Thought I'd get the weekly thread started...
It's now decidedly fall weather outside, pleasantly cool and rainy today. I'm waiting to hear back from my RE for a "phone consult" and hopefully, debriefing about labs.
What sort of day are you having?
Thought I'd get the weekly thread started...
It's now decidedly fall weather outside, pleasantly cool and rainy today. I'm waiting to hear back from my RE for a "phone consult" and hopefully, debriefing about labs.
What sort of day are you having?
pomegranate / 3809 posts
Just another day at work here, counting down the hours until I hear back from the RE on a possible transfer. I'm a little bummed that my grandmother is in town staying with my parents and doesn't want to come have dinner at my place see my house too. The last time she was here I think was our wedding 3 years ago and she didn't have time to make it then. My mom suggested it to her and she just turned it down, no idea why
bananas / 9229 posts
I'm off tomorrow so today's my Friday! I'm good about that. Dreading SIL's wedding this weekend (so wrong to say, I know...) though. And continuing to pinch my nipples throughout the day to make sure they're still sore! (I've completely lost my mind)
kiwi / 693 posts
I haven't joined one of these threads for a while now, but figure I can use all the support I can get at this point. For those of you who don't remember me, from when I was last hanging around here this spring, I have DOR and undiagnosed ovulation issues. And found out in July I likely have Ademomyosis too. We seem to have found the right dose of injectables + IUI that worked last spring, but ended in a m/c at 8 weeks. I'm now just coming off my first cycle back after the m/c, which involved early bleeding Saturday, +HPT Monday, +beta Tuesday, fading HPTs yesterday and today and a very low beta today. But since the beta was so low, combined with the bleeding, they called me back in for a baseline today and we're calling it CD3, and I'm starting injections again tonight. Thank god for being able to just move forward right away, I need that distraction to not dwell on this CP.
So basically I'm having a roller coaster day and week, to say the least!
@FliegepilzHut: I hope you get the results you are looking for from your labs. And I am jealous of your fall weather! I can't wait for boots and scarves weather, but it is like 90 today (I'm in the south).
@PurplePumps: aww, I'm sorry your grandma isn't cooperating. Hope she changes her mind!
hostess / wonderful apple seed / 16729 posts
I had my IVF financial discussion today and blood drawn for both DH and I for the infection disease and other blood work. I got my IVF calendar! Hooray! Egg retrieval is scheduled for early November... So FET transfer will probably be Jan proably. Fingers crossed that it might happen before Christmas!
My day has been kinda crazy. Shouldn't be here on HB... should be eating my late lunch, right now. We are going on vacation next Wednesday so I'm busy with work trying to get everything done. Oh, we have to decide which IVF plan we want... lets see spend $15K or $28K for guaranteed plan? I think we are going to go with the one cycle plan and hope that we get pregnant in the first cycle. By the way, how do I pay for something like that? Can I write a check out for that much? It will be the biggest check I will ever write in my entire life!
pomegranate / 3809 posts
@Sprite: I'm sorry about the CP. Sounds like you have a promising path forward with proven med plan that works though so that's good news!
@bluestriped bee: If they accept personal checks (which I've never seen places accept more than 3k), you can sure do that, or you'll have to go and get a bank check. The $$ part sucks, but I'm excited you have a plan and dates though.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
@bluestriped bee: I called my bank and checked on my daily limit then used my check card.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
I just heard that one of our background checks is already in. We just had our fingerprints done 48 hours ago! The adoption agency just needs one more background check and one more reference letter and then they can schedule a home visit.
What's a polite way to ask someone to hurry up when they are doing you a favor??
pomegranate / 3533 posts
@PurplePumps: I hope you get your news soon! Hang in there!
@Sprite: That sounds terribly frustrating. I'm glad that you're able to keep your mind off things and move ahead. Sometimes I find that's the only way to keep going...
@bluestriped bee: Hooray for an IVF calendar! I hope you get to transfer before Christmas...but I also like the symbolism of getting a "fresh start" in the New Year. Looking forward to more updates soon. BTW-- I think we wrote a massive personal check!
