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pomelo / 5326 posts
@LoveHope: yeah congrats!! All the best!
@Winnie13: good luck tomorrow mama
nectarine / 2648 posts
@lovehope: Congrats! What an amazing feeling. I hope you do something nice today to celebrate - but no alcohol, soft cheese, sushi or anything yummy jk !
kiwi / 501 posts
@LoveHope: Congratulations!!! That is wonderful!!! I'm praying for you and that precious baby!! ️️
pomegranate / 3355 posts
@LoveHope: yayyyyyyy!!! Been stalking since you left our 6+ board. Sooo soo happy for you!!!
kiwi / 689 posts
@Ajsmommy: Thanks Hun. I'm so happy right now!
@Winnie13: Thanks so much. Hope my second beta on Tuesady shows great results.
@Yellowbeach: Thank you! I will certainly miss the Sushi but I'm totally ok about it
@Delight: thanks so much!
pomegranate / 3809 posts
@LoveHope: Congrats! Hoping for another great beta Tue!
They got 25 eggs today, 10 mature, 11 M1. I'm hoping a few more mature, though they never do for me, so I'm not optimistic about those 11. Of the 10, they said 6 looked good and 4 not so good, but they're mature at least! A huge step for me. They'll update me tomorrow, then day 3, 5, and 6 so I'll be holding breath all week....
persimmon / 1132 posts
@LoveHope: Yay!!!!!!!! Congrats, mamma!
@PurplePumps: That's so great to hear!! This cycle sounds totally different for you. Fingers crossed for a promising fertilization report!
nectarine / 2648 posts
@winnie13: will be thinking of you tomorrow! ️
Can't sleep - 1st transfer is tomorrow at 2 pm. Friday (first beta) is going to take light years to come!
honeydew / 7463 posts
@Winnie13: Good luck today
Keep us updated!
@LoveHope: yayyyy! It's so good to hear those words! Huge congrats and good luck on your next beta!
@yellowbeach: Fingers and toes crossed for your transfer! Will you test at home before the beta?
@PurplePumps: That is fantastic progress!!!! Good luck this week!
AFM, tomorrow is my appt to get this process kickstarted. I finally don't feel as much dread about doing it all again. I'm feeling eager and optimistic. It's a big step for me! But I'm still only willing to do one round.
kiwi / 702 posts
@PurplePumps Great news!! So happy for you
@LoveHope also amazing news
@SweetiePie glad you are feeling so optimistic about trying again. I'm waiting for AF to start on this rodeo again and looking forward to it finally so I totally feel ya!
@yellowbeach will be thinking of you today. You're so lucky you get a beta so quickly. My clinic makes me wait 13 days post transfer. Talk about torture!!!
nectarine / 2648 posts
@PurplePumps: Congrats! Sounds like that’s a lot of progress for you. One day at a time – try not to hold your breath for a whole week (or day )
@sweetiepie: I’m sure it must be hard to muster up the energy and optimism for each new round. I’m glad you’re feeling on the brighter side this time. Of course you know we are all hear cheering you along as well. Can I ask – is the 1 round limitation emotional, financial? Just curious.
AFM, just got off the phone with my RE. He strongly encouraged me to transfer just one embie. He cited a 40% chance of pregnancy with that 1, but adding a second would only increase the chances to 50%, but would create a 30% chance of twins. So pregnancy chances go up just a little, but twin risk is huge. We took his advice. Sending the 7 other little embies into the freezer for now. I feel like this is the right thing to do, but I keep thinking about how I’ll feel and if I’ll regret not doing 2 when if this doesn’t work. I know I should be more optimistic, but I’m just trying to manage my expectations.
On a bright note, to distract myself yesterday, I did go on a river tubing trip with friends:
(Edit: perhaps it's good I am on a prophylactic doxycycline course given the river bugs )
kiwi / 501 posts
@delight: Thank you so much! Hope you and baby are doing well!
@Amorini: Thank you for the well wishes!
@SweetiePie: I'm so glad you are feeling more optimistic about your upcoming cycle! That is wonderful! @PurplePumps: What a great report! Looking forward to hearing your fertilization reports! Remember, one day at a time! You can do it!
@yellowbeach: That's wonderful news!! Praying for your sweet embie to get nice and cushy in there!!! Sounds like fun! Definitely a good way to distract yourself! When is your first Beta?
