squash / 13760 posts
@MamaLlama: @agold: oops I realized that I misspoke--if DH is a carrier the odds of baby having it are 25% . So better than 50%! but I am still freaking out because this particular variant is relatively common for Ashkenazi Jews (which we both are) to be carriers. I am kicking myself for not having had this testing done at like 8 week so it would all be resolved by now.
@MamaLlama: it's not quite as hot where we are (PA) but I imagine we will be out of the house a lot because I have two older kids, so we will be in the heat and not in the A/C inside. So I'm imagining a lot of long sleeved onesies, short sleeved onesies and light blankets if needed. And maybe a stroller fan?
pea / 21 posts
@mrsAds @hilsy85: thanks for the tips! It’s going to be hard to stay away from all those cute outfits on sale for the holidays haha — on the other hand, it sounds like having a summer baby mean a lot less gear (at least initially). I love the suggestion of the stroller fan, hadn’t thought of that.
@hilsy85: hope you get the results soon and they come back with good news. Waiting for results is so hard!
pomegranate / 3198 posts
@MamaLlama: Im in Southern California, also. My girl is only 15 months and I already sort of forget what we slept in her when she was a newborn! I am pretty sure just a onsie and a sleep sack. She was born in late August and it was hot. However, we also run our AC pretty much all year long so its always a consistent temperature in the house. Once we moved her to her crib and out of the sleep sac, she now sleeps in a zippered fleece footie all year long! And since the weather here is so consistent, I haven't needed any different baby gear during our "winter" as opposed to our summer.
@MrsADS: I'm always worried about hot cars, too. I try to turn the car on first, leave my driver door open, then take my girl to her side of the car in the back seat. I hate to put her in a hot car, close her door, and then go to my car door! And I have already been worrying about how I will do all of this with two kids!
@hilsy85: Oh so interesting you are both Ashkenazi Jews. I recall that being a box to check with respect to the genetic screening. Is it an anemia that can be passed along? Whatever it is, I'm praying you don't have to worry about it.
@agold: SoCal weather is so amazing! I’m in the Sac Valley so our weather changes a lot during the year — super hot summers and cold (but not freezing) winters. Although my kiddos are both May babies, I had my firstborn in the Southern Hemisphere. We were living in a coastal town in South America — you’d think it would be warm, right? But instead it has a Seattle like weather — chilly and rainy most of the year. Most people (but not all) there don’t usually run AC units so it’s necessary to bundle up before going anywhere. I remember dressing my daughter like an onion (many layers) the first few months. Which meant tons of clothes and blankets plus the resulting laundry. This time will definitely be a change.
@agold: its not an anemia, it's something related to hormone regulation and the adrenal glands. Thanks
How are all the May moms doing? Anything new?
I have my anatomy scan tomorrow. I'm starting to want to wear only maternity pants. And dreading the anticipated cost of childcare. Otherwise this is such an uneventful pregnancy for me.
pear / 1912 posts
@agold pretty quiet here. I had a recheck ultrasound today for my placenta previa and the placenta has moved up out of the way. Woohoo! Baby looks good. I have to start vaginal progesterone suppositories tonight - until like 35 weeks, so that is going to be really sucky. (I had preterm labor and cervix changes with #1 so this is hopefully to prevent that).
Thankfully my nausea is nearly gone (still a few queasy moments occasionally) and I'm STARVING all the time. I have to start being careful b/c I feel like I could gain a TON of weight over the holidays.
Edit: I'm 16 weeks and definitely in maternity pants now.
@MrsADS: Great news about your placenta previa. Too bad about the suppositories. But anything to keep baby safe, right? I hope you don't have preterm labor this time. How scary. And yes, I have to be careful about what I'm eating, too. I don't want to gain anything just from me "eating for two". Ha! Growing baby doesn't need two portions of the fudge I made of the weekend for no reason except holidays.
@MrsAds: congrats on the good news about the placenta previa!!!! Two weeks ago during my 16 week appt the doc checked mine and she wasn’t quite sure if it had moved completely out of the way, so I’m waiting until my 20 week u/s in two weeks. I hope I get the all clear then!
@agold: how did the anatomy scan go? Same here when it comes to maternity clothes. Definitely looking preggo these days.
We’re moving this week to our new place which is 30-40 mins from our current place. We really like it and are excited to start “nesting” there. I’ve started buying baby clothes and some toys (mainly buying second hand baby stuff and will buy any new items I wasn’t able to find closer to May). Something I do want to invest in is a comfy glider — did any of you find it useful for feedings?
