Hellobee Boards

I'm a SAHM and my husband works. I've always done overnights but mostly because I was breastfeeding then I was just used to it. But he gets up with her in the morning and lets me sleep in until he has to go to work. It works for us.

I work & DH stays home...we're pretty split based on how tired the other is, if one of us wakes up first, etc. It works well, with no score keeping, etc. Yes, I have to be up early for work but he's also had a long day watching two one year olds which is another full time job in itself.

Yes and no. I try to do the majority of night wakings for both boys since I'm on mat leave, but some nights mama just needs more than 2-3 hours of consecutive sleep, yanno? Some nights it's like playing Jack-in-the-box between the two of them.

I always make sure he knows this before we go to bed though.

No. For most the year or so, motn wake up meant nursing, so yes I handled almost all of them. But now we go back and forth depending on what's happening the next day and home tired we are, but just going for a regular day or work is not enough. I SAH and I do take a lot more motn wake ups, but not all. Staying home with a toddler is just as tiring.

Only when DH worked at 6am during my maternity leave. We didn't get regular wakeups after 8 & 6 weeks so it was never a big deal. LO 2 had a few rough weeks of bad sleep at 11ish months and we took turns.

Apparently I am the mean SAHM who makes her husband get up too! Jk. LO is still in our room so he wakes both of us up. Then I nurse and diaper and do whatever. Then I wake DH to swaddle him and we all go back to sleep.

That's what he gets for being a better swaddled than me!

I don't feel bad though. When I worked PT, it was way harder for me to be at home after a bad night sleep than at the office. And DH takes way more naps on the weekend than I do so I think he is surviving. I don't know. For me, WOH and SAH are both hard work. But SAH is so physical - I feel like I am constantly carrying at least one kid around. I need my rest too!

We both WOH. I generally do night time duty since I nurse and it usually puts baby back to sleep. If it doesn't, I hold out as long as I can before waking DH and having him take over.

For now, yes. When he was on intermittent leave (and worked from home) then he helped more at night. But for now, beyond the occasional put-the-dropped-paci in, it's all me. I'm only working very part-time and he's the main breadwinner, so I feel it is fair this way-he needs to be "on" 10-12 working hours a day at least, so he needs sleep! It's important to note that this is 100% my choice, though! He helps on weekends...and I reserve the right to cry "uncle" at any point and ask for help!

Umm, no!!!! If we played by this rule, nobody would get up for the baby 5 nights a week!! When I was on maternity leave for 7 months, I handled all the night wake-ups because it seemed wrong to ask DH to get up when he had work the next day. I think if we ever have another one, though, I'm going to ask for more support for night wake ups because being home with a child is work too!

Well we both work, but even back when I was on maternity leave, the answer was no. Right now, I'm pregnant again and super super sick so we both work, but at home DH is doing 90%of all the parenting, night wakeups, cleaning etc. So I guess only pregnant sickos get a pass in our house.

We both WOH, but I do all the night wake-ups since nursing is the best and quickest way to get LO back to sleep. But the tradeoff is that DH does all the cooking and cleaning during the day so I can go to bed earlier and generally relax when not on baby duty. It is an odd spit, but it works for us because my husband can't tolerate not getting his sleep and I hate chores!

With DS#1 I would try to not wake him if he had to work in the morning, but it certainly wasn't a rule because sometimes on terrible nights you just need the help. Now that we have two under two, hell no, this doesn't happen. I'll be up just as early and working just as hard as him, it's not like when there's just one and you get down time when they nap.

DH gets up too! I am a WAHM (part time for my dads company) but full time toddler wrangler and nursing an almost toddler momma. My job is just as important as his. We share the kid duties day (when he is off) and night.

Yes… I think looking after a baby all day is just as tough as most jobs, but my DH drives 2 hours each way to and from work so I never felt comfortable with him being sleep deprived for the drive.

HAHAHAHAHAHA no.

Since I nurse (and sah) I do night wakeups unless it's a really awful night and I am at my wits end- which typically means she is screaming so it's not like he's sleeping anyway. On days he is off he usually plays with her for her for her one hour wakeup in the morning and then he goes back to bed with her.

Not surprised I am an outlier, but yes, when I was at home and my husband was working out of the home, I dealt with all of the night wakings because I could nap during the day and I didn't want my husband to be an a situation where he got into an accident while driving because he fell asleep at the wheel.

During maternity leave, she was still in our room, so he helped til like 2/3 and then went to the guest room to get a solid 4/5 hours. But once we were both at work, we both helped. I mostly got up since the boobs were the quickest way to get her back to sleep.

It depends, when I'm on maternity leave, my "job" is to take care of our newborn, that is why I'm off of work. So I take the majority of the night wakeups/feedings/ect. However, if I'm needed a break DH would step in and take a night so I could sleep in. Weekends it's on him, that's my time to catch up on sleep and he gets to do middle of the night duty.

When I go back to work we have a system that it is every other night (no matter if baby wakes up or not) so one person is always getting a full night sleep (ideally.) If you get lucky and baby SSTN on your night then you get off the hook!

As a stay at home mom I used to try to handle MOTN by myself, that is, until I realized I worked
all day too.