How did you come to a final decision? Who conceded and how did the other person make peace with that?

Just curious to hear other's stories. DH and I have 2 LO's plus my step-daughter. He would like to be done, I would like another, but we're holding on any permanent decisions until DD (3-1/2 mo) is closer to two. Right now I'm hoping w/i the next 2 years one of us will change our minds, and I'm working on being comfortable with the idea of being done.