Hellobee Boards

We have the same problem, only at the beginning of the night. We spend two hours getting her to stay in bed every. Single. Night. We're going to start cutting her nap short and moving bedtime a bit earlier. I don't know if that would help in the middle of the night, but maybe it's worth a shot?

Bumping to see if anyone else has suggestions to keep their toddler in bed. We've been battling to keep my son in bed for the past few weeks. It can take nearly 2 hours and 8 attempts before he stays put and falls asleep. I'm over it.

Damn, just wrote a long reply and my phone ate it. My short response: baby gate.

We have a gate at our 2.5 year old's door, which has helped a lot. Also, as terrible as it sounds, could you possibly try putting her down before your husband arrives or could he be home earlier? My husband is usually home to do the whole nighttime routine, but on the days when he's a bit late my daughter also gets way worked up about seeing him and it takes sooo long to get her to settle down.

@daniellemybelle: At his door, but he never gets out of his bed either.

@luckypenny: oh my - I missed this post when I posted my own desperation with DD's bed issues. We are actually getting a lot better. I have no idea if the child psychologists would support our interventions, but everyone is sleeping more and is therefore much happier.
We started a reward system for staying in bed until it was morning or her nap is over. She gets to pick a stamp and a color from the ink pad to put on her hand. At the grocery store, I let her pick out fruit snacks each week, and after her nap, she gets a pack of fruit snacks. This has actually helped phenomenally. Today I told her, no nap, no doc mcstuffins fruit snacks, and she laid down immediately.
She also wanted us to sleep in bed with her at bedtime and in the middle of the night, she still wants us to lay with her when she wakes. What has worked for us was to acknowledge and validate her but then make up an excuse. Something like, it's so fun to cuddle together, but I have to go feed the dog, talk to daddy, get a shower. We've been doing that for about 2 weeks, and she never ever gives us a fight. At the beginning, she'd stay awake and after about 20-30 minutes, she'd call for us, and we'd sit with her for a few minutes and then give her another reason we had to leave. I have no idea if it will continue to go as smoothly, but so far, it's working!

@luckypenny: Did you read about the positive reinforcement I added later? Maybe that'd help?

Also, are your daycare teachers nice and knowledgeable and willing to help? We were fortunate to have a super great teacher who was willing to help, and she helped us talked my son's ear off on a potty issue (ie not willing to use a public bathroom), and it turned a major corner. And we were desperate at that point I was going to take him to our pediatrician to try to have more "professional/respectable" people talk to him. So, maybe can you see if your teacher would be willing to help you out to explain to her that big girls stay in their bed to go to sleep and do not get up? And email your pediatrician for any suggestion because this is a behavioral issue ? For us the talking to him via various respectable people + positive reinforcement really worked.

ETA: I also wonder if the infant cry may upset your toddler too in a way.... I would be if I had to share a room with a young infant.... ? Just a guess

I really hope it turn the corner for you very soon !!

I was going to suggest moving the baby into a bathroom or closet with white noise, too. And a white noise in your daughter's room. You can also put a door knob child thing on so she can't open it. Sounds like girlfriend wants attention. I'm sorry can your older daughter go back in a crib?