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@Ms. RV: i think beforehand she just explains what they're testing for and the risks, and then if we get any significant results we have the option to meet with her again to talk through what the results mean. if she is really just explaining what's being tested for i think that would be helpful, and i presume from the term "counselor" that she's good at dealing with and comforting people, but really the last thing i want is an hour-long reminder about how high risk we are because of our ages!

@sunflowerbee: It's on my to-do list today to call my insurance company.... My NT is scheduled for Dec. 5 but I still need to make sure it's covered by my insurance. It was last time, but I had to switch insurance since then and my new one has been pretty crappy so far in terms of prenatal coverage... I'm under 35 so I'm worried that they won't consider it necessary even though it's been recommended by my OB.

How is everyone feeling?

Hey ladies, I figured I would update the list. Please let me know if there are any changes that need to be made. Please also let me know if you'd like to add any upcoming appointments!

June Mamas
6/4 - Sunflowerbee (#1)
6/9 - Ms. RV (#2)
6/18 - Csross217 (#2)
6/23 - Nwm (#2)

Appointments
12/1 - Nwm
12/5 - Sunflowerbee

@sunflowerbee: so glad you are feeling well and had a good ultrasound and NT! what are you planning for a social media announcement? so fun and exciting! have you already told all your family and close friends?

i'm sure you're right that i should just relax. i realized this morning that my boobs are sore again and i've continued to have wackadoodle dreams, so that's good : )

haven't heard anything on the promotion yet, thanks for asking! i will find out on december 16, so still a couple weeks to wait. i am determined not to tell people before that time. i think i'm a couple weeks behind you, though, and i can't really see myself telling work before at least 12 weeks and after NIPT results. so i am just planning to wear generous tops and keep my head down.

i did find that announcing my first pregnancy went really well. every person i talked to was really excited for me and nice about it. i waited until like 14-15 weeks (i was very slow to show), and i just dropped in on the people i worked directly for and said, i just wanted to let you know that i'm expecting in february. usually that was followed by lots of congrats, etc. then i made a point of saying that of course, i'm committed to working hard right up until then and will do everything i can when the time comes to ensure a smooth transition on my cases and stay in touch (but that's still several months away!). i don't think you necessarily need to say anything but that you're pregnant, but i think it can help just to convey that you are still super serious about work even though it's such an exciting time. one issue that i encountered was that people will -- possibly without really meaning to -- start changing the work they give you in anticipation of the fact that you will be out. so i thought it was helpful to make a statement like that just to set the tone that i don't want my job or role to change at all just because i will be out for a few months (and now that i've been back a year and a half from my leave, i can definitely tell you those leave months fly by!). and then in my second trimester especially i made a point of trying to take on projects and be extra helpful just to get my point across. by third trimester i had slowed down too much for that, haha. i'm sure your announcement will go great!

@nwm: Symptoms alleviating at 10 weeks is lucky! I think I have heard that it starts to turn typically at 12 weeks so maybe you are an over-achiever this pregnancy Good luck with your ultrasound. Is it an NT?

@sunflowerbee: Glad to hear your NT went well! I also did some shopping for maternity clothes. I haven't told my boss yet, but I am pretty sure he knows. Last time I just said "Oh hey by the way I am pregnant. Due in August. Working until my due date and not taking any additional time past the six weeks." If your boss is due 8 weeks before you, I would definitely tell her soon. There is a fair chance you could both be out with overlap if she goes late/you go early/she has c-section.

I am doing pretty well. I am super showing though. I swear I am bigger at 12 weeks than I was at 16 weeks last time. Weird thing is I have only gained two pounds, and I am only five pounds up from my first pre-pregnancy weight. I also have to go shopping for new bras already, which I didn't do until like 8 months last time. But I am seriously ready to burst!

@Ms. RV: Thanks for sharing how you told your boss last time. Yes you're absolutely right that there could be more overlap depending on when we both give birth. We both can take up to 12 weeks under FMLA so if we deliver nearish our due dates, there'd be about a 4 week overlap. It's her first baby too.

Wow, that's pretty cool that you're already showing! I don't have a bump yet so my maternity clothes shopping was more so to have them at the ready when needed, haha.

I'm also surprised that there are so few of us here! If there are any other June mamas lurking, feel free to join in! I've noticed that both the May and July due date boards are pretty active/popular.

@Csross217, how are you doing/feeling?

@sunflowerbee: thanks so much for the good thoughts! your boss might be extra surprised because she's envisioning you stepping up during her pregnancy, but hopefully if anyone is going to be understanding it's going to be another pregnant woman!

@Ms. RV: thanks! ha, let's hope that's what it is : ) not an NT scan, just one more at the doc's office and at the same time doing bloodwork for NIPT. i'm still on the fence about the NT--are you doing one?

