We are interviewing a possible sitter for our 4 month old today. It would be for 2 days a week. We've talked to her over the phone, seems nice. She watches a friend's 5 month old a few days a week and they love her.

I have a list of questions but would love to hear from you experienced mamas anything else you think is important to ask, I am sure I'm forgetting stuff. We've already discussed days/compensation/etc. but there may be stuff I'm forgetting about that as well.

My main concerns are:

(1) feeding. Baby is EBF and takes bottles fine, but I'm concerned that the sitter won't pace feed baby and it will jeopardize our BF relationship. I just went back to work last week and DH has been watching LO. He pace feeds him VERY slowly (20 mins for 4 oz) and even with that, we're having some issues of him not wanting to nurse when I first get home after being gone all day. How do I ensure that the sitter does it when I'm not even here? Also concerned a sitter may overfeed him, or misinterpret "sleepy" or "cranky" or whatever as "hungry.".

(2) Sleep. We don't do CIO, we rock to sleep, pick him up when he wakes up (no judgment please). LO has bad reflux/GI issues and cries a lot as it is from pain. How do I know the sitter will do this for naps? What if he starts crying and she just leaves him in his crib? I will never know. I'm so so worried about this.

(3) Nanny cam. Do you/did you use one? If we did, we would definitely disclose to the nanny FIRST but I don't know what the "standard" is about this. I could see some really seeing it as not trusting them... but this is my only baby, I don't trust him with anyone but DH and my mom!! And if we got a camera, it wouldn't be so much to "check up" on the sitter but more as just a reminder that we COULD if needed. I don't know.

Any other ideas?? I keep thinking of horrible things that could happen... like what if she decides to feed the baby something... (he's got severe food intolerances/possible FPIES)... it goes on and on!

So, any thoughts or questions I should ask? Anything you can tell me to put my mind at ease? We have to do it but I am struggling with leaving my baby alone with a stranger. Daycare is not on the table until he's older because of his health issues.