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We are at my parent's house for the first part of our holiday visit home. My mom is overbearing, doesn't listen, and doesn't respect boundaries. We always butt heads. You guys, last night I almost lost it. I told her, "I'm starting to get upset, and if you keep talking, I'm going to say some really ugly things!" She was talking about how she's going to be in the delivery room (even though I've told her every single time she has brought it up since BEFORE we were pregnant that she isn't going to be invited in), and then she said if she wasn't in the delivery room that she expected to have a picture of the baby sent to her as soon as it is born. I laughed and said that they'd get a text whenever we got around to it. She got mad and started to make it like the day our baby is born will be all about her. That's when I told her what I said. I mean, we had been here less than 12 hours, and we are staying until Wednesday. I'm going to explode at some point. Any ideas or suggestions to help me?

@78h2o: sorry you're going through such a difficult time

@MamaB: I have a mother like this. I have to spell it out to her whenever she crosses a line, which is pretty much every time we communicate. Things like "I'm uncomfortable discussing this with you, I'm changing the subject", and "I've told you I'm not discussing this, and if you can't respect it, I'm walking away until you can". Come to think of it it's all pretty much out of Supernanny, which makes sense because she acts like an oversize toddler a lot of the time ...if all else fails there is always emotional blackmail "this conflict is NOT good for the baby, I will have to remove myself from this situation if you're going to continue to add to my stress levels in this way"

Cute reveals/announcements everyone! We're toying with the idea of FB announcing on Christmas Day, but I'm still on the fence. We'll see.

I've been MIA with the most malingering virus, btw. And of course it would be at this time of year where there is no opportunity of rest and a whole lot of sucking it up to be done. Sigh.

@Ifyoulikepinacoladas: Oh wow! I did it Friday so we'll see when they call. I told them to leave a VM because DH and I want to find out together!

So I started having a lot of gum pain over the weekend. I understand that it is common during pregnancy due to the hormones and increased blood flow but it is really annoying because it makes it hurt to chew.

Anyone else experience this and if so, what have you found helpful? I switched from my electric toothbrush to a soft bristled manual brush and started using Sensodyne toothpaste but it is too soon at this point to see if that will help.

@Mrs.KMM: I am not sure how good you are on dental care, but I off and on get this and just really make sure that I floss, and use mouth wash twice a day. Plus, I actually have a flouride paste that I use in addition to regular brushing, floss, and mouthwash. That seemed to help after a few days of doing that regiment.

@Mrs.KMM: That definitely could help! By the time I was going to get around to making an appointment my pain ended up going away. Hopefully yours is short lived!

Soooo I think I'm finally feeling a little bit of movement. It's really low, like underwear line, but I'm pretty sure it's the baby! I've been noticing it after I eat. It kind of just feels like little taps almost. Does this sound like movement? Or am I just full of gas?

@Eko: oh I've had my fair share of gas....LOL I definitely think this is a different feeling!

@mrsbrewer: that sounds like baby movement to me! Feeling it after you eat makes perfect sense. The initial movements always felt sort of "watery" to me. That's a super weird descriptor, I know... At least with this pregnancy (#2), I decided it was baby movemet when I didn't fart shortly after feeling it.

@MrsBrewer: My midwife said around 16 weeks those flutters and strange feelings are more than likely baby and not gas, and that its the "quickening."

@MrsBrewer: I think we are due date twins too right? 6/5? My 16 week appointment was Sat. It's crazy cool to feel it. I can't imagine these turning into swift kicks in a few weeks lol

@MrsBrewer: It sounds like movement. You can always try a sugary beverage which will bring about movement. I fell yesterday. After our visit to Pump It Up, I had lemonade and felt movement, so my worry was less. I also felt movement sitting down too not long after the fall. Sitting quietly always worked for me to feel movement. What's funny is that this munchkin seems to move a lot when I read to LO during story time.

I have been terrible at keeping up around here - I blame the pregnancy fatigue ;). So exciting to hear about some of you feeling movement, and the announcements that have been shared are adorable!

Our next appointment is on the 31st, but we're thinking about putting our announcement up today since I'm 14 weeks exactly ... Is this crazy? Should I wait to make sure everything is okay first, or am I just being a paranoid infertile?

@rpparker: Love your announcement!!

@just_ju: We announced at 12 weeks, since our 12 week appointment went well and the OB told me the risk of miscarriage was 2% at 12 weeks.

@rpparker: Super cute!!

Poking my head in to say hi as I impatiently await my next OB appt next week. I'm 16 weeks 5 days now and I wish my appt next week was the anatomy scan because I'm getting so impatient to find out! Unfortunately it'll just be a regular appt, but I'll be glad to hear the heartbeat. I've been freaked out since I foolishly rolled on my stomach last week to demonstrate part of an acro move for my students. No cramping or bleeding but it was much more uncomfortable than I anticipated and I'll be relieved to hear the heartbeat again and know everything's ok.

Hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas! As an update in case anyone else gets the fun gum pain / tenderness I was dealing with last week, the Sensodyne toothpaste has made it go away completely.

I can't wait for my 16 week appointment on Tuesday!

@Mrs.KMM: When pregnant, I need kids toothpaste because mint makes me gag. I have my princess toothpaste.

I fell twice in two days. The first time was holding LO heading to Pump It Up. I didn't hit my bump and was well padded. The next night, I was on a stool and slipped. I fell down mostly on my face and a little on my bump. The next morning, I called my OB and went in for a heartbeat check. LO #2 is doing great, heart beating, a okay. I'm banned for stools and tall shoes. My center of balance is really off this pregnancy.

@MrsKMM: Congrats on the girl! I still flip flop everyday on what we are having. I have also been more sick this week (14 weeks) than I was during the 1st trimester! Even threw up my breakfast at the in-laws which was not fun at all! I also understand the anxiety. I am constantly thinking the worst and when we had our brief scare at the last appointment I thought all my fears were about to come true. I really just have to focus on taking care of myself - rest, exercise and eating right because everything else is really out of my hands. I'm hoping for a much better week this week!

@MrsBrewer: Aren't labs the best?

Hope everyone has a great week!

I'm finally feeling better- not sick anymore and I am able to eat a better diet. But I still can't sleep! Is anyone else having trouble staying asleep? I can fall asleep easily, but I wake up every night and stay up for 2-3 hours! I get up so exhausted