@mamallama we could not have survived without our glider/rocker. We still use it daily with our 2 year old at bedtime, so we are going to buy a 2nd one for the new baby! Not just for feeding, but rocking, etc.... like everything. Hope your placenta moves completely out of the way, sounds like it is on the way!
Is anyone feeling movement yet? I'm not but curious when I will. (16 weeks now). I didn't feel my son until super late, like 22+ weeks.
@MamaLlama: Hi, mama! Congrats on the move. That's exciting. Did you move because of job or need for bigger place? I need to move for a bigger place but we are waiting until after baby arrives. When do you have your 20-week scan? Mine went great this morning. Thank you for asking! My girl is measuring right on track. I think buying second hand stuff is great, especially clothes. Just wash them on hot when you bring them home. I never would have thought I would buy second hand stuff but I've surprised myself how often I do it now. With respect to a glider, I think having one is amazing. I use mine all the time. That is one thing I would suggest spending your time looking into and making sure you get a good one that works for you. Its a piece of furniture you can keep for years. I went cheap on things like crib and changing table, but bought nicer for glider and baby's mattress. I expect to keep my glider forever. Best of luck with whatever you find!
@MrsADS: I use my glider so much that I've thought about getting a second one, too! I don't have room for one now (new baby doesn't even have a room) but specifically not having access to my glider if LO#1 is sleeping in her room or something has me worrying! I'm a day away from 19 weeks and I have started to feel movement recently. I think you will feel it within a couple of weeks for sure!
@mrsAds: at 16 weeks I started to feel little flutters. I’m 18 weeks now and can feel the baby from the outside from time to time (although not super frequently). I can usually feel him if I lay down on my back for a couple of minutes — otherwise, if I’m doing stuff or standing up I can’t feel him yet. Hope you get to feel yours move soon — it’s the best! I’m looking forward to when my 4 year old can feel the baby kick — I know she’ll be super excited.
@agold: congrats on the scan results!! It feels great to know everything is right on track. My scan is in two weeks — can’t wait.
We relocated back to NorCal a year and a half ago and have been living in an apartment. Now that we’re more established in the area we decided to rent a house — we definitely need the space and miss having a yard. Plus, our little one starts school next year and wanted a better school district than the one we are currently living in. Nesting mode, ON. Haha.
I didn’t have a glider the first time around, but now it seems like such a great idea. Specially now I know other moms have found it super useful. I’m gonna have to start going out to furniture stores and doing some hands on research to see what feels comfy.
Hi everybody! How’s everybody doing? I had my 20 week scan at the end of Dec and everything looks good plus no more pelvic rest — woohoo! Baby has been active and everything seems more real. I won’t need to look for gliders cause Santa got me one — which was definitely a surprise — did a great job finding a comfy chair. My only complaint right now is that my hips ache all the time. But this will be our last baby so I’m trying to “enjoy” as much as possible.
@MamaLlama: Hi! I miss this May Mama chat group! So great to hear you your 20 week scan came back great and that you and your baby are doing good. That's awesome you got a glider for Christmas. What a great present! I'm so sorry about your hip pain. You have a great attitude about it, though!
I'm doing well. Just hit 23 weeks today, which seems like a great milestone. My 20 week ultrasound revealed a velamentous cord insertion, though. Ugh. I was hoping for a really uneventful pregnancy. But now I have to get an ultrasound every month plus twice weekly NSTs once I hit 34 weeks. First growth ultrasound is next week. I also have to go to an MFM specialist towards the end of the month for a more thorough ultrasound (since the ones done at my doctor's office are not performed by an actual doctor). Not great timing to do any of this work-wise, especially the twice-weekly trips to the hospital. But whatever is needed to keep checking on my girl, I'm happy to do. Meanwhile, she's moving around like crazy day and night! So fun to feel her.
I hope all the rest of the May moms are doing great! Please check in and give updates!
Hi all! Nice to hear from you again. I am doing okay, just trucking along. 20 weeks this week. Had the anatomy scan this week and everything looks good. I am starting to have a lot of contractions (I had preterm labor with baby 1), but my cervix still looks fine. I feel like I'm so much bigger now than I was with baby #1 at this point!
I'm starting to feel a little stressed about all the things I need/would like to get done before baby arrives. I feel like all my free time/weekend time is taken up by taking care of my 2 year old and just general life stuff like laundry, cooking, etc. and I have no time for anything else.
@agold bummer about all the monitoring! I don't know anything about velamentous cord. Hopefully it's nothing to worry about.
@mamallama I also have major pain in my hip/very low back (like my tailbone area). It's over on one side and not all the time, but when it gets aggravated, it hurts sooo bad.
