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I can understand that. Dh has the same problem a lot of the time. I got him to stop by completely drawing out the budget with money that we have collectively. Once it was all drawn out he better understood why I stressed about money. Big hugs momma.

*big hugs*

If you have time you should sit down and draw up a budget.

For right now you should keep track of the spending and show it to him when you talk about the budget. Like this is how much we spent on fast food last month... maybe this month we can set the budget to be 80% of that (and then the next month set it be 80% of that number and so on till it's a number you are comfortable with).

Budgeting is hard! It takes time... and it is a big learning curve so don't give up on it. It will help you in the long run.

@Mrs. Sunshine: Oh, it makes total sense. I haven't really bought anything for myself in a long, long time. And it turns me into a massive ball of stress when he comes home with random stuff. It got way better when we started tracking it, though. It is hard to ignore when it is laid in black and white. Numbers don't lie.

I think I'd be more mad that he already ate if I was making dinner!
But either way - he needs a budget! My DH and I each get a set (same) amount to spend as we please. Might not work for you, but you need some sort of agreement about what is acceptable to spend.

I do the same thing as @AmandaB8: we have a joint account that all our money goes into and all our bills get paid out of. Attached to that account we have our seperate spending accounts each week money gets moved into that account and we can spend it as we wish - no questions asked.

My DH does this he will say "he doesn't' have time to make lunch" in the mornings, well then make a sandwich before you go to bed. I get annoyed that although we aren't in the same situation, he spends way more on fast food than I like. I did pull out one month of our bank account and showed how much he spent, he had no idea. I do make sure to buy his favorite snacks and he takes those, but it's annoying. I maybe eat out for lunch 1-2 times a month with a coworker, not 2-3 times a week like he does! It does make a huge difference.

His issue is he hates leftovers, and I don't care I'll eat just about anything, so he's stuck with a sandwich every day while I have variety. I can't help he's picky and won't give most leftovers a chance.