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pomegranate / 3401 posts
Good luck to Jill and Derrick! Selfishly I'm thrilled because this will make for some great future episodes of the show!
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
I wish they could bottle up that fertility and sell it to others, LOL
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@ladybee: Everyone is sharing their opinion. There was/is nothing nasty in this thread.
pomegranate / 3791 posts
@ladybee: Telling people what they are and aren't allowed to talk about, as you are doing, is not 'having a different view.' And calling people judgmental and saying how sad their conversation is could be construed as nasty, so that's a bit of the pot calling the kettle black in my opinion. Being better than people who starve, beat, and neglect their children is not much of an accomplishment, I'm not going to pat them on the back for not abusing their kids.
GOLD / coconut / 8266 posts
@ladybee: I apologize. I edited out my statement that was not the nicest.
@Smurfette: I was wrong and I edited out my comment.
persimmon / 1316 posts
@hotchildinthecity: Forgetting Sarah Marshal is one of my favorite movies haha
I can't believe she would announce it SO soon. I mean... tell your family but do you really have to tell people magazine when your only 8 weeks after just getting married? I hope the best for them but they are so young, a little time as just newlyweds wouldn't have done them any harm.
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@swedishfish: It may have been just a wee bit on the blunt side, but your comment was not even remotely approaching *nasty.*
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
@swedishfish: I guess I missed what you said!
@blackbird: LOL! Wouldn't that be nice. It is crazy how fertile they are.
coconut / 8854 posts
@rahlyrah: yes times 100%
A baby is something to celebrate, and it looks like they are beyond thrilled!
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@MsLipGloss: haha, I couldn't help myself! This thread went off the rails!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
@blackbird: I'd buy it!
I'm surprised they are announcing so soon since they've been married for only two months. I'm not surprised she is expecting though. She seems like the type who couldn't wait to be a mom. I would have ditched BC on my honeymoon if DH had been on board.
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@swedishfish: in a thread where people are having a benign exchange of (differing) opinions, to come in and tell us all that we are sad and judgmental . . .
pomegranate / 3791 posts
@Adira: LOL!
And to clarify, I'm not particularly unhappy for them - obviously they're thrilled. I just can't wrap my mind around getting pregnant so quickly when I'd never gotten to spend any private time with my DH before our wedding. And that is something we all know for a fact, because they are VERY clear on the show about always having chaperones.
GOLD / coconut / 8266 posts
@wonderstruck: yes, I'm not unhappy for them either. Jill is my favorite and I adore Derick. I just hoped they'd wait a bit, work on their careers, and enjoy their time together. Jill was so excited about being a midwife.
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@wonderstruck: Getting to you know your spouse while under the influence of pregnancy hormones?! I have to give the ladies mad props for working through that!
grapefruit / 4079 posts
This is exactly why I'm leaving. You say you aren't being nasty while you all sit here and discuss/bash me and even call me a drama lama. I didn't call anyone sad, I said the post makes me sad. That judgment makes me sad. Take it how you want but right now you've taken a poster who liked this community and made them feel horrible for making a simple comment. I didn't call anyone names or discuss people like this.
GOLD / watermelon / 14076 posts
@Adira: Anytime there's a thread about a celebrity (I don't know if Jill Duggar is a celebrity, but you know what I mean) pregnancy announcement if not everyone is "OMG so happy for them!" then some people get upset about that. I think it's normal for people to discuss/comment on things like this and that the world would be pretty damn boring if no one ever had any commentary besides oh so happy for them.
cantaloupe / 6692 posts
Not surprised. I was waiting for this announcement any day now
ETA: I am happy for them. Not judging. I really like the Duggara
eggplant / 11716 posts
So I'm not young, but I got pregnant (by choice) super quickly after marriage so I don't think it's all that strange, especially in their family's culture.
My extended family culture is very similar and I have 4 cousins my age who each already have 5-6 kids. That blows my mind, because I can't imagine having 5-6 ALREADY, but they do and are all really good at it. I mean, their kids are really respectful and polite and hard workers....
But they are also the family that I talked about in the Homeschooling thread. haha The ones that say funny things to my husband, I mean.
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
Really? Why is it such a big deal if some people want a child right away?
I'm happy for them.
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@ladybee: In all fairness, you were being dramatic. You also said that someone was being nasty, which certainly wasn't the case.
pineapple / 12526 posts
I'm not surprised. I think most of the kids have expressed in the show that they follow their parents quiverfull beliefs. Good for them, I guess.
DH and I had to get used to living with each other while I was new pregnant and it's not fun. I don't envy her but I wish them luck.
admin / wonderful grape / 20724 posts
@ladybee: I agree, I am happy for them too!
I'm concerned with the sometimes adversarial tone of the site lately. We've been getting a growing number of complaints and shutdown requests lately, so it's definitely something we need to figure out as a community. I'd be interested in more perspectives on it; if you don't mind playing in, please send me a message by flagging this post and typing a message, or you can email me at mrbee@hellobee.com.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@ladybee: I'm sorry if you took my post to be offensive. I wasn't trying to call YOU a drama llama - just noting that this thread itself took a dramatic turn!
@lawbee11: I'm all for people commenting on celebrities! I wasn't commenting on this thread prior because I don't watch the show and I know nothing about the Duggars besides they have a ton of kids! I just posted the Drama Llama because it seemed like this thread was going off the rails and needed a laugh!
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
I don't think it's so much that people can't disagree but the constant undertone of judgment that's getting to me.
Anyway, I am happy for her. I love the Duggars - I can't wait to watch the new season!
pomegranate / 3791 posts
@MsLipGloss: I hadn't even thought of it exactly like that, but holy crap, you're right! It's a good thing they don't believe in divorce! Bahaha. I am not the most pleasant pregnant person. Also, our sex life would come to a screeching halt when it had barely started.
@ladybee: You're not getting it. You can say you weren't talking about anyone specific or calling any names, but come on now. "This post makes me sad. The judgement makes me sad." How is that NOT a judgement on the people having the discussion in this post? It totally is and your refusal to own up to that bothers me. Honestly, I stand by the comment swedishfish deleted saying that if you don't like these conversations, then you don't have to open the thread. But opening a thread simply to tell people how sad and judgmental their conversation is...I just don't see the point if you're not trying to get into an argument. No one had a problem with your post giving a different opinion - it's when you start calling other posts sad and judgmental for not agreeing with you that it started a problem.
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@sorrycharlie: The nature of an opinion is judgment . . . and no one was being remotely inappropriate or snarky.
GOLD / watermelon / 14076 posts
@Adira: Oh I was just commenting on why I thought this thread went off the rails! And your pic made me almost spit out my coffee
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
@MsLipGloss: I disagree, but I wasn't only referring to this thread.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22276 posts
@ladybee: I am so sorry you are feeling this way! I agree with you.
pomegranate / 3980 posts
@ladybee: I also agree with what you said.
I thought everyone was going towards the woman's right to choose but this thread makes it seem like if you don't choose to have a career before children you haven't become someone... why is it so bad to have your family be your identity? Some people feel fulfilled by building a family, I certainly do. I am very much happy for them besides, I think if anything moving in together while she is pregnant could help build a strong base for their marriage, if they can make it through that, the rest isn't quite as hard (from my experience)
pear / 1699 posts
@mrbee: I agree that the tone of this site has changed and that a lot of users are ganging up....a reason I didn't renew gold. This thread is one of many examples.
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