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@anonysquire: I wouldn't spend that kind of money on a bag. I'd put the money into a college fund or savings account instead.

As far as sentimental items go, my husband bought her a pandora bracelet for her first Christmas. She was 6 weeks old. He gets her a charm for her birthday and for Christmas and will give her the whole bracelet when she's much older. He gets her charms based on her favorite things or milestones -- so far she's got an Xmas tree (for her first Xmas) and a puppy dog (she loves dogs) and other meaningful charms.

@anonysquire: I get the memories but honestly I would never spend the money on something that expensive that she could destroy when she is 4. So if you keep it locked up and do to let her use it then how is that creating memories.
But at the end of the day if you can afford it and want to no one is stopping you. Just pray that she will like those bags one day!

@chopsuey: How much does that bag cost??

I wouldn't buy it, personally. But that's me. I don't judge you at all for spending your money however you'd like. I don't think you really need to take anyone's opinion (aside from your husbands if you have shared finances) into consideration.

Snark sites aside....you have to know that most people are going to "wut the wut?!?!" about buying a LV bag for a baby. I mean, that seems like something a goofy celeb would do

Bottom line is it's your money to spend however you like. I personally think it's odd, just like I think the obsession some people seem to have with buying designer clothes for a baby is odd (amongst other things). Who cares though what I think. If you are getting resistance from the person you have to share a budget with (aka your hubby), then I would put weight into his opinion; but I'm also a big fan of spending the money YOU work for however you like.

I would just make sure to only ever buy washable markers and crayons, because a toddler with access to a LV sounds like an expensively messy proposition.

That's a really expensive bag! She won't even be able to use it for years, and most kids prefer brighter colors so it probably won't even be her taste for a really long time. I'd wait until she is older. Imagine a special shopping trip with her when she's 4 or 5, where you guys can get mani pedis together, and pick out a bag. That would be a lot more fun than right now. maybe start a tradition where every 5 years she can pick out a new one? I'd maybe start her on less pricey bags first though since she needs to learn how to care for them first.

@anonysquire: haha, girl, it's your money. If you want to buy her a crazy expensive purse, and you can do so without hardship, then buy the darn purse. Would I do it? No, but I'm spending an insane amount of money on a trip to Disney World for my 9 month old, so I really can't talk

@MamaMoose: That is an excellent point. Time is worth so much more to any child than things.

@MamaMoose: excellent point!

@MamaMoose: I don't think she's talking like 80 hour work weeks...I think she works part time for family, so I doubt it will mean spending significant extra time away from her Lo!

I honestly don't see a difference between this and any other "heirloom" gift like a Tiffany rattle, gold bracelet, etc--other than the price. And since we don't know her financial situation I would hesitate to say that it's not a good idea for her to spend that money.

@anonysquire: bottom line, do what you want and don't worry about what other ppl will think.

I don't know why you need everyone's opinion? It's your money. If you want to spend that on a purse for a baby, that's okay, you can do that. Personally, I wouldn't. If I wanted matching bags, I'd look for something else. My mom and I have the same tastes, but I have two sisters that hate everything my mom gets them. You never know what she is going to like.

@hilsy85: to be fair, she specifically posted on here asking for opinions.

to answer the original questions
how much is too much for you to spend on a gift for your child?
it depends on the gift. I will be much more willing to spend more $ when he is old enough to articulate wants.

And would you ever buy your child a designer item?
Absolutely not. I would spend more for something ethically sourced and/or handmade, but I don't put much value in designer items in general and will consciously avoid instilling any admiration for trendy brand names in my kids. But everyone has their "thing" which I acknowledge.

The other details you posted in response to others make it sound like you want the purse yourself - which is great if she doesn't like it, but honestly it sounds like you're setting yourself up for disappointment if she doesn't like it. And then she'll feel guilty for not liking it. Are you going to let her play with it as a toddler? I'm not sure how heirloom gifts work. The ones that are 'classic' make more sense to me, I guess. I would feel incredibly guilty if my Mom spent a ton of $ on a purse and gave it to me and I didn't like it - earrings or a necklace I could stick in a drawer, a purse is a bigger obligation.

I probably wouldn't but you should buy it if you want the bag for Z! I can't wait to see pics!

A friend gave me a fake mini LV years ago and my LO "uses" it everyday around the house. I think she has a felt tomato inside her bag right now!

Honestly... I think it's not even Easter yet and that's a good long time to change your mind about what you want to get her for Christmas.

But to answer your question, no. I would not purchase designer things for a baby. I think Id rather send her to college than give her a LV bag. Put that money in a savings account and let her buy her own purse when she's older. It would make a great gift for something like a 16th birthday.

Its not for me, personally, but if you like it and you really want to get it for her, DO IT! And while you're at it, pick one up for me please? lol

I am admittedly cheap. A vast majority of everything she has been given/owns was either purchased on sale with coupons (Thank you Fisher Price for screwing up your coupons at Christmas!) or bought from a consignment sale. I seriously adore those. I am not against spending some money on her, it just all adds up over time and while we aren't poor, I live like I am. lol. I hate buying anything new or full price if I don't have to and while I would LOVE to buy designer stuff, I just think about everything else I could buy with that money and feel guilty.

Again, not saying it is wrong or stupid, it just isn't me. Like I said before, if it is something you REALLY want to get for her, screw the snark and get it!

I wouldn't do it. Whenever I see little girls gussied up like grown women, I think, "What's the rush?" It's the hippie in me, I suppose. I also don't give a hoot about designer anything. And I think another question to consider is whether buying a designer purse for an infant is good stewardship of money,

@anonysquire: My only concern would be your DD ruining the bag. My 3 yr old LOVES purses and has tons of them - she also sticks markers w/o the lid in them...... fills them with goldfish crackers..... found the scissors and cut it........spilled milk on/in it

Its fine because the bags were super cheap but if she ruined a designer bag - ouch!!!

If its just for pictures of mommy and me with the same bag - that's all good - but I wouldn't allow her use it as a "play" item

Not my thing personally, but we have gifted our daughter things that others don't agree with as well. Such as diamond earrings (of which one has already been lost). I also let my toddler play with one of my small coach purses. It was my wedding handbag that I purchased at an outlet for about $30 and will likely never use again.

I would love to do a pandora bracelet or an add-a-pearl necklace like I've seen mentioned. But jewelry is more my thing than LV purses. LO loves to look at my charm bracelet.