My MIL kind of makes a big deal about feeling badly about LO's allergies and doesn't want to eat things with dairy in them in front of him. And if she does, and he wants a bite, she tells him "no it's icky, you wouldn't like it."

It drives me crazy. I always correct her and say "no, you cannot have it. It has dairy (or nuts) in it. It's Grandma food; it's not safe for you to eat."

He doesn't fuss about it. But I need him to learn early on that when I say he can't eat something, he can't eat it. And that there are just things in the world that are not fair game.

Anyone else have this problem?