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The initial question I could see as just chit chat but the rest?.... Ummm not normal & definitely rude! And I would tell her my gameplan was to breastfeed my baby until it's going to college b/c breastfeeding burns a ton of calories... figure I'd be back in my prepreg clothes in no time with a baby attached to my tit 24/7! pfft lol

I think it totally depends on the intent. If someone's asking to be judge-y or competitive about it, it's rude. But if I feel like someone's asking actually out of information seeking for their own reference, or I know them really well I don't mind answering. I'm a little sensitive about it because I'm 29 weeks and still -4 pounds, so if I answer honestly, people tend to freak out and the only real explanation I can give it "I was fat to begin with, and my Dr's happy enough with my weight"

Same as when people asked me how much things cost for their weddings. If I felt like they were asking to figure out a ball park estimate for a wedding they were planning themselves (or hoping to plan) I never minded answering, but if you're just asking to be a cow... then it's annoying and rude.

@MamaMagpie: exactly. there shouldn't be a difference between things you can't ask a pregnant woman and things you can't ask a not pregnant woman.

Rude! Since you just meet her. If you Mom or friend asked not rude.

I think it's rude. There are a few people I have offered the information about my weight gain so far to and the responses were along the lines of "wow, that's more than I have ever weighed!!" and I'm sat there thinking "you've never been pregnant!!!" but just smile and ignore it. People are stupid.

Rude! I hated when people asked me. It's none of their damn business! It's even more rude considering she badgered you about it after you said you didn't know.

And as an FYI, they don't weigh you at all here in the UK so you dont "need" to know.

the initial question may not bother me much depending on how it's asked--i had some people ask in a genuinely "just curious" and nice way. but given her follow-up questions and comments, this is definitely rude. maybe she is thinking about getting pregnant and/or was pregnant and is very preoccupied with weight issues.

@zippylef: They don't weigh you at all? That's awesome. They throw down the scale like the gauntlet before you get to see the OB here!

Rude. Regardless of intent, I don't think it is ever okay to ask anyone their weight or if they've gained weight, etc.

@Espion: I saw an American doctor on our base here for 2/3rds of my pregnancy and they were NUTS about my weight. I told them not to tell me because I didn't want to know. I switched over to an NHS hospital in my 3rd trimester and, nope, they don't weigh you at all. I didn't even SEE a scale.

Rude Rude Rude! I'm sorry, but what is it about being pregnant that makes people think every question is fair game? I would never ask someone how much weight they'd gained, pregnant or not, and given how most people have at least some concern about how they are going to get their bodies back, i feel it should be completely off limits to ask someone how they feel about it or what they are going to do about it.

Rude! Unfortunately normal, too.

Rude!

I think it depends on the person but 9 times out of 10 I would consider this to be rude

@grizz: Rude.

My first thought was she just wanted to make chit chat, but the way she pressed on made me think she either has no filter and doesn't remember how it feels to be pregnant and gaining weight, or she's just rude.

@grizz: um, I think that's kind of f'ed up. pressing on and telling you you need to know so you can plan accordingly to work it off? no and no.

My husband's grandmother asked me how much I weighed when I was about 6 months. She was actually complimenting me on how good I looked and that it didn't look like I had gained much, but I told her I wasn't telling anyone my weight!

This one was way rude and too personal. My weight is none of anyone's concern but my own. I was super sensitive about my weight during pregnancy too since my mom insisted that I would not only end up like her and gain a ton of weight with each pregnancy, but that I wouldn't be able to lose it either. I was determined to prove her wrong by being as healthy as I could be. So I was definitely very sensitive to the weight comments. That's one thing people need to lay off of!