The first few years were a golden age phase for us, but then we spent maybe 3-4 years on the struggle bus. Things turned around recently though, and we're definitely back in another golden age!!
The first few years were a golden age phase for us, but then we spent maybe 3-4 years on the struggle bus. Things turned around recently though, and we're definitely back in another golden age!!
blogger / pomegranate / 3044 posts
100% on the struggle bus. Hoping when they turn 3 & 5 it will get better!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
Golden age! I haven't hit a rough patch yet. I'm sure it's coming...
wonderful cherry / 21504 posts
Ha we have been riding the struggle bus for a while now! It's part ages (baby is 6 months old and teething, toddler is almost 3 and just very toddler) but it's mostly because we have all gotten sick a lot recently. Hopefully we will reach a nice point again soon.
cantaloupe / 6171 posts
Golden with a few bits of "kill me!" Mixed in, lol! Lo is just over 2 and most of the time she's sweet and hilarious but the terrible twos do flare up when she doesn't get her way, mostly about screen time, getting dressed, and going to bed. Although I think it's maybe getting less extreme-- I've been solo parenting all week while dh travels and her fits have been surprisingly short...and I'm in my first tri too and exhausted so I'm shocked it hasn't been worse!
pear / 1718 posts
I second @nana87: -- I have a 16 month going on terrible twos, so we have some rough patches. Her personality is so lively, engaging and happy it's mostly golden though
honeydew / 7230 posts
I have two two year olds - so there is a lot of "just kill me" moments. But we also have some golden moments thrown in. Sometimes it changes hour by hour!
grapefruit / 4321 posts
Agree with @twodoghouse: that it changes by the hour. Sometimes I look around and wish I could freeze time because my children are so angelic and we are such a happy little family bursting with love. Then sometimes the baby is crying and spitting up pureed meat all over clothes I just put on and the 3 year old is acting like a beast and screaming at me to get her a snack and turn on peppa and my husband is working until God knows what time and I just want to curl up in a ball and cry.
nectarine / 2591 posts
This week has been Golden.... Last week I was really hoping for someone to shoot me
GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts
More just shoot me. Almost 4 is *hard*, but the 6 month old is golden.
nectarine / 2173 posts
My 15 mo old is a little hurricane, but it's good times. She runs, is talking more every day, still loves all kinds of food, and goes to bed early. She has some possessiveness but hasn't started tantrums yet. Also not yet dealing with potty training. No real complaints!
nectarine / 2964 posts
It wildly flip flops between two states now, but I have to say it is so much better than the JUST KILL ME NOW stage I was in when he was 3-4 years old. Gosh, that was HARD! Back then I was literally SCARED to go pick him up at school. Most days were terrible with him just throwing HUGE tantrums out of NOWHERE in the car, and just cry, say mean things, scream, and not listen. I had to literally stop by the road somewhere until he calm down before I am willing to continue to drive. That was ridiculous.
Now at 4.5 years old he is much more reasonable..... He still throw gigantic tantrums out of nowhere, but at least we can talk about it afterwards and he would often be able to explain to me why that happened. I hope I am not jinxing it.
Golden thing that happened today: We had a rule that if he folds and puts away all his clean laundry, he will earn $1. We showed him how to do it,but he is never willing to do it on his own. I don't know what happened, maybe we read a book learning about money yesterday (we borrowed from library), he just all of a sudden want to fold all the clean laundry today, all on his own. This never happened before, and he earned $1.
nectarine / 2765 posts
Hold up, a golden age exists?! In all seriousness, it changes by the minute. Two 2 year olds are exhausting and can be little terrors getting into everything and are non stop from the moment they get up. Then, a minute later they are so full of sweetness and are double heaven.
hostess / papaya / 10540 posts
Depends on that day, but for the most part I have a pass for the struggle bus.
honeydew / 7463 posts
Gosh, it really changes all the time.
But if I had to say more one than the other I'd say golden. He's 21 months and I cannot believe how much his language is exploding. I'm shocked several times a day by things he says. We can now ask him if he wants something and he can say yes or no. Or I can give him an option "do you want your milk or should I put it in the fridge" and I can see him thinking and he'll say "fridge". Or he can now ask for a snack or even a specific food, instead of just crying. Stuff like this that takes at least some of the guesswork out of parenting has been huge.
