DD started preschool last week and everyday is a struggle to get her there, most of the time with lots of crying. It makes me feel horrible. Should I start a reward chart? Any tips greatly appreciated.
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Do you know if she continues to cry for a while after you leave? If she stops quickly, I'd say that some kids are just wired that way.
Someone here suggested giving your child a job, so that once you get to school, she has to go do that job. For example, giving the teacher something, or putting her stuff away, etc. Maybe you could talk to teachers and come up with a job for her to do?
Also, do you linger when you drop her off? My LO just started also and it was so hard but once I said my goodbyes, I turned around and walked away without looking back....... -
Honestly, I am so not above bribing. DD has a behavior sticker chart that currently, if she does her bedtime routine with no fighting she gets a sticker right before bed. She gets another if she stays in her bed all night (she has a habit of coming in our bed around 1 am).
If I need to, I'll probably offer a sticker for a good drop off, or good report from her teacher, too.
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@BabyTsMom: She usually stops crying after I leave it's just a fight getting her to change her clothes and get ready. Then she keeps saying now she doesn't like it. Makes me sad. We are good friends with her teacher and she's told us that majority of the time DD is fine and happy but once in awhile she gets sad and cries for a few minutes because she misses us. I usually don't linger after drop off since I have to get back to work. I'll have to try giving her a "job", she loves helping out so I think that might work. thanks!
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@sorrycharlie: I am so not above bribing either! I was telling DH that maybe we need to give her a little reward for going to school, like we did we were trying to potty train her. I just feel so bad. She spent 15 minutes telling how she didn't want to go to school last night before bed and that was the first thing she said this morning
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Does she have any friends at school yet? Can you plan a weekend or afterschool play date so that she gets excited to see that friend? My son was at first a little nervous for school last year (pre-K 3) but once he had a friend or two, we would talk up how much fun he was going to have with that friend and he would proudly march in and play alongside them.
ETA: We've had teachers reach out to us in the past to ask if they can share our contact info with the parent of a friend of my son's in order to plan a play date. We've also had notes left for us in his cubbie from other parents with contact info for that purpose (in case you are trying to figure out how to orchestrate that).
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