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Ugh, this is frustrating. We have a boy, and I just know everyone will be hoping this second baby is a girl. They're tactful enough to not say anything (I think...) but even just knowing that's the case stresses me out. I'd be so much more annoyed if they were actually harping on it out loud. Can your husband say anything to get him to knock it off? Or if you want to be gentle, something like, "Well, we're just hoping for a healthy baby, we'll be happy no matter what the sex"?

@MamaBear87: My dad and his side of the family was like this. We just ignored a lot of it. It's annoying, even though we did have a boy with that pregnancy. I still get jokes about too many girls, about how many we have, blah blah blah.

@MamaBear87: Oh, geez, I always roll my eyes at people who think they "know" stuff like that. Well, there aren't exactly a lot of options sooooo...not that hard to be right.

@MamaBear87: thanks, it is frustrating at times.

We have the opposite problem in my family, in that my Dad had two girls and has a clear bias against boys, has made regular comments that boys are just dumb, blah blah blah. When we went to visit my sister after she had her baby, he was holding our daughter so I could hold the new baby and said, "that's your cousin! he's a boy! I know, all boys are morons." And I just lost it and said, "WHAT IS THE MATTER WITH YOU?" and he tried to play it off as a joke but he's made shitty comments like that enough that it's real, and it's persisted as my nephews have grown up. He sometimes shows a preference for my daughter and talks about how smart she is, etc. and I have told him to shove it.
He's spent the last couple of days on FB talking about how horrible boys are rg sexual assault, etc. and royally pissing off my sister. He also likes to dig at my sister about how she didn't name her second son after my mom, and therefore she doesn't get the spoons that have that name engraved on them. She yelled at him about it and stormed out the last time, but it was at Thanksgiving this past year and her kid is 3.

We are team green with our second and I think my dad thinks/hopes it is another girl and I honestly don't even know what I'm going to do either way because I can't deal with him having such a preference for my kids, but I also can't deal with how much pressure, etc. will be on my DD to meet his bizarre expectations, with her being the only girl.

I think the answer is next time he says anything like that, you just look at him very calmly and say, "I don't know if you're joking but I don't find this funny and I want it to stop." (That is what I had to do to get my Dad to stop saying shit like, "blue eyes are clearly superior"...my DD has blue eyes and my nephews have brown eyes....) My sister also told my Dad the last time he said something that she didn't want to hear any more talk about boys not being as smart as girls and he has curbed it. I think he also knows not to say that in front of my nephews now that they are older.

@MamaBear87: wow thats really inappropriate that he jokes about trading in a girl. If I was in your shoes I would have DH talk to him

I hate comments like that and I think they're really damaging. The world does not need more sexism and that's exactly what it is. So eventually I know I would have to kind of snap back "your son's jiz determines sex so blame it on him."
Jk.
I'd be like "you know, it's sooo crazy to imagine, but you actually have no choice regarding gender!"

My IL's have a huge boy bias. All of the grandchildren (so far) are boys, DH only has brothers and FIL only has brothers. They are very proud of this and have lots of "Boys will be boys" type posters, picture frames etc. around their house. They boast how they only make boys. EYEROLL. DH and his brothers aren't like this. It's his parents.

I feel like if there were to be a girl born to us or my SIL's, she would not be treated the same. They are very kind and caring people, they just wouldn't know what to do with a girl. I can tell they like being an "All boy" family.