And even just that he says thanks all the time now helps. It might sound stupid but it feels good to know that he recognizes that I'm doing things for him and he's showing appreciation.
He's also a real ham now. I can tell he's trying to be funny and make me laugh.
So all of these moments of awesomeness are making up for the days here and there where he's a terror. I really would never have imagined Id enjoy parenting this much when he was a newborn. THAT was my "just shoot me" phase.
Don't get me wrong. Definitely moments of "just shoot me" every day. But it's usually just that - a moment.
pineapple / 12566 posts
We were in the golden age when my son was in his 3's and when my daughter was between 0-10 months. Then it got rough. Now it's mostly smooth, but I think it will be better when my daughter gets out of the terrible twos. Although, I'm extremely leery about the threenager phase with her.
persimmon / 1467 posts
I think it is a little bit of both. Eaten the newborn refuses to be put down all day and the toddler is testing every boundary and forgets he was over potty trained, then I out. But when they are being cute together or actually sleeping, then it is fun.
honeydew / 7504 posts
Hust shoot me. The Threenager is so hard, and the 4mo isn't the happiest baby.
nectarine / 2878 posts
Golden phase right now. DS1 is 3 (almost 4), DS2 is 2. It all got better once DS2 could communicate better, before then, it was very frustrating.
grapefruit / 4988 posts
I guess golden. Life isn't perfect but she's pretty easy, aside from some whining. She's 2.75 and I'd say things have been alot easier since she could really communicate with us, so maybe 6 months.
pomegranate / 3863 posts
Golden! My 3.5 year old is mostly a dream. He does struggle with listening sometimes but he is very quick to correct his behavior. We struggled for a long time with frustration stemming from a speech delay so now that he can communicate with us it is SO much better! It also helps that he wants to be independent, so he can do a lot more tasks on his own,.
coconut / 8861 posts
Struggle city with an almost 4 year old. He's a better lawyer than my brother, SIL, and dad combined. Man, he can wheel and deal with boundaries. Giving him limited options, following up on consequences, and saying that Daddy backs me up helps a fair amount of it. Poor kid just needs a lot of sleep, but won't fall asleep until 9-9:30pm most nights.
With our one year old, it's a golden phase. He's fun, learning to pull up and walk, and getting more verbal. He's so much more laid back than his brother was at this age though he gets needy when he's tired. On the whole, he's been an easy baby.
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
DD is 18 mo and honestly it's not bad at all; maybe because her tantrums aren't full fledged yet? She really doesn't tantrum much, can communicate with us so sleeping/eating issues are not difficult to deal with. The only reason I wouldn't say this is a golden age is b/c I'm currently pregnant so I physically just can't really handle as much.
honeydew / 7622 posts
So far nothing that feels unmanageable at 15 months. Not quite the golden age but everyone is happy overall.
persimmon / 1322 posts
My daughter is almost 10 months and we're in a relative golden age. It's still hard of course, and there are still days where I just want to curl up in a ball. But for the most part, I'm loving this phase. 6 to 7.5 months, when she was getting her first teeth, learning to crawl, starting to pull up, not quite babbling yet, and just generally frustrated with what she couldn't do has been the absolute hardest for us.
eggplant / 11861 posts
DD is 18 months and very easy IMO, she can talk very well so can tell us what she wants/needs!
I'm currently 25 weeks with DS so I have a feeling adjusting to 2 under 2 will be much harder, but I'm excited!!
watermelon / 14467 posts
Hanging out on the struggle bus. I'm pregnant and my tolerance for bs/tantrums is extremely low.
kiwi / 556 posts
Golden! DD will be 2 in September and is so much fun and absolutely hilarious!
persimmon / 1445 posts
Struggle bus for us.... Being pregnant with a super smart/ stubborn toddler is tough. However, DD is extremely funny and can be really sweet- this would be a more fun stage with her if I had a higher threshold for her ridiculous attitude.
papaya / 10570 posts
We are in a golden age right now. E is just coming up to three and so that brings a few new challenges, but she's mostly brilliant. S isn't yet three months and is still waking in the night, but she's super chill and completely portable. E no longer takes naps and S can still nap on the go, so our days are our own.
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