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I would stop trying to fight this battle. Make whatever you want and let him deal with it. He won't starve.

I just wouldn't let that be a problem. He's a grown up and can cook his own dinner if he has a problem with what you make.

If he doesn't want to help plan, he doesn't get to complain. Period. It sounds like you've made a big effort to include him in the process and he just isn't interested... I would just make whatever I want, and probably snap at him if he made any comments about my choices

You tried! If he makes those passive aggressive comments then I'd just point out the fact that you've tried to include him and ask him multiple times to choose but he doesn't! Beggars can't be choosers!

Honestly, that is kinda rude. Have you told him that hurts your feelings? You are busy working, raising your LO, pregnant, etc. The least he can be is appreciative if he doesn't want to be helpful when it comes to suggestions. If he has such a problem, I'd tell him he can make himself a sandwich, or cereal or whatever. Hang in there!!

Constantly.
DH complains I make the same stuff over and over.
I ask - what do you want for dinner. His response: "Food."

@#$%$#@#$%^ kick in the head please.

I go through this alot with my husband too. It's not just meals at home, but take out too (we do that just as much if not more).

Last night what I heard him say was 1/2 chicken dark no sides. I brought home that for him and two sides (just easier & can be left over for me) and meatloaf for me. Well, all of a sudden he wants meatloaf and I should *know* he only likes rotisserie chicken from X place. I went Y and this was the first time I went to Y for him. Oh boy! NBD, we'll switch and I'll use the leftover chicken in something else. What do you know he ate the sides.

Alot of what I hear after I finish cooking something he first tells me he doesn't want is "I'll have *your* ABC" and then "Is there anymore?" Nowadays I cook primarily for what I want to eat and just make sure the type/ cuts of meat are things he wI'll eat too.

@Mrs D: Your DH sounds a lot like mine, with his bizarre food rules and total lack of planning input! It doesn't usually get as far as me cooking the meal - he usually says he "doesn't fancy that" every other night then goes to the shop and buys something else. Then the meal I've planned goes to waste (or gets frozen, but then when I defrost it he doesn't fancy it so it goes to waste then!). I go through phases of not meal planning, but then we have a nightly argument in which neither of us know what we want for dinner and don't fancy the other person's suggestions! Its a nightmare!!

This is nuts to me. DH is disabled so he doesn't really have the option to make his own food. I buy and cook the same basic stuff each week that I know he likes. The only imperative is that it had to be vegetarian. He never complains and he always says thank you, this is good. Sounds like your guy needs a reality check. He should be grateful or make his own dinner.

@blackbird: Amen! Same here! If I'm getting meals on the table 5 or 6 nights out of 7, DH knows better than to say anything other than "this is delicious!"

You are far too gracious. I vote you delegate meal planning and grocery shopping to him for a week or a month.

M isn't picky, I am. So I meal plan and cook things I like. My Mom still gives me a hard time about being a picky eater, welp not anymore since I'm the chef in my house. M is GF which makes meal planning a challenge sometimes, but we both like corn pasta and our local bakery makes gf sandwich bread.

My DH is never good at coming up with suggestions, nor does he have time to think about anything related to meal planning so i can commiserate on that end. However, he is not picky and he is thankful for the food i am able to put out on the dinner table every day. The man knows better than to complain about the meal choice, especially with two kids and busy work schedules.

I think if DH made little comments here and there, i would be really resentful. Even if it came down to me saying "eat a sandwich." You're bending over backwards for his input and he still responds that way? Honestly, just "this is what i'm making this week and i'm going grocery shopping right now. this is your last chance to make any changes" should be enough.

@deerylou: "I don't have time for a man child who does the same. "

yes! I'm only the parent to 1 child!

I make whatever I want. He's not picky but won't eat anything without meat in it. I make what's convenient for me since I'm the one cooking...he just has to deal with it. It'd be different if he cooked! I ask at the beginning of the week if there is anything he wants me to make, and if he doesn't suggest I just do whatever is easiest for kids and I.

This us my DH. He is extremely picky but has ZERO suggestions. I basically make what I want barring things I know he actually hates (like fish) but I consistently serve veggies and sides that he says he doesn't like because he claims to only like broccoli but won't eat that half the time either. I got met with a lot of resistance for a long time and it added to tension in our marriage but he's learn to eat it or make something he wants. He rarely complains these days but it was fight for a while and it's still discouraging when I cook a meal for him and he doesn't eat it.

@Mrs D: I plan my meals with the following things in mind:

1. What will DD like?
2. What will DH like?
3. What is easiest/will take the least time?

I'm in charge of grocery shopping and cooking - I don't need to ask DH! He loves everything I cook which is great.

If you already know what things he likes, could you just go ahead and make the decision yourself?