I've heard it a few times in the past week 
I don't think I spoil her.. but I have been holding her more this week because she's been sick (she's only 5 months old)
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Not to my face. I'm sure people say it behind my back because we do hold/carry/wear her so much.
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No but she's only 3.5 mo. I don't even know how you would spoil a 5mo though? At that point they sort of just need what they need I feel like..
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No, but I've heard the opposite.
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Yes, all the time!
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@.twist.:
I guess we can't make anyone happy? @autumnlove: really??
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My MIL told me he was spoiled at 3 months because we pick him up when he cries. Lame.
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All the time.
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@BabyBoecksMom: toys, books, holding, doing crafts, reading, etc!
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@BabyBoecksMom: @autumnlove: I had to get some things for J's room at Target the other night - a fun lamp, another fun wall light, kids ottoman and because he was really good, a toy car (small, like $4) and the cashier said "wow is it your birthday?? spoiled!"
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I get it sort of half jokingly from my mom on occasions where we miss out on things due to his bedtime. But sorry, that bedtime is golden to me.
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@.twist.: me too. I get "why don't you let her watch tv/play with her food/eat cake all the time" etc.
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I haven't heard it, but I think LO is in danger of being spoiled. I want to get her all the things my parents couldn't afford for me!
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Yep. They probably are, but they're good kids so I don't care. The minute D or M become ungrateful, the gravy train stops.
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Yes, and always with no good reason. People don't get that sick or cranky babies need more attention! Especially if their own kids are long since grown up and they don't remember the baby days.
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Yes. I hold him too much. I don't let him cry. I'm always "fussing" with him.
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Yep, constantly, because he's an only child and we spoil him with attention. I know I buy him too much stuff, but oh well.
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I usually hear it when someone goes "cute outfit" and I say "its new" or something similar to that they go "oh she's so spoiled."
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Only by DH
I really don't though..I've made it a priority since day 1 that he is independent, he doesn't need to be snuggled to sleep or to be held, etc.
Only now am I regretting it because I would kill for some snuggles! -
@autumnlove: you mean being an attentive parent? *eyeroll*
We have been told that by my ILs, but that's because they think we baby her by not forcing her to go to them or other relatives.
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@MUI831: Me too! My family thinks I'm ridiculous, but I agree about the bedtime being firm - I need the time to myself at night to wind down too!
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@MUI831: Me too! My family thinks I'm ridiculous, but I agree about the bedtime being firm - I need the time to myself at night to wind down too!
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I used to hear it all the time when she was a newborn. I don't think I've heard it since she was a few months old.
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We get told it in a joking way, but I say it too because I know my kids are spoiled, but in a (hopefully) non bratty way.
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@Bao: does it really matter if they're spoiled if they don't act like brats? I mean, who cares if they get an "excess" of attention & things as long as they still have manners & know how to treat people (as well as a child can any way). I figure that as long as LO isn't acting like a brat & getting her way after throwing a fit anyone that says she is spoiled can suck it! lol
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@Mrs. Sunshine: yes exactly! Of course my oldest is going through her terrible twos so that certainly isn't helping, but I like to think we are raising her right.
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Oh my gosh yes.
I'm spoiling her because: I hold her/wear her all the time, I let her eat snacks in the car, I nurse on demand, I give her my direct attention when she asks for it, I don't force her to give affection (like kisses for grandparents), etc, etc, eyc.
I'm mean and uptight because: I don't let her eat crap/drink juice, I don't let her have screen time, I don't buy her a million plastic toys, etc, etc, etc.
So apparently: giving love and attention = bad. Giving stuff and junk food = good. Eyeroll.
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Yes, when they were both brand new, but I don't care or regret it. If I'm happy and the baby is happy, then nobody else's 2 cents counts.
You will never regret having snuggle time, but you may regret not doing it, so any critics can go shove it.
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Yes! My family says I'm making it so she isn't content to be alone. Well why would a baby be content all alone? Besides, I like being needed!
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Yep, my MIL loves to tell me this, apparently the whole family thinks so. So I tend to my kids when they cry or talk to me.
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Yes, our parents do. They think playing with them = spoiling because they never played with us.
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I think that the idea of spoiling a 5 month old is completely ridiculous! People just love to criticize.
I know that some family members think I'm too strict, or at least they used to. I'm not, I just thinks kids, even young toddlers, need limits. They would roll their eyes at me for demonstrating gentle hands when LO was still very little, taking his sippy cup away when he throws it even when the sippy cup was a brand new thing, ending meals when he throws food, having a set bedtime for him, etc. But now that he's getting a little bit older they seriously comment all the time on how well-behaved and happy he is, though I'm still not sure they see the correlation!
I guess we can't make anyone happy? 
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