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Not really. And while we definitely didn't ignore the election or skip out on voting, politics aren't a huge deal to either one of us so it's easy to set aside the majority of our differences. Some still creep in here and there but nothing too major thus far.

Nope, we struggle when it comes to political conversations. He's Republican (although did not vote so in this presidential election) and I'm a very strong Democrat. We know we will never agree so we do our best to not get into debates.

We agree on pretty much everything. We each know more about certain issues we feel more passionately about but there hasn't been anything we disagree on. We definitely differ in other ways but not politically.

"Compatible," I'd say yes.

I'm not sure we always agree on politics, but when it comes to issues we really care about, we see eye to eye.

No one, not even him, knows which party I identify with. I work with the media and live in DC and like to have friends. So for the most part, I don't talk about any specific party or politician.

I'll talk issues and I sway to both sides for that, as does (I think) DH.

I would say we're mostly compatible because he doesn't pressure me to tell him who or what I voted for, but we can talk largely about issues and concerns and not end up angry with each other.

@travellingbee: Same for us. Love the way you put it and true for me as well: My political beliefs are fairly fundamental to who I am as a person.

Yes; we agree politically. I always got politics right out on the table early in dating anyone because it’s a deal breaker for me. While I theoretically could date/marry someone more economically conservative than I am, issues like being pro-choice (and increasing funding for sex-ed programs, and planned parenthood/health centers), increasing public school funding and support and expanding access to universal healthcare are morality issues for me and frankly, I don’t want to spend my life knowing in the back of my mind that my partner is voting to undermine things I hold most important. Even if they say they agree personally, if that isn’t how they vote then IMO they don’t really agree. “Politics” isn’t some separate thing – it’s intertwined in everything and impacts everyone.

I don’t think it’s different really from people who seek out to marry those of their same religion (or people who at least are religious over non-religious) or any other criteria that people deem important.

Compatible for sure but we are not the same. My views skew much further left than his do. He's a moderate bordering on conservative in terms of economics. We are both progressive on social issues. For the years that we have been together, we have voted the same, though.

No, he's a Republican and I'm a Democrat. We always vote opposite of each other, and things can get heated around election time

Definitely. I think it would be hard if we hugely differed.

I'm also someone who could not have had a serious relationship with someone who wasn't politically compatible to me, because my core values are tied into my political beliefs (and I work in policy, so also my professionalinterests are tied to politics). I don't even think I could have even made it work with someone who was politically apathetic because the issues are too important to me. I think there are a lot of issues that are also important that don't fit neatly into a Dem/Rep split, and if those issues are what's most important to someone I can see it working, but for me, what's most important (social safety net programs and minority/women's/immigrant rights/equality) is firmly in the Democrats' wheelhouse.

Mil actually told a story at our rehearsal dinner about how the first time dh told her about me, she was afraid to pry too much or ask much about me, so she asked dh if I had voted for Bush (we met in 2006). Dh was like "heck no! I'd never!" (he had worked on the Kerry campaign) and mil knew then it'd be a good match, lol....So yeah, dh feels the same way as I do, and it's good we found each other!

@yoursilverlining agree. it's more than a simple Dem/Repub thing; it's important core beliefs about the dignity of people and values I hold and I think if we disagreed, it would have been hard for us to end up together.

I think it used to be easier to have similar values and vote for different political parties. The last year or two, I think that is less and less the case. 20 years ago, I could have maybe dated a Republican. Not now.

Yes. Our views are not always the same - we are both left leaning liberals and usually vote Labour (I guess like your Democrat party), but he's a centrist (I guess like Hilary Clinton) and I'm harder left (more like a Bernice Sanders). Frequently our disagreements are not about ideologies but about what is realistic in the real world.

I agree with people who say they would struggle to be in a relationship with someone who's political ideologies are very different. I'm bisexual and I remember a friend of mine grilling me, saying "how can it not matter? How can gender not matter to you?" and my response was that gender it isn't as fundamental to who a person truly is as as their political persuasion is; her husband was often vocal about his belief that we shouldn't help people who he deems "don't help themsrlves", every man for himself etc, where she believes passionately we should- how can you have a meaningful relationship with someone who's ideals clash so fundamentally with yours?

Yes, we are politically compatible (I would say even more so now than when we met, as he used to claim to be fiscally conservative and now leans very far left on everything).

I could not be married to someone that did not agree with me, as I also feel like my political beliefs are a fundamental part of who I am. I for sure would not raise children with someone who didn't share the same beliefs as me. My morals are too important.