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I've had to write down my address on envelopes at showers and I never once thought it was tacky! I don't think it's a big deal.

I never thought twice about it. Plus, everyone i know sends evites now so why should people assume i have their mailing address?

Personally never seen it done, but it wouldn't bother me at all. Like @Freckles: mentions, my friends typically send evites or paperless posts so they don't have my address.

I hate writing thank you notes -- I find writing things by hand to be extremely tedious, and I have terrible handwriting -- but there is no way I would ever ask someone to address the envelope for their own thank-you note. If asked to do it, I would be polite but yes the 'T' word would pop into my head.

I have never heard of this before! And I, personally, would not ask it of people, but would offer to help someone else!

I find it helpful not tacky. It takes 5 seconds to write it down. Seriously, i have better things to worry about.

I would be more than happy to write out my address. It take 30 seconds and not worth getting bent out of shape. There are bigger things to worry about.

@Freckles: @PawPrints: @pinkcupcake: the showers I have been invited to all have sent mailed invitations. The closest thing to a FB invite was a woman soliciting addresses for her shower if someone wanted to come. I think I even discussed it here and decided not to contact her because that seemed so awkward and impersonal. My friends and I do not have each other's mailing addresses, but no one hesitated to pick up the phone or shoot a text and ask for it.

Writing out your address is not the end of the world, of course. For the showers I have been to though the request would not be because the hostess or mom-to-be didn't have my address.

@CarrieLouWho: love that idea! This is what I would do too if I hosted. Address an invite - address a thank you. Repeat until all done.

@PawPrints: @Mrs. Lemon-Lime: @Mamasig: it must be a regional thing (I.e., southern) bc I with different groups of friends, never have I received a paper invite to a shower (wedding/baby) no matter how formal/ large of a party. That being said, I am prompt with my thank you cards (all hand-written, addresses included)!

I've never really thought about it, and I've only been asked to do it at an event like twice. I'm not bothered by it, but I wouldn't task guests with it if given the choice.

So, in my opinion, if you used a digital invitation, I'd expect a digital thank you, that would be totally fine in my book.

I also have to say, if someone hosted a shower for me and one of their gifts to me was a basket with a thank you notes, I'd be a bit annoyed by that passive aggressive jab. It can be interpreted as you thinking I don't know enough to send a thank you note. Given that most of the women of honor know that the shower is being held, how difficult is it before the shower to get your supplies in order? Everything can be ordered on line, address a few cards each day, so that post shower, all you have to do is write the card, stamp it and send it.

Someone did this for me at my wedding shower. My first reaction was it was a bit paternalistic (did they not think I would write thank yous?) but then I thought it very nice.

Then some of moms friends who I didn't know threw me a little shower (kind of more of a party for my mom type thing). I didn't have any of their addresses. I asked and asked my mom for them and she kept flaking on it. So no one got thank yous. (I live on the other side if the country and don't really know these women at all).

I think the best medium is for the hostess to provide a list of addresses to the showeree.

That being said...all I want in a thank you from a new mom is to know they received the gift if I mailed it. I don't feel any more "thanked" based on how they wrote the address. And if I sent the gift after birth, all sorts of forgiveness for not writing a card.

Suuuuuper tacky to me!