Hellobee Boards

It depends on who it is, but predominately I hate having people over in general. I am not a fantastic housekeeper, like it's not a wreck, but there is constant disarray and clutter and when I have people over I become hyper-aware of everything that isn't just so. It stresses me the hell out. I work full time, my husband works full time (seconds as LEO) and we have a 2 year old... So if we have time together and awake, I usually don't like to add anyone to the house.

It's not even that I'm antisocial, I love meeting up with people, or going to our friends that love to host... Just don't make me do it at my house please.

Yes, I love it. I have house guests 1-2 weekends a month.

Yes, I love it. I love cooking and really don't mind the cleaning before/after. If cooking/cleaning are not satisfying to you though, I can totally see how burdensome it would be.

I hate cooking so I hate hosting. Only my mom has stayed over bc she cooks for me

If I had houseguests that refused to take off their shoes, I would ask them to leave. We’re a no shoe indoor family (Asian) and that’s just rude to not follow house rules.

I love having guests over. My husband is a SAHD, so he does most of the extra work. We are close to our families, and both our families live out of town. I find it much easier for them to visit us than for us to travel and stay at their non-baby proofed houses and figure out naps. We bought a big house to make it easier for guests to visit. Probably more than a week is too much for me, except my MIL, who is the easiest house guest ever. She cooks, cleans, babysits and retreats to the guest room so DH and I still have some privacy. I am an introvert, but it is important to me to maintain relationship with family (parents and siblings).

Not at all. I don't like my routine messed with and I don't like feeling uncomfortable in my own home.

I'm an introvert, though, so maybe that has something to do with it.

I love it, and I don't mind it when my inlaws stay because they're doers. For the 10 days a year when they are over, I know that my MIL will do her own laundry, won't make a mess and will even cook dinner! I am sad when they leave!

I like having people over, but not over night - I want them to go home so I can relax on the couch and talk about them.

Let me amend this to, I don't mind if it's a sister or one of my close friends that I lived with while single, my parents... They're all fine because they don't expect full service. The people I do mind might not expect full service but I also feel like I need to cater to them because they aren't regular guests. Like I love my husband's grandma, they come for 3-4 days at a time because they live so far away, they don't expect me to bend over backwards for them... But when we go to them they cook 3 meals a day, they set the table with cloth napkins 3 times a day. It's totally her thing, she loves to entertain and have people over and I just feel like I have to have the same caliber of hosting for when they come to me. Even though she has told me that she knows she's retired and I work full time along with being on the HOA board, and work with a charity; she knows I'm busy. But I still feel like I need to do everything perfectly when she visits...

TL;DR I'm neurotic

I would prefer not to have overnight guests but we live far away from all our family so that’s the only way we get to s e them usually. Occasionally my ILs drive their trailer out and sleep at a campground 20 min away. I find that just as annoying as staying over since they do everything but sleep at our place and stay 7am - 9pm.

I do as long as I know when they will be coming and going and have a general agenda. I think it’s fun to share a space and hang out (assuming everyone gets along) and I feel like I always learn things from our guests. Usually the people who visit us are low key and hp out with at least something whether it’s cooking, cleaning or home maintenance. I think it could be tough if guests stay too long or for an undefined time period and don’t pitch in (or are just annoying!). Thankfully that’s not our situation at least for now.

Before kids, I loved having people over. After having kids and experiencing how hard it is to get kid-less guests with the program in our home, I don’t prefer it. My parents and brother have a hard time remembering to be quieter when kids are sleeping, keeping phones and iPads away, eating at our usual times, etc.

@erinbaderin: This made me laugh out loud!@Mrsbells: I do love it but I’m a true extrovert and love sitting around with a glass of wine talking with people - if I can do that in my own home, all the better! We designed and built a townhouse last year specifically to have a gues suite for out of town family and friends.

I only like my parents staying. That said, we have most of our families stay at our apt at one point or another (our small, cramped apartment)
My mom gets me and she understands my cleaning style and helps unasked
My mother in law thinks she helps and thinks she is a domestic goddess but really she half asses it. Just throws shit in the dishwasher, crystal next to dinnerware and shocking, things break. Uses dirty rags to dry dishes. She folded a load of very very damp laundry and then when I threw it back in the dryer, she legit cried. She always asks to help with things, I explain how it do it, she does it differently so I have to redo it
Sorry that was way off topic

We also live in an apartment with neighbors below and everyone who comes to visit with kids thinks it’s ok to play basketball or drum on the floor or do jumping jacks as their morning workout (even with gentle reminders. Kids and adults. 🤦‍♀️)

I like hosting during the day, and even hosting parties.

I can think of a handful of close friends that I would be ok with hosting overnight for 1-2 nights max. Otherwise HELL NO.

We live in a 3bdrm 2ba 1500sf apartment with only one common area (open plan living room + kitchen). There is nowhere to hide from house guests. (There isn't even anywhere to hide from my son or husband, haha!). So, anyone who I don't know intimately well, to the point where I don't feel like I need to be "on" around them, stresses me out as an overnight guest.---

We've had two experiences where friends of my husband stayed with us. I was miserable (for different reasons each time). Neither is invited back for an overnight stay (and both have solicited invitations).

I feel even more strongly about this now that I am nearing the end of my twin pregnancy. We will have two adults, three children and two cats. That is 300sf per human, and 215sf per creature if you count all seven of us.

@Foodnerd81: Our parents all live 45 mins away (in opposite directions). Both last time and this time they are invited to visit in the hospital once everyone is bonded and stable post delivery. But they are not invited to visit us at home for the first few weeks. I want time for us to settle in as a newly expanded family, and I also need the freedom to learn how to breastfeed without being sequestered in my bedroom. Especially with twins! That goes for both sides of the family, not just my in-laws. It will make zero difference to the babies at that age. They can bond with their grandparents a little later.

I don't mind, but it doesn't happen very often - maybe once every other year. (Though it might be more in the future now that my inlaws are retired and we're having a baby). BUT I've also never had an issue with (I'm sorry to say) rude guests that cannot follow simple house rules. Our shoes come off at the door, I don't care which one we come in, shoes come off. We eat in the living room, but people have always asked if it's ok to take food outside normal food areas (kitchen/dining room) or asked where we/they should eat. I'm not too worried about having enough or the right food, it's "just family" so that level of formality doesn't concern me... there's always the option to go get more food or take them grocery shopping.

@Mrsbells: I agree completely - daytime house guests and parties and playdates, I'm all about. It just is the never ending weeks of my in laws who wear shoes in my house and leave used tea bags sitting on my white kitchen counters that make me want to move back into our 2 bed 1 bath with no space for guests. And like @Foodnerd81: my 3 year old is awesome about telling people the rules of the house. But we are 3 weeks out from another week long visit and I'm bracing myself. UGH.