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It sounds like you need to give yourself some time. You have every right to mourn, no matter how early it was. I have had some later first tri losses and also a chemical, and they have all been hard in their own way. @Cherrybee: This happened to me too, the cycle after my chemical was actually worse.

My chemical was in January and since we didn't conceive the cycle after, I decided to take a couple month break (we also have a vacation coming up and I'd rather not be pregnant or trying at that point). I am actually enjoying the time off. TTC is stressful, especially after a loss.

Anxious and maybe a bit desperate to be pregnant? We took a month off as the doctor recommended. Then my DH had second thoughts about the timing of TTC so we took a break (which to be honest, made me upset and angry). In December, we got careless and boom, pregnant again. I'm almost in the second tri and I still don't believe it. I have a bit of an emotional block going on because I'm still so afraid something will go wrong.

You have every right to feel however you do - a loss is a loss! I had a CP around 5-6 weeks and it was really upsetting even though we weren't trying and the timing was not good at all. We started trying 6 months after and I was still really scared about another loss. I think it's completely norm, but I tried to remind myself that multiple losses aren't usually the norm and that some things are beyond my control. I'm sorry you're going through this it sucks! I hope you get your sticky baby very soon!

My chemical pregnancy was in October, and after our first month of NTNP. It was kind of a whirlwind of emotions... the first was OMG that happened quick, and then panic over spotting.

It did set us in motion to try and I felt pretty positive about it at first, but then as the cycles went by and I wasn't pregnant again I had a really really tough time in December. I finally allowed myself to grieve the first loss, because it almost felt so brief that it wasn't real or something and I was so quickly trying to replace it.

It took us four cycles to get pregnant again... and I just got my positive yesterday! I feel pretty good about it so far, my lines are darker today and my first test at 11dpo was darker than the positive I got at 15dpo with our CP.

Anyway, allow yourself to feel the loss. It is real, it did happen. And you do deserve and have the right to be sad.

@nana87: Same story! I actually thought I had ovulated already as well. My best advice is to acknowledge the craziness of this situation, feel your hurt, feel your loss! A loss is a loss.

Kind of numb. I've had 5 early losses, 4 in the last year. I'm never excited to "try" again so we don't really try. We just have sex if we feel like it and if I get pregnant, that's fine. It just so happens that I'm really good at getting pregnant, but terrible at keeping the pregnancy. Every time I get pregnant again it's terrifying. I haven't been waiting in between losses, my doc said there was no need to (although the first time I had a loss my doc told me to and I did). I think you truly need to do what feels right....for me, the anxiety and obsessing is there whether I wait or not. And I'm 35, closing in on 36 and our youngest is 14 months and I just want to either have a 3rd soon or not at all. I just can't deal with more losses and other issues into my late 30s.

The whole process stinks. And even early losses can be very painful and affect you in a big way. It's ok to feel what you are feeling. Be kind to yourself

@winniebee: every time I see a post of yours, my heart breaks for you. I hope you're done with losses forever