@MrsADS: I'm glad your 20 week scan looked great. And I am hoping so hard that you don't have to deal with pre-term labor. Do you have to go for extra monitoring since you are having contractions? How early did you deliver your first baby?
And when you talk about preparing for this new baby, what kinds of things are you needing to do? I only ask because I honestly hardly even make plans about this new baby girl that's growing and I feel terrible! I'm so busy with work and LO#1. I will have to take bassinet out of storage and re-install infant carseat. But crap.. what else am I forgetting??
@agold I had preterm labor with baby #1 but he was actually born at term. With him I started having contractions around 22/23 weeks and my cervix was shortening and funneling, so I had a ton of extra monitoring, bedrest, meds, etc. but baby didn't come early. So yeah, with this baby they are checking my cervical length every 2-3 weeks starting now, and I am on vaginal progesterone suppositories to try to stop/slow contractions and prevent cervical changes. So far so good, although my contractions with this baby started much earlier (more like 16 weeks-ish). They aren't too bad though (yet).
With stuff to do for baby, I wasn't stressed at all... until I started making my to-do list. I mean it's not horrible, but a fair amount of stuff. We have 3 bedrooms, and we need to switch up everything. Right now we have my son's room (nursery) and a larger guest room. We are going to move my son into the larger room and keep the nursery (his current room) for the new baby. But our guest room is full of boxes and junk I need to go through, organize, etc. And then move my son over and get some new furniture, etc. I just know all of that is going to take a lot of time! And we need to buy a new larger car.
@MrsADS: Okay yes... that all makes sense. Will you keep the larger room as a possible guest room still? And what will you do with all the boxes? I think we are actually going to rent a small storage unit this month. I can't even believe its getting to that point, but we slowly keep removing a piece of furniture from our house to open it up! My poor LO#2 won't even have her own room until we move, so that actually saves me a lot of the prep work. But I've been worrying about how to add the new baby to our currently tight set up. LO#1 has a huge wall length closet that I've currently got all used up with her stuff. So I'm going to have to clear out half of that to use for LO#2. And I'm at a loss with what to do with my glider, which I love and use for LO#1 all the time. Small issues that take up a bunch of mind space!!
@agold I know what you mean - small issues take up a lot of mind space, exactly. Well, my mom comes and visits frequently (like once every 6-8 weeks) and stays in the guest room, so I do sort of still need the guest space. But the room my son is in is really tiny - it would be hard for him to share with the new baby. I mean, baby will be in our room at first, but eventually will be in his own room. And my son was such an awful sleeper for so long. I don't want him and possibly terrible sleeping baby to be in a room together - I don't really see that working, you know? I'm thinking I'll get rid of the large queen bed in the guest room and replace with a twin, then my mom can still sleep in there and just share the room with my 2yo when she visits? There's not room for a queen bed AND my son's bed and furniture (it would be super tight).
And even though the baby will sleep in our room for a while, like when my son was born, we still used his nursery during the night to nurse, change diapers, rock, etc. and then I would just walk him into the Rock & Play in our bedroom once he fell asleep. But he was a REALLY challenging baby with colic and bad reflux, so he wasn't a newborn who would just nurse and go back to sleep. It would take HOURS, so we would be in his nursery during that time. So... I don't know where I'll do that with baby #2 if he doesn't have his own room, you know? And like you said - do I need another glider? I am thinking maybe?!
And I can't decide if I want to buy a 2nd crib or force my son out to a big kid bed. We have a cheap Ikea crib, so I don't mind spending the money, but ugh... decisions decisions!
@MrsADS: I think you have awesome options to work with. I love the idea of using the bigger room as LO#1's room and the guest room when needed. Is LO#1 still doing well in his crib? If so, I'd buy a second crib, and maybe even wait to do so since you plan on keeping baby in your room for a bit. That's what I'm doing with my second-crib decision. (Although, not having a third room in my house by default makes me have to wait. But LO#1 is still happy in crib, so I'm leaving her there as long as possible.)
As for third bedroom, if I had a third bedroom, I was thinking about getting a full bed for LO#1 when its time to take her out of her crib conversion bed. That way there is a nice bed for guests when needed. I know one friend who did this with her girl.
So nice to hear from you guys
@agold: how did the growth ultrasound go? It’s hard to do all those extra monitoring appointments, but I’m guessing it also gives reassurance knowing things are being tracked and everything is ok.
@mrsAds: I also feel gigantic with this second pregnancy versus my first. I know I am though by the photographic evidence haha. Hope everything is going good and the contractions are not bothering you.
