For those who've experienced a loss...did you do anything particular on your EDD?
Mine is coming up within the week and thankfully DH was able to get off work. But we only have the one day.
I want to do something to get out of the house and be occupied, but haven't figured out what that should be.
Anyone care to share what worked (or maybe even didn't work) for them?
nectarine / 2834 posts
This is probably not the healthiest way to cope but I have 2 due dates coming up, and I plan I pretend that it's
An ordinary day and just acknowledge my strength and hope for the future rather than what could have been. And then probably cry myself to sleep!
pomelo / 5607 posts
Honestly, I haven't done anything special for mine. Part of me feels like I should have, especially for my latest, since it was more of a stillbirth than m/c, but it's too hard for me. It's easier to just ignore it, other than to give myself a little extra grace if I'm feeling down. I think in the future I may take the time to acknowledge them better, once it's not so hard.
pomelo / 5129 posts
I was on the fence on taking the day off. I worked through most of my MC (it was natural) because otherwise I would have sat at home in a depressed puddle.
But I work with some rather insensitive people (who don't know about the MC...but I could see them saying something stupid and me totally going off on them) so I figured for their sake I'd take the day off!
cantaloupe / 6634 posts
@MaryM: I would go to the ocean, get a pedicure, finally try that really expensive restaurant you have been meaning to. My first EDD is December 31st but because it was such an early loss (4 weeks,) my March 5th loss (11 weeks) will be much harder.
cantaloupe / 6634 posts
@Tidybee: This is my plan probably. I dearly hope I am KU with a "sticky" baby by then but who knows...
pomelo / 5129 posts
Pedicures aren't a bad idea. I think the last time DH and I went together was probably close to 5 years ago.
nectarine / 2317 posts
@MaryM: my first due date would have been today, which is actually DH birthday so we're busy celebrating that. Our second due date is in early nov, loss at 9w with twins. I'm now almost 9w again due in april. It's really helping me not think about the previous due dates. but i'm not sure i'd do anything special probably just drink a lot of wine 
I do find myself occasionally thinking about where we could have been right now (ie that's what my bump would have been or we'd be getting ready for birth) but it doesn't happen too often.
pomelo / 5228 posts
My losses were both very early, so I was lucky enough to not be able to remember an exact date. But when the first came and went without a healthy pregnancy, it was rough. Luckily I was pregnant and doing well by the second due date.
Hugs to you, do what feels right, even if that means ignoring it.
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