Hello everyone! Long time lurker, first time poster.

Due Date: June 22
Second Baby (Feb 2015)
No symptoms except days with major exhaustion and sooo many pimples! Feeling better rolling into week 11!
Next Doctor's apt is 12/11

Anyone getting a bump yet? I want to wait until week before Christmas to announce at work but I am nervous one morning I will POP! I think with my first I could still hide it through 16 weeks and I'm not a tiny lady, short and curvy actually!

@trixi: welcome trixi! so glad to have you in the group! we are almost due date twins.

i don't feel like i look at all like i have a BUMP bump, but i look like i've been eating too much. which, i probably have anyway! i am definitely wearing a lot of baggy tops and blazers to cover my midsection.

@nwm: I am not getting an NT. Some days I regret the decision because it would be nice to see the baby, but then my anatomy scan feels so close (Jan 19) that I am okay with it.

@trixi: Welcome! I am 12+5 and I am definitely bumped. I am short and generally have a very flat stomach but it isn't muscular so it doesn't hold the bump in. I am still in regular clothes, but I only wear elastic waistbands or dresses.

@nwm: I think this one is going faster so far because of the holidays.. it felt like no time between Halloween and Thanksgiving and now the time between Thanksgiving and Christmas is going to fly by. My next appt isn't until the day after Christmas and that feels like a long time away.

@Ms. RV: I definitely agree with you that the holidays are helping to make the months fly by. I have my anatomy scan scheduled for the week before yours on Jan. 11. It feels far away because it's in 2018 but it's also only 6 weeks away!

my appointments today went well! strong heartbeat, baby is growing well and looking much more like a gummy bear instead of a blob! i honestly went into the genetic counseling session with kind of a bad attitude but it ended up being fairly informative. and my doctor talked me into doing the NT and the NIPT.

i think my bump officially looks bumpy though. don't know how i'm going to keep this under wraps at work for two more weeks!

@sunflowerbee: thank you!! yes, i have definitely been aiming for looser fitting tops--but now that i actually wear my tops with a belly, i realize i don't have that many that actually qualify as looser fitting it feels like even my looser tops just hang in a way that my belly protrudes. sigh! i'll figure out something...or spend two weeks rotating between one blouse and one dress i have that definitely do the trick

how are you feeling about your announcement next week?

no, i was actually thinking of going for a maternity top but honestly my bump totally stuck out in most of them--lots of drapey sweaters and ruched tshirts. i'm going to try to dig deep in my closet this weekend!

i'm sure it will be totally great! agree it makes sense to get it done with early so that you don't have to think about it anymore.

i'm now going hunting for a cute 'big brother' shirt...i think we'll announce to our families by having my son show up at family holiday events wearing it. i'm excited about it

@trixi: ugh, i hate that we all have to deal with so much politics at work! fingers crossed it will go great and folks will be understanding.

bulky sweaters are a great call. it is pretty chilly here too (and i start wearing sweaters as soon as it drops below 65 anyway)!

did you find any places where you thought the big brother shirts were extra cute? i'm underwhelmed by the selection. haha, that would totally be my family! it sounds cute though : ) i thought about getting one that i like the design of that just says "brother," but then i was like...my parents will not pick up on that at ALL haha. i need one that really spells out like, I'M BECOMING A BIG BROTHER SOON. BECAUSE MY MOM IS PREGNANT WITH A BABY. honestly just wondering if i should do a print your own.

@trixi: so cute! thanks!

@csross217 glad everything looked good!

We told LO that there is a baby in my belly too and he talks about it but not sure if he really gets it. We ask him if it's a girl baby or boy baby and typically he says girl. But we think because his friend at the babysitter just got a little sister. haha He'll be 3 in Feb!

@sunflowerbee: hooray! for some reason i was really confident it would go well for you : ) glad you have that off your chest.

@csross217: congrats on the good scan!! that is awesome to see some movement.

we haven't even started trying to introduce my son to the concept yet, both because i'm not sure he's going to get it fully in any case, and because he's a little echo right now and would surely repeat the news to everyone he sees (at least in a form clear enough to raise suspicions, like "mommy baby!"). there was a great thread on the boards just late last week with some good tips for getting a young sibling prepared for the news, i will see if i can dig it up. DS (21 months) is very into books and has just started to grasp how thrilling daniel tiger episodes are, so i plan to lean heavily on those resources.

random but funny story this made me think of, literally like three days after i got my positive pregnancy test, DS was trying very adorably to do a headstand--he did not get close, but was flipping himself upside down with his butt up and leaning on his head. i described this to our nanny, who is from the caribbean, and she said "back home they would say when your child is doing that it means another sibling is on the way." i nearly did a spit take! so maybe he knows in some very metaphysical way, haha.