I’m having a similar debate about sleeping arrangements. We have three rooms, but I don’t think we’ll put the baby in his own room for a while. Our first time around our baby slept in our room and that worked out well for us since she would wake up frequently to eat — so we will likely repeat the set up with the crib next to our bed but I’m debating about changing the bed for us and getting a king sized bed instead because our little one still comes over in the middle of the night and as I get bigger and bigger we’re not going to fit in the one queen bed. We can then give our queen to her and maybe she will sleep more comfortably there than in the twin she currently has (which I think sometimes wakes her up because she moves around so much).
@MamaLlama: Thanks for checking in! The first growth ultrasound went great! Baby girl is measuring right on track so I'm praying this umbilical cord thing won't end up being an issue. I have an ultrasound with the special MFM doctor this thursday and that should reveal some good info. I had one of these ultrasound with my last baby for a different reason and its amazing to have an in depth ultrasound done by an actual doctor who talks to you about what he sees while he's doing it. And yes. the extra monitoring will suck. I think it kicks in at 36 weeks (or maybe 34.. i need to confirm) and will be done Tuesdays and Fridays at my doctor's office. Tuesdays will be fine but Fridays... yikes. Going to present a problem for me workwise, but it is what it is. Has to be done and I'm determined to enjoy it.
As for your bed situation.. I would for sure get yourself the king mattress if you can afford to do so. Treat yourself! Oh my, I can't imagine sleeping on a queen with my husband and I love him dearly! Great idea to give your LO the queen. I'm pretty sure I will get my daughter at least a full when she gets her bed for a whole host of reasons.
persimmon / 1324 posts
Hi ladies. Sad news from me. I had to be induced just over 20 weeks due to a suspected uterine infection. Nothing was ever confirmed but I started to have cramping and bleeding, was kept on bedrest in the hospital for about 4 days, but my fluid levels dropped to below what the baby could survive. I just never thought something like this would happen to me. I can't imagine trying to get pregnant again, so trying to make peace with being a family of 3. Sorry to bring the board down - good luck with the rest of your pregnancies, to all of you.
hostess / wonderful grape / 20760 posts
@ScarletBegonia: I'm so very sorry for your loss. Losing a baby so late into pregnancy is unthinkable. We said goodbye to our third son when I was almost 19 weeks pregnant. It has been a year and a half and while I still think of him every single day and grieve for him, the pain doesn't cut as deeply anymore. Sending you love and healing
@scarletbegonia oh I am so so sorry to hear this. I am sending prayers to you and your family, I hope you can find peace and healing
kiwi / 639 posts
@ScarletBegonia: I hope you don't mind me jumping in here, but I just wanted to express my deepest sympathies. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers.
@ScarletBegonia: Oh, no! I'm so so sorry to hear about this. I hope you have lots of support from your husband, your family, and your nice girlfriends.
@scarletbegonia: I’m so sorry for your loss. Hope time and love heals your heart.
Hey, May Mamas!! I'm just checking in. What are you all doing to prepare for your babies' quickly approaching births???
I just got a notificiation from amazon that my registry discount kicked in, which means I'm about 60 days away from my due date. I'm so busy at work that I haven't had a chance to breathe in weeks and its not letting up any time soon.
What are you all currently doing in preparation or anticipation? And how are you all feeling??
@agold I am in denial that it's getting so close!!! Well, I'm due at the end of May so I have a little more time (but not that much). I think a lot of this group chat migrated to the Facebook page. I've done a few things to prepare, but have a lot more to do. We bought a minivan and went to Ikea to get another dresser, furniture, etc. for the baby and we're in the process of cleaning out the guest room for the baby. That's about it! I still have stuff I need to buy and organize. I'm about to start my dairy free/soy free diet next week (since my first had terrible reflux and MSPI) so I'm not looking forward to that. I passed my GD test. Otherwise just rolling along! This pregnancy is going fast.
@MrsADS: I figured that this month group moved to facebook. So sad since I don't have it. A few of my friends IRL are having babies close to mine so its nice to chat with them. But I loved chatting here with my baby #1! You are doing a lot of stuff with the new car and new furniutre! I suppose I lucked out in a sense that baby #2 doesn't even have her own room yet! So no new furniture to buy. Poor girl. I am looking to buy a house, though! Sold mine already and will be renting it back once escrow closes. Yikes! And yes.. this pregnancy is going so fast! I have terrible reflux but it doesn't seem to be triggered by any particular food. Just usually when I'm sitting down for too long. I worry I'm gaining a little too much weight. My reflux was so bad with pregnancy number 1 that I hardly ate and had no trouble losing the pregnancy weight after the baby was born. Worried about that this time around!
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