If you have been together or married for 7 years or longer, have you felt the 7 year itch?
"The seven-year itch is a psychological term that suggests that happiness in a relationship declines after around year seven of a marriage." Per Wikipedia.
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We are celebrating 10 years in a few weeks and I really can't recall 7 feeling any different than any other year. Relationships always have their bumps and rough roads, I don't think a single year can define the difficulties of merging 2 lives into one for a lifetime.
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We're 13 years into our relationship, and 6 years into our marriage. At this exact moment we're a little burnt out from two demanding jobs, a sassy 3 year old, and a sleep hating infant. But still very happy. No itches to report over here.
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We'll be married for 9 years in September and together for 12. I didn't even notice the 7 year mark passed us! Our love for each other is very different than what it was when we first started dating or even after we got married, and we've been through the wringer and back. Because of that, I feel a much deeper bond with DH than at the beginning. Knowing that we made it through miscarriages, deaths, the births of our two sons, low times, and high times makes us appreciate each other all that much more.
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Nope. Married for almost 10 years and together for 13. I feel that each year gets better and better.
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Year 7 in our marriage was rough because we were adjusting to being parents. But I never felt like I was unhappy or needed to get out.
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A lady I knew awhile back was a big believer that people change every 7 years. For some reason that really resonated with me. It wasn't necessarily good or bad but that big transitions happen and with it comes emotional, mental, etc changes. http://dreamhawk.com/body-and-mind/every-seven-years-you-change/
DH and I both recently turned 35 and I can def feel that change. I feel like the last 7 years have been marriage, establishing a family, making big career choices.
Now I'm due our third and prob last baby in a few months, we're going to have some interesting career choices in the next few years, and we're going to transition out of the baby years. And I think it's something on both our minds more so recently for whatever reason, not an itch or dissatisfaction, just life has changed and we're figuring out what parts we need to go with the flow on and what parts we need to take the bull by the horn on. -
I was thinking about this recently because we will celebrate our 7 year wedding anniversary this year. I imagine next year will be tough with a new baby added to the family but right now we are pretty rock solid. We've had some tough times (death of a parent, miscarriages, and transitioning to parenthood) so this year feels easy by comparison.
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At 7 years we had a baby and DH had some job hiccups that were extremely stressful. Our overall happiness took a hit, but not with each other.
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Nope! I'd heard this too, but we're going on 7.5 years, and so far, so good. I'm really happy with where our relationship is at now!
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We've been together for 10 years and married for 6 years as of this October. Didn't really feel an itch 3 years ago, but maybe it was because we just had DS so we were busy trying to keep a baby alive!
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I'm in our 7th year of relationship, 5th of marriage. No itch here, do we need more romance, sure but with a 3 and 1 year old and 2 full time jobs, time is lacking. We try our best to focus on our relationship when we need it. Tonight is date night, we've been bickering which means we need some adult time. I can't wait for some one on one time.
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@Maysprout: interesting! Maybe we'll change for the better lol. I'm not loving how little time we have for each other, maybe that will improve when we hit seven years and the kids aren't toddlers/babies!
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We've been together for 8 years and I would say in the last year, we've had a lot of life changes and we have evolved a lot individually, but ultimately we both feel like it has brought us closer together. We are pretty young and I think we are growing up and growing together.
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Our 9 year wedding anniversary and 15 year dating anniversary are coming up next month, no 7 year anything for me. When we'd been together 7 years we'd been married for 1, and decided to try to have a baby. When we'd been married 7 years we had a 7 month old. I'm not sure what 7 years would have been like if I'd gotten pregnant right away, we learned a lot about each other and had a lot of experiences in those 5 years of infertility.
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14 years into my relationship and 9 into marriage, and no, not even a little. My marriage has gotten stronger and better over time, and we've both mature into people who really know what we want, really enjoy supporting each other in making that happen, and who really just enjoy each other. We have small children, so life is full of challenge - but it's very good.
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We had a 6 year itch?
We're on year 15 now, but things are better than ever. It had it's ups and downs because even at 6 - 8 years, we were working on a system of fair fighting. We met in high school, so not only were we developing as individuals, we had to figure out how to develop as a unit.
It was tough, but it definitely got better when both sides are running towards each other. =) Shared goals.
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We had a rough patch in our 7th year together due to finances mostly. It was a real low for us and thankfully our situation has changed 180 degrees so we've been able to work out a lot of stuff. But we definitely need to keep on it and be proactive about making each other a priority.
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Nope. Together over 9 years, married for 6, no itching. We've weathered harder times, but those were due to the struggles of becoming new parents, having colicky babies back to back, and me having Hyperemesis twice, and PPD twice. Those things were incredibly difficult on us, but never have we felt like we didn't belong together
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DH and I drive each other nuts. It has been 7 years of it, yet I know we are in both in it for the long haul and committed to even greater love for one another. I hope 7 years things will soften up and smooth out! I so want marriage to be perfect. But it is not. I don't think this year is different than others. Maybe more settled than before.
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