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How do you deal with the daily failures??

  1. avivoca

    watermelon / 14467 posts

    I feel like I do everything terribly. I just moved and have a 1.5 hour daily commute, we're moving into my husband's travel season so I'll be doing it all solo, and I just can't keep up. I'm not a nice mommy in the summer and I hate it. My childless coworkers don't understand. I wish I could find a job closer to home but the cost of living is much lower out here so my pay would be much lower.

  2. shabang

    apricot / 370 posts

    I also have over an hour commute each way, and the kids are with me bc daycare is close to work.

    Brush off what you can. Try to fire on all cylinders tomorrow. That's what I tell myself.

    I think succeeding in one area of life right now is a great success!

  3. periwinklebee

    grapefruit / 4466 posts

    @Corduroy: I've been drinking from a firehose of small problems since my son was born, and I'm tired (the latest small problem led him to wake up like, I lost count how many times last night).. Ugh, please people, just don't tell me to "enjoy it while it's easy" Even if true, so not helpful...

  4. babybunnylove

    grape / 90 posts

    I hear all the time “this too shall pass”... but it doesn’t make me feel any better. Trying to just manage my own expectations to the expectations of my husband let alone anyone else. I feel like I constantly fail at levels. Glad to see here that it’s not just me. Makes me feel a tiny bit better.

  5. nwm

    clementine / 830 posts

    i struggle with this on the daily, for sure. it always seems someone else is working more hours and spending more time with their kid and i just suck. the other thing i find myself questioning is how other people handle adult responsibilities outside of childcare and work. between getting my child taken care of and my job done, i honestly find things like filing my taxes completely overwhelming and find myself wondering how other people seem to manage all this other stuff on time and without making constant mistakes.

    @looch: wow, that staircase metaphor is SO helpful! i have been really pushing at work to get a big promotion that i just received, and now am going out on mat leave 6 months later and pushing as hard as i can just to hit very mediocre billable hours targets and i've been feeling just a bit down about it. but i love the idea of thinking that maybe now i've achieved this milestone, which i can maybe not feel guilty about just maintaining/coasting on for a little while before finding breathing room to accelerate again.

  6. Mommy Finger

    pomegranate / 3272 posts

    @Ajsmommy: That's a good question. I think the deciding factor really was that I didn't have it as good as you do now. Prior to having my first, I was working until at least 10 pm every night and didn't see an end in sight. After I came back from leave, I was able to dictate my hours more but that didn't mean the work was getting done. And then when we moved to the burbs, they let me work from home 1 day. But it wasn't enough. I was barely seeing my baby and I just couldn't do it anymore. Unfortunately, that led to me going to the first company in the burbs that gave me an offer. BIG mistake. Horrible company. I'm somewhere else now that is more flexible but that's b/c my boss is awesome. I fear that my perceived time in the office (or lack there of) might hurt me in getting a promotion even though I work my ass off and get my job done. My boss tells me all the time that I'm really good at my job but I don't see anything coming from that. Not sure what industry you're in but I'm in corporate accounting and have a large time to also think of. I need to spend a lot of time managing them as well. So there's no work from home jobs. What I'm trying to gauge now is how to make strategic moves that can help advance my career without hurting my time with my family. I'm not content to just sit and wait until they head off to college. That's 15 years away!!!

  7. gingerbebe

    cantaloupe / 6131 posts

    @Iced Tea: OMG I was so mad about this I read your post to my husband. He rolled his eyes and responded "even if everything he said was true and this lady was a terrible, lazy mother who didn't do anything for her children or around the house, his comments would STILL be stupid because they aren't helpful in any way whatsoever."

  8. crazydoglady

    nectarine / 2431 posts

    @periwinklebee: Whaaa?? Since when is a newborn easy?! Precious? Sure. Easy? Nah.

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