So, I had a nice conversation with my RE. The chromosomes (from our blighted ovum pregnancy) were "normal"...and she wouldn't speculate about what might have caused the loss, but feels that our chances continue to be good. I still have some RPL labs to be drawn...but otherwise can continue to plan for a FET in late November. FX!
pomegranate / 3105 posts
I'm trying to figure out if it's stress or that my body just hates me. This past cycle was weird. 6 days of spotting, 2 days of AF, then spotting two days. Fast forward a week, and now I'm spotting again. I'm going to decapitate mother nature.
pomegranate / 3533 posts
@Leialou: For a reference letter? Maybe something along the lines of "I don't mean to inconvenience you, but we are so excited to get closer to our goal of adopting...we'd love it if you could send the letter as soon as possible. Please. Oh, pretty please..."
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
@PurplePumps: I hope you hear from your RE soon.
@LindsayInNY: when is your beta?
@bluestriped bee: that's so exciting about your calendar! I hope you get your FET in before Christmas too. If not we may be cycle twins in January.
bananas / 9229 posts
@babycanuck: Ugh, that's annoying. And weird. You usually don't spot like that, do you?
@Leialou: Tuesday!!
pomegranate / 3105 posts
@LindsayInNY: Nope, maybe 2 days before AF and never in the middle of my cycle
nectarine / 2705 posts
@PurplePumps: Just responding from the other check-in thread - I'm sorry that your numbers weren't higher. But it really does just take one! (I used to hate to hear that, but when I look at all my cycles where I only had 1 or 2 follicles in the end I had to believe it!) SO glad you have your shower back. Enjoy a luxurious long shower this weekend! Do you think you'll still see your grandmother this weekend? Maybe you can try to tell her in person how much it would mean to you if she'd come to your house.
@LindsayInNY: Enjoy your long weekend! And for next Tuesday!!!
@Sprite: I'm so sorry for your losses. I'm glad you are able to move ahead and be able to focus on trying again. We're here to support you!
@bluestriped bee: I think for a big check, I'd go to the bank and have them issue it. I'm glad you have your calendar now. I know it's a hard time, all of the waiting and time to think. I'm hoping that it takes just one cycle for you and you have your baby in your arms next year.
nectarine / 2705 posts
@Leialou: I'd start with a compliment, then move on to the nudge "Thank you for taking the time to provide a reference for us. We are anxiously awaiting the start of this journey and your letter will get us there even sooner. Thank you!"
@FliegepilzHut: I'm glad to hear that you had a good conversation with your RE, and that your chances to get pregnant again are good. The fall months are always on fast-forward. November will be here before you know it!
@babycanuck: Wonky cycles are the worst. Any influx of new exercise this month? Sometimes that messes with my cycle.
nectarine / 2705 posts
So happy today is Friday! I'm doing my best to really focus on work today. I've been pretty distracted lately...apparently I still am because I'm on HB and not really productive at work yet It's CD5, I'm getting the hang of Gonal-f, and trying to make time for exercise and meditation each day. If only I had a personal chef to make sure my meals were well-balanced then I'd feel complete
pomegranate / 3809 posts
@sweetooth: Yea, I'm gonna go over to my parents for dinner tonight to see her. She goes back home tomorrow. Oh well, not a big deal I guess, I just wish I knew why. Glad to hear the Gonal injections are going smoothly, and I definitely hear ya on the chef... that would be a dream! I hate having to think about what to eat since I'm picking on not just eating junk too.
pomegranate / 3533 posts
@sweetooth: Hoping for no more hiccups along the way... We just have to take it as it comes, right? And YES, a thousand times yes, to the personal chef! Sending lots of good thoughts for your cycle!
@PurplePumps: You should hear back from your RE's office today, right?
nectarine / 2192 posts
Today is CD3 (I think). I think we are now on cycle 19. I had some brown spotting that was pretty light on Tuesday, but some of you lovely ladies told me that it's first day of full flow. This matters much more because we are starting femara this cycle. I plan on starting tonight and am a little nervous, even though it's just taking a pill. We have a wedding tomorrow, and I am hoping I don't have any side effects. Is it still ok to have alcohol? Any other femara tips? Did you O sooner? I am back to temping. OPKs stress me out with trying to do them at work (and the bathrooms there would not make it easier), so I am leaning toward just temping, BD at least EOD, conceive plus, green tea, lots of water, and meditation. DH and I still think stress is a big part of it, so I really need to work on that.
