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@pui: First piece of advice, if you see EWCM, make sure you're having sex every other day or so! Also, since your cycle has been so long, you may want to check your cervix position too, as its a good indicator of impending O if its high, soft and open.

I'm with those who are struggling with FB... One girl in particular has started posting whiney updates about her pregnancy and the snark in me wants to tell her to be glad she's pregnant at all.

@lindsayinnyc: you are making me consider charting! I swore I wouldn't get that neurotic about it.... But maybe...

@LindsayInNYC: four/five months, with getting positive OPKs apart from my Dec long cycle and last month after the spotting. I was OPKing since coming off BCP eight/nine months ago and was pretty regular at first.
I do agree with you though, I'm fairly neurotic about the whole thing anyway so it's probably not going to make too much difference. I'm barely human first thing in the morning so I think I'll struggle to remember.

@SweetMamaM: charting has really helped me figure out my cycles. I didn't even have to POAS because my temps dropped before my period.

So I went to the chiropractor today and she diagnosed me with a sprained pelvis - something that I may have had for up to nine years. She thinks that the inflammation this has caused in my pelvis has a large amount to do with my peculiar cycles, especially seeing my hormones are testing normal. It's also helping to fix my lower back pain and stiff shoulders - a bit bloody sore to fix though.
No kidding, I think seeing the chiropractor may have actually changed my life.

@MrsH: ahhhhh! your new pic is throwing me for a loop! Thank you for your support!

@Emsmems: I'm the same way about temping. Plus dh is really against it for the moment. But with such irregular cycles, it really is the best way to track ovulation. We'll see how the next few months go I guess!

@Sweetmamam: @Emsmems: @Pirouette: My DH was also against temping, but I went ahead with it anyway. Maybe I am a bit obsessive about it, but I think I'm less stressed than I would be if I had less of an idea what was going on with my body. So it's been good for me overall.

DH has no idea that I do temp, because he sleeps right through it. I did revisit the issue with him later on and gently explained why it was important to me to do it and what the benefit was, and he was more okay with it.

I just don't involve him in any aspect of my temping or talk about it with him so I don't appear obsessed. It makes it seem like a more casual activity, and it's made him more comfortable with the idea.

@Lately: that's interesting. i certainly wouldn't share the details of it with DH or involve him in the temping process, but how do you temp without him knowing? haha, your DH must be a heavy sleeper, because i feel like mine would definitely hear the beeping! my doc told me she wants to see me after 2 more cycles to discuss my options (assuming no BFP), and DH wanted to wait a little longer trying naturally, so maybe if it's a way to put off doc intervention so soon, he'll be more open to it. of course, as you point out, it has nothing to do with him, and it's not like he doesn't already hear my alarm, so what's the big deal?

I also don't think he's worried about me being crazy about it, i just don't think he fully understands temping, like what it does and why i want to do it, he just thinks of it as timing BD i think, which is not at all what it's about. Maybe he thinks i'll only want to BD when my temp says so, haha!

@Pirouette: I see temping as still trying "naturally". Maybe my DH was upset by the idea of planning out sex or taking a scientific approach to TTC, but the truth is that temping won't give you any advance warning of ovulation. It can only tell you when it has happened already.

I think that was how I broke through to my DH. I explained that after having my ovulation suppressed for 12 years by BCP, it was a way of checking up on my body to see whether it was doing what it needed to do for us to conceive. He probably found that a lot less threatening or invasive.

I really do love temping. I am thrilled by the crosshairs that showed up on my chart this morning. Highlight of my day so far.

@marionberry: @Lately: My DH wasn't all that big into the temping and OPKing and everything when we first started either. I think he thought I was going overboard and that we just needed to have sex and we'd be fine. My plan was to OPK until I got a positive to confirm that I was O-ing after BC. Only I never got a positive. So then I started temping. Still nothing. Turned out I have PCOS and wasn't ovulating.

Guys just don't get it. They don't do the research we do, and they don't always know all the details (CM, fertile days, etc.)

@amreis: I think we could've "forced" BD while he was sick but he was miserable! And I would hate to look back and remember conceiving our first (and possibly only) child while *that* ill. Not too romantic!

@LindsayInNYC: Us, too! I agree about remembering back. When I told DH that I had O'd and that Friday would have been the perfect night, I think he actually felt bad. Then I felt bad for telling him!

@MrsCB: interesting! i don't know much about it yet (was planning on consulting Dr. Google over the next 2 months, haha) but I didn't know you could be "clomid resistant!" i mean, i know it doesn't work for everyone, but i don't really know enough about it to understand why not. i know it doesn't work if you have problems with your fallopian tubes or something blocking, but beyond that i'm clueless!

I think my doc wanted to do monitoring, because she talked a lot about working together to get me to O, but i didn't know enough about it to ask the right questions. since this was more of a preliminary conversation during my annual appt, we didn't discuss all the details. If my doc refused to do monitoring, i guess I'd look for an RE to work with, but i think my doc would monitor assuming she has the equipment to do so onsite (she's a GYN, so maybe not?).

@Pirouette: Femara does the same thing as Clomid without the side effects. If you are resistant, it's been known to work for people when Clomid doesn't b

@doxielove: we think probably when I had a scooter accident in 2004, coincidentally also the year I got diagnosed with PCOS. At the time my knee was the major concern but looking back at my abdomen X-ray from the time I can actually see the joint stretching already. Crazy right?

Am so bleeping sore today though, holy heck. Not entirely sure how I'm going to get through a day of teaching, not a big fan of painkillers.

@doxielove: yup, about eight weeks of manipulation and then I should be golden (and ovulating regularly, and getting knocked up hopefully)

@Sugar.Biscuit: ((Hugs))

@Sugar.Biscuit: hang in there, i know how you feel. I felt pretty distressed after AF came a couple days ago and felt like this is never going to happen for me, but it most definitely will happen for us.
@doxielove: definitely try to hold out a few more days, no need for unnecessary disappointment so early on!

@LindsayInNYC: thanks