I'm curious to hear your thoughts on this article:

http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2014/11/18/harvard_business_school_study_it_s_not_kids_but_husbands_that_hold_women.html

Essentially, it's stating that woman make more sacrifices in their careers and put their husband's career before theirs. This is what is holding them back in their careers and not their children.

On one hand, I can see this. I know in reading some posts here and in other boards, there's a lot of talk about how in order to make it work at home, they've had to reduce their hours or they chose a lower paying job that had more flexibility because their husband had the high demand job. Obviously, this isn't the case for every family but it did give me pause.

Honestly, I'm really struggling in my career right now. I have 2 small boys and I'm the breadwinner. I have the shorter commute while my husband takes the train downtown so I do all of the pick ups and drop offs. He is looking for a new job but most likely, it will always be in the city. On the other hand, I"m also looking for a new job right now b/c I feel like I'm not learning anything and am just collecting a paycheck. However, my hours are really good currently. Any new job I take will probably come with more hours worked and I'll have to figure out a way to negotiate some flexibility.

However, even if DH was able to reduce his schedule or even become a SAHD so that I could get the high profile job and rapidly advance my career like I was doing before I had my boys, that doesn't negate the fact that I still want to see them!