Last night, DH told me that one of his best friends (who has one child and is usually a great guy) made a comment about us having kids and that "he was being a jerk, and even more if he had known that we were trying." He wouldn't tell me what it was. I know it is because he is trying to protect me, but now I am sooooooo curious. Then I dreamt that DH told me that every little thing about kids bugged him the same way it does me, and he also told me what his friend said. I so want to know! Should I bug DH or just let it go?
pomegranate / 3809 posts
@FliegepilzHut: Yes... still (im)patiently waiting...
@AmeliaBedilia: I drank and did everything as usual while on Femera and had no side effects. (Though I haven't really had any side effects with any of the meds I've taken) My first round of it I didnt O until CD25, and the second I O'ed CD13 (on the same dosage, 5mg). Good luck and have fun at the wedding tomorrow!
pomegranate / 3533 posts
@PurplePumps: I hate waiting... FX for good news!
@AmeliaBedilia: I'm terribly nosy...and would probably ask again. But if there's a high likelihood that it's going to frustrate you...maybe it would just be better to let it go. Hard call... I don't know anything about Femara but have fun at the wedding!
persimmon / 1404 posts
I just counted out of curiosity and we're now on cycle 35.... that is such a depressing thought!
No update from me, as usual. I have been dealing with some pretty bad pains this week, which I think are related to the cysts I have. I called my doctor this morning to make an appoint, which is in a couple of weeks.
I have to go to a meeting... I'll post replies when I get back!
I'm still struggling with the CP... I keep thinking that if we were being more proactive it wouldn't have happened. I guess I'm just blaming myself for it.
pomegranate / 3533 posts
@alohaorchid: You can take this or leave it...but there is ABSOLUTELY nothing you could have done to prevent your CP (shy of more aggressively preventing pregnancy I guess)! I still think it's a good thing...you *can* get pregnant. It just may take more time (and more work) to get there. I know it's rough... Wishing you healing!
persimmon / 1404 posts
@FliegepilzHut: Thank you for that. I think what I'm struggling with the most is my m/c was 3 years ago (almost at the same time as the cp) and we have been TTC/NTNP ever since. It felt pretty heartbreaking to finally have it happen for us and then for it to be taken away so quickly. But you're right, it is definitely a good thing that I got pregnant, especially considering that we also have MFI and that proved that his part worked
persimmon / 1404 posts
@PurplePumps: I'm sorry about your grandmother. I know how that can feel, last time my Grandma was visiting (from another country), I invited her over and she said she didn't need to see my place. It was new at the time and I felt pretty bummed that she had no interest. Good luck on the transfer, I hope you get your date soon!
@Sprite: Sorry that you're here (although you're always welcome! ) and so sorry about the cp. What is ademomyosis?
@bluestriped bee: ooh vacation! Where are you going? I'm so excited and hopeful for you with the move to IVF and I hope things go by quickly and smoothly!
@Leialou: That's great news that one of your background checks came back so quickly! I hope the rest of it goes by just as fast. I loved reading your blog and I can't wait for updates
@FliegepilzHut: As much as my heart hurts for you for your cp, I'm so happy to hear that everything was normal. That's such a great sign for the future and I can't wait to hear the great news from your FET!
@babycanuck: that's so strange! Maybe it's just one of those weird random cycles?! I hope that the spotting stops soon for you though... has there been any major changes in your life this cycle? Diet, exercise, stress?
@LindsayInNY: I have everything crossed for you for Tuesday!
@sweetooth: I hear you on the chef thing, it would be so nice to not have to decide what to eat every day. I'm having a similar day to you... I have no concentration or motivation today at all
@AmeliaBedilia: I would probably ask, but I'm super nosy and things like that eat away at me
pomegranate / 3533 posts
@alohaorchid: Actually this is still just the tail end of my #%!^ m/c. I'm sorry for your losses.
nectarine / 2192 posts
@alohaorchid: Nothing you could have done! Sending hugs and prayers.
persimmon / 1404 posts
@FliegepilzHut: I'm sorry, I knew it was recent but I didn't realize it was that recent. Sorry if I came off as insensitive
@AmeliaBedilia: thank you!
@babycanuck: I hope things go back to normal soon!
So I had a major meltdown Saturday night. Something that came up that made me think of what should have been the due date... I ended up crying alone at home (husband was out of town). He called me because he sensed something through text and was extremely supportive and calmed me down enough to enjoy the rest of the weekend.
