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I know how you feel. My husband and I are on our 16th cycle and next month we have THE appointment. The one that determines if we are going to move forward with IUI or IVF or decide to adopt. These past 9 months have been the hardest of my life. Whenever I got the most overwhelmed I decided to forget temping and obsessing over my chart. It was easy for me to let go because my cycles are very regular and our infertility is male factor, so I don't need months of charts to hand to my doctor. Taking a break from charting has made it all a little easier for me.

ETA- There have also been a couple of months where we decided to BD when we wanted, not because I was fertile. I think that was good for my mental health as well.

If you ever want to talk or vent, post on my wall and I'll give you my email. There are a few of us 12+ month ttc-ers on the boards and some who have made it to the other side. You aren't alone.

I just wrote on your wall, ha ha, but I'll say this again here. Taking a break was super tough, but has been worth it in the long run. I wouldn't have made it to month 20 without mentally checking out a bit, I don't think.
Also - I'm willing to pass along email/Facebook info if you need someone to chat to!

@sweetooth: It really seemed like an eternity. I had 2 CPs along the way, so, while they sucked HARD, for me, it helped me to know that I could get pregnant. And my ob/gyn never gave me a referral to an RE - i found the study myself! I just realized last night that my ENTIRE PREGNANCY could fit twice into our TTC timeline. Oh well.

While all of us loong TTC-ers have a lot in common, i think it's amazing how different our stories are, too. I know how hard it is. Good luck finding what will work for you, mentally besides whatever RE assistance you may need!

I'm on month 15/cycle 16 myself. It's a tough road. (((Hugs))) After Cycle 12 or so, I took a much neede break from most things TTC, meaning no charting, no forum reading, no blog reading, etc. It helped me so much. I felt so much more like my normal self instead of being an obsessed person going through the day waiting until the next temperature or waiting until I could test, or waiting until I was going to O. I definitely know what you mean about one stupid temperature ruining/affecting your whole day!

We're going to be heading to the doctors in the next few months, so I get you on the fear that accompanies that. I am very scared to find out if we have issues, but I'm also looking forward to finding out if it's something that can be fixed.

Good luck and take care!

We decided that we needed a break from TTC and regular life in general after 10 months of no luck- we booked a cruise even though we couldn't technically afford it at that time. Little to no internet or contact with the real world for a week, we felt so relaxed and together.

We spent the rest of the year paying it off, but taking that break and vacation was so worth it for our relationship and mental health, and we accidentally conceived the first night of vacation!

At our 18th month mark- I stopped everything- no charting, no Opk's, nothing. I took a break from the boards and I felt so much better afterwards! My 19th cycle was clomid and ovidrel and it was our lucky cycle. I like to think that the month off was a huge help in concieving in our 19th month! Whatever you do- good luck and stay strong. The hardest part is the mental aspect of TTC.