I always have a hard time figuring out how much money to spend on gifts. I had my baby shower before a lot of my friends and if I was more organized I would be able to tell you what everyone got me and so I would spend the same on them. Well, I only remember the really generous or original gifts (oops).

So my questions are: Do you spend the same amount as was spend on you? Is the etiquette similar to a wedding, where you are supposed to "cover" your plate? If it isn't too personal, can you tell me how much you spend on a husband's friend's wife?

Sorry if this is tacky or controversial, I am just stumped (also broke, did I mention I have a kid? )!