Having a bad day so that is probably the source of my feelings but I'm feeling so down. Between work, being a mom, pumping, housework, trying to eat healthy, being a good wife...I just can't keep up.
I feel like I'm drowning.
Having a bad day so that is probably the source of my feelings but I'm feeling so down. Between work, being a mom, pumping, housework, trying to eat healthy, being a good wife...I just can't keep up.
I feel like I'm drowning.
nectarine / 2834 posts
I think every mom feels like this at some point. Do your best but know that you are human and you can only do so much. And as Dory says, just keep swimming.
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
Hugs! It is so hard. I have cried over the phone with DH too many times cause I feel like everything is on my shoulders. It get easier once LO gets older and you get more sleep and in a groove. Hang in there!!!
nectarine / 2272 posts
I agree that everyone has days like this. But from a practical standpoint, is there anything you can delegate to your DH? I know I always figure it's easier to do it myself so I'm bad at delegating but I've tried to get better about that
watermelon / 14467 posts
I feel like this often, especially now when T is out of town for work. It will pass, my friend. You are doing a great job and it will get easier. I hope your little guy sleeps well for you tonight.
pomegranate / 3845 posts
Hugs
I think we've all written a post or twelve like this
You're doing a great job, hang in there! When I have a rough patch, I remind myself that soon, this will all be a distant memory... It is so true! Pumping, I never thought I'd ever forget the clusterf*ck that was pumping but it's a fuzzy memory now! You can do it!
blogger / honeydew / 7081 posts
Its so hard. I think everyone feels like this at some point. It will pass - you are a wonderful mama, T is doing great! If you need to let a few things slide, go for it! This is a short season!
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts
@Danizaur: hugs. I've been there, I know the feeling and all I can say is you will get through this.
grapefruit / 4731 posts
You are not alone. Just take it one thing at a time. I know that might not be helpful but that is what I do. I agree with other PPers, you might have to just let a few things slide here and there.
cantaloupe / 6692 posts
@hotchildinthecity: DH is easily my 50/50 partner in all things household, parenting and working. Probably 60/40 actually. so he's drowning right along with me. Lol
@avivoca: Thank you! So far he seems to be back on track tonight.
@Applesandbananas: Pumping is definitely a clusterf*ck. It's never been described better.
@Mrs. Oatmeal: thank you! That's what I needed to hear.
nectarine / 2272 posts
@Danizaur: gotcha! Then you're doing all you can do and doing an awesome job at it. Hang in there.
GOLD / eggplant / 11517 posts
Been there, momma! It is hard to keep all the balls in the air at all times. Don't beat yourself up!
coconut / 8475 posts
I didn't even have 1/3 of that (SAHM, only b or pumped for maybe 14w, have up on house) and I felt like I was drowning for a good 6m after having my child. I'm so sorry. I know it sucks, but it WILL get better and things do become easier/2nd nature. Dot beat yourself up and try to be amazing in all areas either.
nectarine / 2667 posts
@Danizaur: oh, honey. I think we've all been there. I know I was. The tides will turn and you'll be able to breathe again. Like Mrs. Oatmeal said, give yourself some grace.
clementine / 912 posts
It'll get better!!! I try to live by the rule of hottest fire first. Everything else can slide and I will eventually get to it. Big hugs!!!
pomelo / 5073 posts
@Danizaur: hang in there momma! We've all felt like that or still feel like that.
persimmon / 1230 posts
Hugs I don't really have anything useful to say other than to tell you that you are definitely not alone in feeling this way!
pomelo / 5258 posts
Hugs! I've had those days, we probably all have. When I'm feeling like an overwhelmed mama I find it's helpful to remind myself to do my best and ONLY my best. You can't do anything more than your best. Try to let go of any pressure or guilt for the difference between your best and some ideal. Your best includes help, sleeping, naps, breaks, etc - whatever you need to operate.
pomelo / 5258 posts
Hugs! I've had those days, we probably all have. When I'm feeling like an overwhelmed mama I find it's helpful to remind myself to do my best and ONLY my best. You can't do anything more than your best. Try to let go of any pressure or guilt for the difference between your best and some ideal. Your best includes help, sleeping, naps, breaks, etc - whatever you need to operate.
honeydew / 7295 posts
So sorry sweet pea! I know the feeling. It can be very hard to find balance. You are doing a wonderful job! It's okay to let the dishes pile up for a day and take a breather. Also Chocolate! Hugs.
pomegranate / 3595 posts
@Danizaur: hugs! We all have days like this, and it seems more frequent when LOs are younger. I agree that this is a blip on the big picture and you should do what you need to take care of yourself--order pizza, leave the dishes etc. tomorrow is a new day!
grapefruit / 4441 posts
I feel ya!!!! Just tonight I was thinking how sick I am of everything with LO falling to me. I do 95% because I have to and it gets old. However, I've basically accepted that I can't do it all...I just do the best I possibly can and that has to be good enough...and deep down I know it is. Hugs.
cantaloupe / 6687 posts
Big hugs and sorry it was a tough day! We have all been there! You are doing an amazing job...and it will get better as LO gets older. Hang in there
grapefruit / 4671 posts
@Danizaur: hang in there mama! Once I stopped pumping life got so much better, easier and less stressful!
apricot / 456 posts
I say this gently...that's why DH and I made the decision for me to stay home. Between my emotional state and the cost of childcare, it just made more sense for our family.
Can you hire a housekeeper to come in once per week or every other week? That way you'd at least be freed up in one aspect of your lives after you get home.
GOLD / squash / 13464 posts
Any working mom who claims she never felt this way is a dirty liar. But it gets better. I promise!! Just do the bare minimum you need to survive, and give yourself some slack until you get in a groove.
pomegranate / 3779 posts
I'm right there with you. We've had cereal or hummus and pita bread for dinner at least 4 nights a week for the last three weeks because I just gave up cooking on weeknights. I've outsourced what I can and just not caring about a lot for now, until we can get back on an even keel. And I've got a countdown going until we are done with the clusterf#$@ and we can switch to WCM.
(((Hugs!))) Here's to hoping it gets better soon!
grapefruit / 4418 posts
I think we have babes around the same age (5 months?) just wanted to say I totally get you! I'm having that type of day toda. We all have our moments. Hang in there! You can do this!
persimmon / 1404 posts
*hugs* I don't have kids but I still have days like that.
Just remember that it's ok to not be able to do it all sometimes. If there's something that can wait until tomorrow, or that your husband/friend/family member can do, let them do it. I hope your day gets better!
papaya / 10473 posts
@Danizaur: Hugs! I feel that way all the time. We decided the new rule in our house was "fed and loved". As long as we're all fed and loved, nothing else matters. That sounds way nicer than "we drastically lowered our standards" lol!
grapefruit / 4442 posts
@Danizaur: hugs remember you can't do it all. If the house work piles up but your sanity is stable let it pile up.
I think you might need some alone/baby free time to recharge
pineapple / 12802 posts
Hang in there mama. Know that feeling exactly. It does get easier. Things start to fall into place. Don't worry so much about the house! It can wait, for real!
ETA: and I agree on a few hours of baby free, alone time!
eggplant / 11716 posts
I posted something similar about a month ago---I was also having a tough working mom week (like you, just the logistic of making things work), but I made it through the week and things feel back into a rhythm I could handle.
You can only do so much. Hang in there---hope things ease up for you soon!
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