DS1 broke my heart today. He spent the night at his grandma's house because I didn't have childcare today while we are transitioning to Pre-K. When I picked him up this evening he threw a massive fit. (He is clearly over tired and my mother spoils him with TV.) He freaked out and cried all the way home (40 minutes) and told me repeatedly that he didn't like me and he has never liked me. He doesn't like daddy or baby either and he doesn't like our house. He likes Grandma better. He only likes her. I cried a bunch. And I don't feel over it. I feeL like my heart is broken in two. 
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My DD has a really close relationship with mh mom and has said similar things when leaving her house. And has said similar things about DH after I had my second. It really breaks my heart too.
I'm sorry. It sucks, but I remind myself that it isn't actually true. It's a right now feeling and not a permanent feeling. Kids just don't know sometimes it isn't tactful to share those types of feelings.
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Everytime something isn't going his way ds1 says he wants someone else.
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I'm sorry.
I go out of town for work regularly and my younger one has a tougher time transitioning the past couple times.. He threw a fit when I picked him up last time and he wanted grandma. By the next day he was fine and has been mama's boy ever since. But of course I'm about to go again...
My dd says grandma is the most awesome.
But look, grandma has to do maybe one week of babysitting a month, less the days dh is off when I'm not there. She's more lax about the rules and she devotes all her attention to them. She doesn't have to do all the chores I do, she doesn't take time to put on her makeup, etc. So yeah, for them, grandma is more awesome.
I remember being a kid and grandma could do no wrong too. All this to say, he will come around and you are irreplaceable!
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@2littlepumpkins: I know. He told me later he does love me. But damn it hurts. Thanks for your commiseration.
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I can relate! My mom watches my kids full time while I work. My daughter has thrown huge tantrums lately when I come to pick her up because she doesn't want to leave. Begs me the whole way home to stay at Gigi's house. I was never close to my grandparents and I love that my girls are super close to theirs. I also know that she gets spoiled at grandmas so of course she doesn't want to leave. I've developed a pretty thick skin and learned to appreciate the times that she wants her mama, but it still hurts to feel rejected by your own kiddo
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My 5 year sometimes tells me he wishes he had a different mommy when he's angry. He also recently spent a weekend out of town with my husband and his parents and keeps saying he is wishes he lived with grandma and grandpa. I think it's normal at that age. It crushes me when he says he wants another mommy but I know he's a smart boy and he's smart enough to know what buttons to push.
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I think it's normal. I used to say similar things. I stopped saying it when I got old enough to understand. I would also call my grandma and great grandma to tattle tale on my mama. lol They all thought it was funny.
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Was it your mom? It somehow hurt me less when my son declared he loved my mom more than me, my mom's pretty amazing, so I get it, you know what I mean?
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Ok, but you have to translate. When he says he likes Grandma better, it actually means he likes getting to watch TV, get cookies, be played with all day long, be spoiled etc etc. Of course he likes it better! It's like when little kids say "you aren't my friend and you can't come to my birthday". It really means "I'm frustrated with you right now". Young kids don't have the vocabulary to say what they really mean.
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I am so sorry that you are heart broken, and I want to say thank you for writing this post, because it makes me feel that I am not the only one!
Last year we were flying back from Europe on Christmas Eve. DS (almost 5 back then) was zoned into the ipad. We reminded him that there should be a potty break right now. He was tired, zoned in, and was very difficult. We had to take the iPad away and make him go. He was full on meltdown mode outside of the bathroom as we were waiting for our turn. He accused me of hurting him as I scooted him over to let people pass...etc. We went back to the seat, I gave him some paper and crayons (because there is no more ipad after that, obviously), he made an effort to write, "I don't love you". My heart broke into a million pieces, and I cried for several days even though he repeatedly apologize afterwards.
It takes a bit of time to heal, but time will heal and you will think with a clear mind that your DS was just in one of those late-afternoon witch hours. Grandma lets me watch TV and eat cookies all day and I don't have to do chores. Of course I love that more. If I want to live with grandma forever that's a completely different story. They can't associate that yet. Hugs and kisses, and feel better soon! xoxoxoxo
I remember being a kid and grandma could do no wrong too. 
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