@Lovehope: How are you feeling today mama??
AFM, I got my fertilization report and as of this morning all 21 fertilized!! Thank you Lord! I was over the moon! Now, more waiting! I'll find out on Wednesday how many made it to blasts. They are thinking it is going to be a "freeze all," but that can change depending on how I'm healing. I go in at 10 on Wednesday! Definitely hoping we can transfer, but we will see! As of now, I'm taking it one day at a time and today is a good day!!
pomegranate / 3809 posts
@Winnie13: Holy cow! That is awesome. I could only dream to have all mine mature and fertilize.
AFM: 8/10 mature eggs fertilized. And 4/11 M1's matured and fertilized! 12 fertilized. I had 4, 3, 4, and 7 from the last 4 rounds... so I'll take the 12!
kiwi / 689 posts
@Winnie13: This is such wonderful news! Did you use ICSI? I can't remember.
kiwi / 501 posts
@PurplePumps: Thank you friend! That is wonderful news about your fert. report! So happy you have 12!! I will be praying for those 12 to grow, grow, grow!!
@LoveHope: Thank you!! Yes, it is standard at my clinic even though DH has no MIF. I'm so nervous/excited for Wednesday!
kiwi / 702 posts
@Winnie13 and @PurplePumps amazing fert reports!! Huge congrats.
@yellowbeach tubing is totally what the doctor ordered. good luck! and huge congrats on having 7 frozen!
nectarine / 2648 posts
Our transfer was pretty uneventful today. It was the first time I had seen any pics of out lil blastocyst, and my DH even got to take a live look via the incubator's microscope.
We also got good news that we are freezing 8, not 7, and 3 others embies are still in the lab and have another 24 hrs to prove themselves. I think this means we can avoid multiple retrievals, but I don't want to jinx anything.
And you guys were right - my beta will be next Wed, not Friday as I had somehow gotten into my head.
On a side note, how much about your IVF experience do you guys share with anyone besides your SO, and how much? This group has really helped me with the quandary of needing someone to talk to, but not wanting to share with too many people in my life.
kiwi / 689 posts
@yellowbeach: That's wonderful you were able to freeze 8! Take care of yourself these next few days
We never told anyone about our IVF journey which was really difficult. We feel like it's a private event in our life and because of all the questions, we just kept it to ourselves. This isn't exactly the healthiest of things but we leaned on each other for support on bad days.
grapefruit / 4045 posts
@yellowbeach: So glad your transfer was uneventful. I think that's the best way for it to go down!
We only shared our IVF journey on a need to know basis. We told my mom and sister because my sister had been through IVF and I knew my mom would help us pay for it. We alluded to my husband's parents and grandparents because I didn't like some of their comments and I wanted them to know we were going through a tough time emotionally and financially. I sort of told two of my girlfriends because I wanted their prayers. No one else knows anything except that "phew, we are pregnant finally after trying for quite a while." I generally don't like sympathy or pity or whatever from people. IVF is such a crazy thing to go through and almost no one can offer any words of comfort.
pomegranate / 3764 posts
@Winnie13: @PurplePumps: Wonderful fertilisation ladies!
@yellowbeach: Happy TWW xxx
pomegranate / 3809 posts
@agold: ** I generally don't like sympathy or pity or whatever from people. IVF is such a crazy thing to go through and almost no one can offer any words of comfort.**
Yes! This is why I haven't really told anyone either. I've only told my mom and 2 friends. One always seems to know what to say (or not to say) and never brings it up unless I do, which I like. The other mentioned something a few weeks ago about it and asks me "any progress?". In my mind I'm like NO!! There's no such things a "progress". It's kind of a black or white thing. It's not like I can work at this and eventually hit the end goal.. there's no "progress" to speak of cause I dont know if I'll get there! And if/when i do, then that'll be "progress".
grapefruit / 4045 posts
@PurplePumps: I'm so sorry... and I know exactly how you feel. Essentially.. I couldn't be appeased by anything or anyone except for my husband. But I did try to handle it as gracefully as I could with those who knew and offered words of support. When it came time for my FET, I told no one. I wanted to pay for it all myself rather than deal with my mom's overwhelmingly nice and genuine concern. Oh my gosh. That just sounds so ridiculous. But IVF is such a head game. I'm really wishing you all the best as you continue down this road.
kiwi / 501 posts
@yellowbeach: That is wonderful news! Wishing you all the best and praying for you and that embie!!
