows about it. He knows I'm not taking the piss, and actually go all out to do as much as I can when I'm feeling well, or at least not feeling like I'm about to die!

Good luck, you'll navigate through this.

We weren't in the same scenario and I have no complaints about him, but I do think it was easier to be sympathetic about me feeling sick, etc. once we'd seen the ultrasound heart beat and I started looking pregnant. I would guess in your scenario he's just taking some of his fears out on you about a possible miscarriage again, which sucks Hope you can talk it out and support one another until you bring baby home!

Weird- we had our bfps like, days apart and I had really bad cramps during the night too! I feel fine now but was totally freaked out this morning.
I haven't been quite in your situation because so far I feel fine, but I do know Dh doesn't really feel likes it's real until he sees it. We were having a bit of a disagreement on when to tell our family but he wants to wait until he sees it. I hope your Dh comes around quickly since you will need him, but I'm sure it just doesn't feel real to him yet.

So sorry.

Both before and after I miscarried when I was pregnant my dh was very supportive and always worried about me..... but I have chronic migrains so he's used to playing that role and he's always taking care of me. Having a baby in my belly just made it a way bigger deal, especially after the mc because then he was taking care of me and our lo.