and you never told her to. This would be you and her son's laundry.
Would you love it? Would you be annoyed? Thought it was fine the first time but eventually get annoyed?
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Love it!
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OMG, I would love it.
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Hate it! My mil actually currently does this and it drives me crazy! I find it awkward that she is folding my underwear and my stuff invariably shrinks. I've asked her often not too, but I don't think she can help herself. Plus I feel like an ogre that it makes me so angry, but I would honestly rather do it myself.
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Hate it!
MIL loves to do laundry though so I always tell her to do the kids- I have no problem with that!
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My dad does this. Sometimes it's fine if it's towels but he's ruined so many things bc I don't realize he's going to do the wash. He doesn't stain treat anything, no sorting if things are delicate or might need zipped up so the zipper or clasp doesn't rip other clothes and then dries on high heat. Clothes come out faded, shrunk and with set stains. I had a couple really nice kid sweaters from family overseas and when my second was born I was not paying attention to his shennanigans and they all went from toddler size to newborn size.
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I would think it was weird
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@Mamaof2: agreed. My MIL does the kids laundry and I greatly appreciate that!
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Hate it! My MIL used to try to do this along with a million other chores, but now that LO is super interactive she hardly tries to do any chores around our house
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Ha mine would probably ask me to do her laundry before laying a finger on mine
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Mine sorted my husband's clothes out and then only did his things.
Her sorting through my dirty underthings was too much, she hasn't gone laundry for us since. -
My MIL does this- it's just folding what's already clean- not doing new loads.
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Kids laundry or linens (towels and sheets) would be great.
My laundry, not so much. She did it once or twice while we lived there and we asked her to not worry about it.
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I'd be totally cool if she did the baby's - it sucks folding and hanging so many tiny things!
But I'd be totally weirded out if she touched my laundry. Plus, some have to be hung up to dry ... Then again, I'm not very close to my (step)MIL, so I guess it's different for everyone.
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My mil instead normally does the dishes. Which is nice in theory, except she'll add pots to the dishwasher we normally hand wash. Or last time it was clean and I had started emptying each, but she instead added dirty dishes to it so I had to wash everything again.
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@Mrsbells: ditto! I don't even want my mom doing laundry. She can re-hang and organize my closet anyday though.
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She's done it and I kind of hate it. Laundry is DH's job. Since it's not helping me I don't want her touching my underwear.
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Um absolutely no. I definitely don't want my MIL looking at my dirty underthings and I am pretty particular about sorting my laundry, hanging things that I don't want to go in the dryer, and I like everything folded KonMari style and put away by type and color plus certain types of clothes go on specific hangers... Even my own mom doesn't do my laundry because she knows I have a system and she doesn't want to mess with it.
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My mom cannot sit still...so when she watches my kids (usually just one) she does a ton around the house.
She will do my laundry and my kids but wont touch DHs...she would if he ok'd it first but would never just assume. Last week she washed all our sheets...DH was a little weirded out at first...then when he got into bed that night to crisp clean sheets he said it was pretty amazing!
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Oh yeah, go ahead and help yourself, please!!
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I would love it, but it would never happen
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I guess it would depend on the spirit in which it was done. If she really meant to help out and was exercising normal care, then I'd be grateful. I might still tell her not to do it, though! But if it was meant more as a comment on my housekeeping or a bid for gold stars--no thanks.
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I would hate it! I hang dry a ton of stuff that the tags claim can be tumbled. I would be furious if something was ruined.
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It would feel really weird to me. It would also never happen. She doesn't do her own dishes when she babysits.
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I would be ecstatic. My MIL is a consummate homemaker. She cleaned my kitchen last time she was here. I don't even know how she made so much headway in 60 minutes.
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I would definitely think it was weird.
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My MIL does out laundry everytime she visits us or when we visit them. I'm ok with it but sometimes wish she would leave the underwear alone. I don't like her doing my dishes though and constantly take things out of the dishwasher I want hand washed instead.
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I would love it! It would never happen though.
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It would depend if it was done correctly. If so, yes please! (but would never happen)
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Kid laundry: sure. My laundry: I'd rather do it myself.
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I wouldn't like it if she did my laundry (just bc I have some things I wash on gentle/cold and I'm not sure it would be done that way. But DH's or DD"a sure, although it still would seem strange to me. Now if there was a basket of laundry in the living room and she just folded it that seems less intrusive and more helpful to me at least!
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HAHA my mom does our laundry every time she's over (and our dishes, and our vacuuming, cleaning, ect.) but for some reason this does not bother me but having my MIL do it would make me self-conscious! Even though we have a great relationship, I would think she did it because she thought my house wasn't clean enough, not just her being helpful (like I know my mom is doing it for.)
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I would hate it even though I know she'd be doing it from a good place.
I think I would overly nicely tell her that while I really do appreciate it, I'm weird with things like laundry and would much rather do it myself. Some things say it's ok to tumble dry but I prefer to hang dry. Stuff like that.
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@winter_wonder: I would agree with that! If she folded a clean pile of laundry that would be great. Just not my underwear.
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HATE it! I don't even like it when Hubs does the laundry, haha.
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I'd be totally ok with her folding it (which she does), but I'm picky about detergent, stain treatment, water temp, cycles, etc., so prefer to do my own!
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That would never ever happen, and good thing, because that's way too personal. Help watching the kids? I'll take it any day. Doing my washing and cleaning? No thanks!
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I would be really annoyed if she did my laundry. Kid laundry is fine--but even then, if she did it without me asking/without her asking, i'd be annoyed. I do sometimes ask her to fold dry laundry, which she always offers to do anyway.
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It would be very weird! Kid laundry hell yes. Towels- yes! But not my underwear. My mil would never do that without asking though.
@Miss Ariel: my mil does this. Generally if it gets lean I don't care how, but she has put our good knives in the dishwasher and Dh had to tell her not to. Don't most people hand wash good knives?
My mom I would be totally cool with washing my underwear too.
but not dhs. That would be weird.
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Feels like an invasion of my privacy. My MIL lived with us for a few months in between selling and buying a new house and did our laundry (without being asked / without asking) and reorganized my entire closet without asking me. It definitely was weird and felt like an invasion of privacy, even though I know she only meant well and meant to help.
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