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I don't have any advice because I am not pregnant yet with #2, but I am already feeling this way! So I think it is pretty normal!

Totally felt that way. But it's so true what everyone says, your heart just doubles. And you get to love 2 sweet babies that much! And they will be best friends (knock on wood!!) congrats

Totally normal thing to worry about. We were lucky and had a very easy transition and DD loved her brother from the start. I still do feel very guilty that DD doesn't get my undivided attention anymore and DS has never had it but I think the joy they bring each other fills the gap for them. Nothing like seeing your kids play together!

@Coffee-lover: I'm so relieved to see this...I had an early miscarriage last year and even in that early stage I had emotional moments where I felt so sad/overwhelmed that I wouldn't have 100% attention on my LO! I ended up confessing this to a friend in real life recently (who is currently pregnant) & her reaction made me feel terrible! She was really surprised & was like 'oh I bet you didn't feel like that for long!' 🙄 I felt rotten even admitting it out loud, especially after that reaction. Anyway, rambles aside...just wanted to say I think it's normal! We are yet to conceive our rainbow babe but I know we will all have more than enough space in our hearts for them when they choose to arrive. All the best!

I posted about this too. I felt like I was never able to get really excited about my pregnancy because I was so worried about how it would affect my son. The good news is that after all my worrying, my son loves his baby brother and is thrilled to have him here, the transition has been so much easier than I feared! We got a book (Waiting for Baby) and emphasized that he was going to be a big brother, that it was a very special job, and that mommy and daddy would still love him just as much and he was still going to be just as special to is.

Something that helped me to remember was: I have a younger brother. I was 23 months when he arrived, and I don't remember it at all. What I do remember is all the fun we had together growing up.

I totally understand feeling this way! I am also pregnant with #2 and I have been really sick with this one. I feel like I am already not giving her enough attention/ doing enough fun stuff with her. I just try to keep in mind that a sibling is her best friend and playmate forever.

Yours are close enough in age that they will almost be "Irish twins". My brother and sister are 18 months apart and 1 grade apart in school and they have always shared friend groups and interests.

I felt this way for much of my pregnancy, it's definitely normal! Change is hard, whether it's good change or bad change. Dd1 absolutely adores her sister, from the second we brought her home from the hospital. Has it been hard learning to share me? At times, yes, but that comes hand in hand with the immense joy her sister brings, and also that it's good for dd1 to learn to be more independent from me. And for my youngest, as much as I feel guilty that she has my divided attention, what she has that my oldest did not is the undivided attention of dd1, and what an amazing thing that is. its cheesy, but I often say that love doesn't add or subtract, it only multiplies congrats!!

Having DD2 was the best thing I could have done for DD1. Even though they squabble a bunch, at 2 & 4 it is AMAZING to watch them together. They love each other so, so much. My 2 year old will do anything for her big sister. Just the other day, she thought a big boy (probably 6 years old) pushed DD1, so little DD2 ran up to him, pointed a finger, and said "No push my <DD1's name>! You not my best friend!" We're adding #3, and while I'm of course a little worried about how DD1 and DD2 will feel when this one arrives, I can only imagine how much more sibling love they'll all have to go around!

I'm only thinking about number 2 and feeling guilty! From reading through the thread it seems very normal. My LO will be over 3 if we do have another, possibly even 4 so on one hand I think he's not a baby so it's ok to have another baby but then I feel bad shaking up the family we've all gotten used to!