Our next LO will likely be our last and part of me wants to be TG. I'm afraid I'll regret not having that experience of being surprised!
If you were never TG, do you regret it?
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No. Way. I would go crazy not knowing.
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I was never Team Green and definitely don't regret it. I knew I had a gender preference, so anything disappointment I might experience, I wanted to get out of the way well before my child was born. I ended up having two boys, so I'm glad I was mentally able to prepare myself before my last was born.
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I think most people never consider being Team Green. But if you have an inclination, then go for it! I'm TG and I have yet to encounter a negative consequence.
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nope
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Tried with LO1 and the tech slipped up, that was a bummer. Found out with #2 and wish we would have been TG.
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I feel like DH and I connect more with the baby knowing it's gender. We go from calling the baby "baby" to Baby (gender) or his/her name. Plus, we'd go crazy not knowing!
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You will still be surprised, just half ways through pregnancy, instead of at the end.
For me finding out was a 'reward' for making it through the 1st trimester. Getting a baby at the end is great enough on its own, already knowing the sex didn't diminish that one bit.
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No, I didn't regret it at all. I wanted to know as much about my baby as soon as I could! I'm impatient, lol. But I mostly purchased gender neutral gear and such anyway, just because that's my personal preference (though somehow at 18 months LO has a lot of pink that's crept in...)
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No regrets!
Love having that mid point surprise to look forward to. -
TG is not for me. Too much pressure.
I wanted to see what was on the ultrasound screens (I had a lot because of PIH & pre-e).I've also had multiple TG friends where their doctors or a tech spilled the beans late in the game and were really sad they didn't get the "delivery room surprise".
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We were team green both times and it was the best experience! I couldn't imagine finding out sooner.
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No, it's still a surprise whenever you find out!
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I found out for both of mine, I couldn't wait! I have one of each, but if we were to have a 3rd (which we aren't), I might consider being TG since I have zero preference.
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Nope, we have no interest in not finding out till birth.
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@lamariniere: I have zero gender preference this go round. With our first, we both really wanted a boy but obviously still would've been thrilled either way. This time, we both honestly don't care either way. We would love another boy so our son would have a brother but would also love a girl and getting the chance to have one of each and for our son to have a sister, so either way we will be happy and a little sad. That's why I'm so inclined to be TG this time lol
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I love knowing what I'm having.
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I wanted to be TG with #1 but we ended up finding out at 30 weeks when DH admitted he knew we were having a boy based on the US - wrong. Even though it wasn't my plan to know I wouldn't change how things worked out. We found out for #2.
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Yes! We meant to be TG with my first but had a ton of ultrasounds at the end and one doctor kept saying "he" despite the fact we didn't want to know and then had the screen shot of his goods while measuring fluid. I was so mad to find out that way and so close to the birth too!
We assumed I would have a similar experience second time around so we found out early. From the moment we found out I wished we had waited. If we have another we will definitely be TG.
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We were TG and it was a lot easier than you'd think. (Except the ignorant things people say to you regarding it.) It was so awesome!
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Not really. We were TG with our first and it was really exciting and the imagining and guessing and anticipation leading up to hearing "It's a boy! Honeybee we have a SON!" (the best, clearest part of my L&D) was awesome, and I don't regret it even a little bit.
But I am glad we found out with this one. I think (I hope) it's made it easier for our toddler to think about having a sibling when I call her "baby sister" because he has classmates at school that have baby sisters and brothers. Plus, it'll be the first girl for D's family in 78 years, so everyone is having fun shopping for her.
That said...knowing that she IS a girl, I do wish a little bit that we could have had that shock of "It's a girl!" in the delivery room, but I would still make the same choice again
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We found out at 18 weeks at our anatomy scan. We invited both moms and it was really special. I had extra ultrasounds so it might have been harder to be TG in that situation anyway. It made naming easier (I had zero girl ideas!) and it was fun to shop for boy stuff before he came.
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No regrets! I will find out with the next one as well.
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We were TG for our first and I loved it. There was no big announcement in the delivery room- frankly dh and I both forgot to check until the nurse reminded us, but it was great to find out when we actually had her in our arms.
This time, I had already promised dh that we could find out, since he had wanted to the first time. Plus I really wanted to find out, and he had a preference. So far no regrets on finding out, and it's given him time to process the idea of two daughters, plus makes the name conversation a lot easier.
I am really happy to have experienced both, but I do think TG once is pretty awesome.
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We found out and were able to name her at 20 weeks. When she was born it was like we already knew her! Definitely going to do the same this time.
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TG and loved it! I never regretted it.
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We found out with DS 1 at our 20 week ultrasound and I wasn't a bit surprised he was a boy. We were
for our second and after that experiance we want to find out for our (hopefully) third child. I didn't feel as connected to the second baby as I did with my first. Calling it (or shim. Lol our little nic-name for him) and not knowing the name really prevented me from enjoying it. I don't know, maybe I'm weird.
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I initially read the post thinking TG = transgender. I was so confused!
I loved knowing - I think it helped me connect with her more.
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@SugarplumsMom: OMG ME TOO
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I worry about this too. I loved knowing H was a girl and I felt so connected to her. I'm afraid I wouldn't feel the same with potential baby #2, but I also think I'd like to have the TG experience.
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Nope nope nope. I needed a carrot of something happy half way through pregnancy to keep my spirits up lol.
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@lovehoneybee: We found out this time for the same reasons. I just needed to be prepared for what life was going to be like with 2.
I was TG with my first and we found out for the second. I voted "sort of" because I think it definitely helped me bond with her sooner than I did with DD1, but maybe that was just the shock of being a mom and having a baby and all of the anxiety that comes with it. i will say that despite the connection, I was a little bummed to not have the same anticipation, beautiful mystery, and shock and joy when she came out. If we get pregnant and give birth to a third child, we'll be team green for sure. -
I haven't regretted finding out at all, as others have said its a nice half way surprise and also I like organising so it was great to get things ready!
In saying that, we have a 2y old boy and I am 4 weeks away from my due date with a girl. If we do decide to go for #3 I would be temped to go tg
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Having a baby comes with enough surprises!
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Yes and trying so hard to convince my so that this time we should wait
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Noooo. But TG does not sound like fun to me.
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I loved being TG! At first I wanted to find out, but DH didn't, so I ended up going with what he wanted and I'm super happy I did! Only annoying thing was people asking what i was having and then acting like I had 2 heads when I said we weren't finding out. (I started to answer with "a baby. I am having a baby") If we are blessed with a second, I'm going to be TG again
ETA - I felt in my heart I was carrying a girl even though everyone said I was having a boy (so many experts out there) It was fun finding out that my gut was right
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With #1, I don't regret finding out.
With #2, while pregnant I didn't regret finding out, and loved knowing we were having a girl. but now knowing we are more than likely done i do sort of regret not being team green. I would have loved that experience. If by some chance we do end up with a 3rd, we will 100% be team green.
for our second and after that experiance we want to find out for our (hopefully) third child. I didn't feel as connected to the second baby as I did with my first. Calling it (or shim. Lol our little nic-name for him) and not knowing the name really prevented me from enjoying it. I don't know, maybe I'm weird.
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