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The title would bother me, but I'd just let it go (Though I would be really rolling my eyes and venting to DH, haha). As long as the list isn't an outrageous amount of people (and isn't really increasing the price for whomever is paying), I'd just let her bring her friends.
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@blackbird: That link....wow!
I think others are right that it's just more presents. Other than greeting these extra people and thanking them for coming, you probably don't need to interact with them all that much if there will be other people there.
If I was your friend, I would have wrote back: "Thanks for your list. See you at Ms. Griz's shower." I'm a little protective of my friends.
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You have a really good attitude about it and it sounds like your hostesses do too! As long as it's fine with them, yeah, whatever. They will keep your MIL occupied and more presents, so whatever.
The title would really bother me, but at least you get a laugh out of it. You'll have much bigger issues to deal with her, so easy enough to let this one go.
I really don't understand this grandparents mentality of MY grandchild. Like, yes, get excited for the baby and all, but they had their own babies, now this is your baby and they are only the grandparents. Secondary.
Of course, my parents sometimes fall on the other end of the spectrum where I'm like, um, hello, why aren't you more excited??
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@swedishfish: No reasoning with crazy MIL's. Seriously, it's a losing battle the more I have to deal with mine. They are so set in their ways and are so convinced they're right. The trick I'm learning is to find subtle ways around their crazy.
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@Foodnerd81:
"I really don't understand this grandparents mentality of MY grandchild. Like, yes, get excited for the baby and all, but they had their own babies, now this is your baby and they are only the grandparents. Secondary."
It's creepy isn't it. My MIL posts stuff on FB referring to her "kids." DH is 33 and BIL is 27 years old. They're no longer kids. They're adults. DH is married with a family, so out of that spectrum of "kid." I'm more convinced that she's holding onto the golden years of when he was a kid/teen because the reality of life today for her is nothing like what it was.
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I had things like this constantly while planning my wedding. MIL actually said that weddings are for the parents, not the couple...she was the reason we invited more than 350 people...
I'm sure we'll have the same issue with the baby shower...I just grin and bare it, then talk to hubby or SIL about her craziness. There's more important battles to be waged...and like others said, more presents!
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@cascademom: I don't mind the 'my kids' thing if they are referring to the humans they raised, even if they are adults. It's when 'my kids' refer to their grandchildren that really gets me.
Then again, I might get a little jealous when my mom refers to the students she teaches as 'my kids'. I'm like, NO, WE'RE your kids, mom! This might speak to my maturity level though. (My mom's children range in age from 38 to 26. None are kids at this point).
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@Foodnerd81: haha, my mom's is a retired kindergarten teacher. She used to say that too.
The whole "my kids" referring to my child (her grandchild) is funny because when we had the visit from hell, she kept on saying "you're the mama" to me like she was trying to convince herself of it like she couldn't write me off when we were just a married couple in hopes of us divorcing which she told me a few times. She has to acknowledge the fact that her grandchild is my son and what I say goes.
MIL also focused on what milestones DH and BIL hit whenever we mention LO's. She's never offered helpful advice or anything. My mom actively gives us suggestions when we're struggling with sleep issues or other stuff.
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@Foodnerd81:
"I really don't understand this grandparents mentality of MY grandchild. Like, yes, get excited for the baby and all, but they had their own babies, now this is your baby and they are only the grandparents. Secondary."
^^THIS!!!^^
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I would let it go, but I would make sure to thanks everyone for "coming to MY shower, DH and I are so excited for OUR baby to be here".
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Hahaha I love the title she gave the list!! I would say anything
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@Foodnerd81: Agreed! My grandmother refers to my sister and I as her "kids," which annoys my mother to no end. I hope she remembers that when she starts talking about LO as "'her baby."
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I found out she also offered to pay for the cake, so I'm just gonna leave it alone. She's just weird and excited, and we all got a good laugh out of it!
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@grizz: Mmm, cake!
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