The entire IVF process is so draining on so many levels. It's entirely personal and how each person handles it varies completely. I think whatever is best for you mentally, is what you should do. From the beginning of my IF journey, I've been fairly open. My coworkers, close friends, immediate family, and my bible study all know. I find it comforting knowing people who I love and care for are praying for me! It's a great support system. There are some people (mainly family) that I wish I didn't tell. I'm so vulnerable and sometimes find that they can be insensitive and non caring, which can hurt. It's also draining to explain it over and over and over again!! Looking back, I wouldn't change how open I've been though.
honeydew / 7463 posts
@PurplePumps: @agold: Yes, this! I don't like being asked "how are you feeling" and "any news?" Partly because I don't want to share everything but also because that kind of sympathy/attention makes me uncomfortable in general. So I try to tell only my closest of close friends, the ones I don't mind hearing from and they will understand if I shut it down or ignore them. The ones that know they shouldn't try to comfort me or offer words of advice since they just don't know.
This time around, we aren't even telling our parents. They were a bit too intrusive last time. Totally from a place of concern, but I HATED them knowing when our retrieval was. They were then able to do research on PGD and figure out roughly when our transfer would be. So they would vaguely ask about any "news" and it brought me so much anger.
When you TTC "naturally", before you know about your own issues even, no one is hyper aware of your cycle. Meaning, they don't know when you ovulate or are in a TWW. They aren't asking if you've tested yet. It's a much more private event. So this time I want none of our family to know that we are doing this again. Especially since the possibility of failure is so much higher. If they can think we just never tried or wanted another, I'm so much more comfortable with that.
kiwi / 689 posts
Results from my second beta came in at 884. This is good news. It more than doubled. I go in again on Tuesday for more bloodwork and our first ultrasound. I still can't help but feel a bit worried.
nectarine / 2648 posts
@LoveHope: that's great news! I think you can be nervous - nervous about the excitement of seeing your little bean on US!
I appreciate all the posts about sharing vs not sharing. I've been keeping a daily journal that I've been sharing about once a week with the 6 significant women in my life (which includes my mom and sister, plus one who went through 5 cycles of ziVF to get her twins). I recognized early that I would need their comfort and warm thoughts, good or bad outcome. I'm just really a people person, the type that opens up easily, which can certainly be a fault at times too. So far they have really enjoyed traveling this road with me, and I'm hoping will understand the weight of my first beta, good or bad.
Also - I am feeling horrifically bloated. My RE warned me about OHSS at my transfer on Monday. Has anyone ever had it? I'm curious when you know it's not just normal bloating.
pomegranate / 3809 posts
@yellowbeach: Oh yes, the bloating is normal, especially with as many as 19 eggs. I had a mild case of OHSS last cycle where I gained about 8 lbs and looked huge, I couldn't even wear my jeans! Was also short of breathe, couldn't stand up straight, and in a ton of pain with any movement. If it's anything more than some discomfort in the abdomen and bloating.. you'll know it. I'm 2 days since retrieval and up 5 lbs, swollen feet (not sure why, first time for this) but I feel normal and only minor pain if I walk too fast. My RE said the most important thing is just to watch your weight, as long as it doesn't keep rising and you're not vomiting, running a fever, or any other awful symptoms then there's no need for concern.
honeydew / 7463 posts
@LoveHope: Hooray! That's fantastic! And it's 100% normal to feel nervous. After all we go through, it is understandable. It almost never goes away.
@yellowbeach: Ugh sorry for the discomfort There are def some ladies on here who've had ohss so hopefully they chime in.
Well, I just got out of my appointment and nothing really earth shattering But it's nice to have it over with and to have a timeline and protocol.
I'm actually expecting CD1 on Friday so it's nice that this all aligned in that respect. I'll go in for CD2 or 3 testing, saline hysterogram, and a load of other stuff probably over the weekend. And I'll start BCP. They are getting started on ordering my meds ASAP so I'll have them once BCP is done.
