We are having our first boy. My husband and I cannot agree on a name. We are at opposite ends completely.
My husband wants to name the child after him (as a Jr.). He says he wishes he would have been named after his dad as a Jr. and have the honor that goes along with it. He had thrown out an alternate name that he does like (which is DH's middle name/his dad's first name), but now says he'll be forever hurt if we don't name the baby boy as a Jr.
I have always said I could never imagine having a child with the same name as my husband (Jr., II, III, etc.). I want the child to have it's own identity and no expectations hovering over him. I also have heard of many mix-ups, etc. that can occur when family members share same names, Jrs., etc. I expressed that I would always look at our child and wish he was named something else if we named him a Jr. There is no nickname that would work that I like as I hate "little xx", "Name-ey", "JR" or "Junior" for nicknames.
There is no tradition on either side of our families with handing down names.
I don't know how we can decide on a name. I feel like I have to give in as I would never want to permanently hurt my husbands feelings, but I don't think that I could get over my hurt feelings either. This is our last child. There were tears (on my end - hormones) this weekend when we tried to continue discussing it.
Help, any ideas or suggestions?