We have been casually "training" O for the last few months. Actually, it's probably more accurate to say she's been training herself. She's only 26 months, so we haven't felt any need to push it, but she wants to so we just go with it. It's hard to do the pants-less in the house method when we have other kids coming in and out, social workers, etc. So we have mostly just encouraged her to go sometimes, definitely let her go on the potty whenever she asks, and talked about what a big girl she's getting to be. It is starting to work-she's staying dry for longer and longer and is peeing on the potty at least 4-5 times every day and has pooped on the potty a few times. We got pull ups for her (I was skeptical thinking they'd feel too much like diapers) and they actually seem to be working as incentive to stay dry.

So I guess my question is, do kids get fully trained using this method or do they need a last little push before they really get it 100%? Because of her personality and also her early trauma, this is not something we want to become a power struggle in any way. If she senses pressure, she will definitely push back. So I'm tempted to just keep at it and see if eventually she gets reliable enough for underwear. Is that possible? So far I'd say she's maybe 50/50 using the potty vs. diaper.