They do have me on Lupron in the AM and PM. I don't think I had Lupron last time and it definitely wasn't twice a day. I didn't ask when I was there, but is that a flare protocol? He did comment when he looked at my ovaries that I will need something more aggressive this time, plus I had low AMH at 32 and I'm now 35.
I was pretty naive last time I did this and didn't research my protocol or my meds. I just did what they said and fortunately I only needed one round. So that's why all the questions like a total noob.
pomegranate / 3355 posts
@Winnie13: following you from our 6+ board too!! what an awesome fertilization report!! woohooo! so happy for you!
pomegranate / 3809 posts
Ugh. Well, I was off to a better start with 10 mature, and 12 fertilizing... but at day 3, I'm down to 4 good quality 6-8 celled embryos again. And more waiting for a day 5 update now...
honeydew / 7463 posts
@PurplePumps: I'm sorry you're bummed about the day 3 report. But you're not out, so I'm going to keep optimistic for you! xoxo
kiwi / 501 posts
@LoveHope: That's wonderful! I will keep praying for baby and mama!!
@yellowbeach: I'm so sorry for your discomfort. From what I've read, just try to take it easy. Drink lots of Gatorade, sodium, and protein. Hoping it goes away soon!
@PurplePumps: I'm sorry it's not going as you hoped. Hoping and praying for 4 strong blasts today!!
@SweetiePie: So excited you're getting the process started. I definitely will be keeping you in my prayers throughout the entire process! I don't really know much about the different protocols, so hopefully someone else can chime in.
AFM, My doc officially cancelled my ET today. I am super disappointed, but I saw all the fluid in my ovaries, so I understand. I don't want to end up in the hospital. We signed up for the next possible FET date which is Sept. 22. I'll be on BC, Lupron, estrogen, and progesterone. I start the BC once I get a period, so it will all start up again soon. Plus, school is starting and I'll be super busy with that, so the time will fly by! As for now... I'm going to enjoy a strong cup of coffee and a glass of wine (not in that particular order ). Feeling positive for the most part, so that's good!
honeydew / 7463 posts
@Winnie13: Oh I'm so sorry. Even when you know it's for the best, it's so hard to change plans like that. You get excited and then it's like womp womp.
I will also keep you in my prayers! I'm a big-time prayer.
Since your ET was cancelled today and you'll be doing it in late Sept, if all goes well for both of us we may have due dates really close. I think my transfer (if I have any good embies) will be early October. Fingers crossed!
grapefruit / 4045 posts
@PurplePumps: Keep your chin up! 4 great embryos are great to have at this point. I only ended up with 4. Aren't you also doing another egg retrieval before you do a transfer?
@Winnie13: I'm so sorry your fresh transfer got cancelled. But I'm biased now and think that FETs are best so try to look on the bright side! Better to not waste some great embryos by throwing them into an imperfect environment. Keep thinking positive! September will be here before you know it!
pomegranate / 3809 posts
@agold: That was maybe the plan only cause I was expecting such crappy results. Ideally, we would have had 2 or 3 PGS tested good embryos from this cycle. (We're testing as we go, not batching before sending them all in). I *really* don't want a 6th retrieval if it could have been avoided... this is getting old real fast.
grapefruit / 4045 posts
@PurplePumps: I understanding not wanting to do a sixth (!!) retrieval if you don't think you need it. You are such a warrior throughout all of this. Remind me again why you are doing the pgs. Is there something in your family history? At what point will they test? 5 days? And then how long does the testing process take before you get results?
kiwi / 689 posts
@Winnie13: I'm sorry Friend but I think it's for the best. You certainly don't want to take any chances. You enjoy a nice glass of wine and take care of yourself. September will be here before you know it!
pomegranate / 3809 posts
@agold: We didn't get any results from testing the embryo after our D&C, so the guess is that it was abnormal. I rather pay whatever it takes to try to rule that out than go through another m/c. We're going to do the testing with each cycle, so whatever makes it to blast, they'll biopsy and send in right away. IVIgen who does the testing for my clinic allows for "batching" to be done with each cycle with just an additional shipping fee. So we get the benefit of batch testing up to 8 (+whatever the fee over that) without actually having to collect all the embryos before sending them in at once. I'm actually not sure how long it takes, I need to ask my RE that... .except he's in Taiwan again (family emergency) so he usually doesn't respond between 1-6pm (1-6am his time).
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