Question - we most likely will not do IVF or IUI, definitely not in the near future, but I do want to get some full fertility tests done. I want to know the extent of what we're dealing with. How do I go about this? My family doctor has been great, but only up to a point. I have a long luteal phase and I would like that to be looked into, but my doctor doesn't seem interested in going past the basic first steps. Would a fertility clinic still be able to help even if we won't be doing treatments with them? Or is there someone else I should see?
bananas / 9229 posts
@alohaorchid: ((hugs)) I think a RE/fertility clinic could definitely help you with the testing. I don't think their entire purpose is IF treatment.
persimmon / 1404 posts
@LindsayInNY: Good to know! I'll ask my doctor for a referral. I'm nervous... we only have one RE clinic here and it doesn't have the best reputation
pomegranate / 3533 posts
@alohaorchid: No worries! I was just clarifying (I've actually never had a CP...just 2 m/c. ) I'm sorry if construing your CP as a hopeful thing was exactly the wrong thing to say under the circumstances. I think you should absolutely go get a work-up, if you think it would help (to have an idea of what the odds are, get to the bottom of the problem, etc). I would let your doctor know up-front what you'd like to know...and let them know that you want to hear all of your options, but may want to start significantly short of certain interventions. Hopefully they will be very understanding! Is your DH strongly opposed to treatment? You don't have to answer (DH and I have been talking a lot about this recently)...but have you decided on Plan B (adoption, child-free, whatever)? Again, you by no means have to answer that. I'm glad your DH is so sweet and supportive.
nectarine / 2705 posts
@PurplePumps: I hope your visit with your grandma was good and that you were able to talk with her. I hope you don't mind if I cross post, but I saw your news over on the IVF thread, and your current decision that you have to make. I know it's hard to wait, and I know that the age thing is a part of the decision process. I will say this, taking a break right now with the changing seasons, and the holidays, could be a really positive thing. The mental aspect of all of this is such a big part of the process. And giving yourself some time and space to go for it again, with a reset insurance max, might be just what your body needs. I also hear you though, it's so hard to wait and tempting to just jump back in, if your doctor says you can. (I'm not really helping here, am I? )
@FliegepilzHut: Thank you for the good thoughts
@alohaorchid: It's so hard to work through the pain of a loss, and the reality of how long it can take some of us to get pregnant. Please don't blame yourself for your loss. I do think an RE would be your best bet to get a full round of testing to get some answers and see what's going on in your body. I'm sure you will have to discuss possible treatment, but they would never force you to do that if you aren't interested. There's always the TI (timed intercourse) method too. It's not IVF or IUI, but it does involve monitoring and meds.
@AmeliaBedilia: I hope you had a great time at the wedding and that you didn't ask your husband for the details! Also, OPKs at work would stress me out too. I'd stick to temping if you want that knowledge of your cycle. Ultimately, I had to stop doing all of that because it was making me crazy!
nectarine / 2705 posts
I have a question for those of you that have had 5 or more monitoring appointments during a medicated cycle. Do you switch arms every time you get your blood drawn? I never did before, but my right arm is really achy and bruised and I'm kind of dreading going back in for more tomorrow. I'm also anticipating one more draw after tomorrow.
grapefruit / 4703 posts
@sweetooth: I have crappy veins, so I would offer up both arms every time and say 'take your time and pick whichever one looks best, because I don't wanna be stuck twice!' I had one (IVF) cycle where the phlebotomist kept using the same vein and making holes in a line (seriously, I could see them all!) If you're getting bruised I'd probably offer up the other arm to give your bruised arm a break. Hope you're almost done!
pomegranate / 3809 posts
@sweetooth: Thanks, I did see her but didn't bring it up why she didn't want to come over, my mom didn't push it either so she must have her (i think good) reasons. I think it has to do with superstitions since she mentioned my cousin wanting her to come see her new place and she said not for another month. (Its been a month since my grandfathers funeral and Asian are super superstitious).
I do try to switch arms everytime, but the last few times my veins on the right were easier, and I think they're numb now from all the poking so I keep using that one. As long as it's a different spot it should be ok. I'd switch it up if the right is starting to hurt. And ask them if they are using the smallest needle they have, it made a huge difference for me. And drink lots and lots of water before the blood draw, supposedly that's supposed to help make the veins bigger and easier to find. The blood work is the worstttt... i've dreaded it ever since this one nurse took like 3 tries to get it, god I wanted to punch her. :-\
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