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I try to focus on the exact moment. To actually experience it instead of tuning it out hoping for a better one, so to say. I also try to go easy on myself- sometimes things are rough, and it is okay to not be too thrilled. I also try to make a grateful list, like you did!

So sorry to hear that - how old is your baby?
When my child was a newborn, I find that you need to walk out of the house to get some sun in order to feel normal again. That first year was so, so hard. Especially my husband was going through some sort of postpartum depression himself and it made it super hard on me.

Now that LO is almost 4, life is so much better, easier in some ways but difficult in others. I started working out everyday for 30 minutes and maybe it helps me balance out.

I would like to know too how everyone keeps their heads up! It is not easy..

I ignore the stress as much as possible - I am lucky I can do that as my stress is not DH, DS, our home, or work. I talk to DH about it but not with coworkers or friends. Coworkers and friends know that about it a little bit but honestly if I told them all that has happened in the past year and a half they would be stunned and saddened. I focus on what I have - a lot to be thankful for despite what is going on and I continue to do what I love - spend time with DH, LO, workout (where I see my closest friends), go to church, etc.
I thought about talking to a therapist. I did that in the past for other issues but at this point I really don't think talking to a therapist is needed with what is going on for me.

I like to pray and surround myself with positive people or energy. I also don't hesitate to ask for help when I need it. I try to nip those green with envy thoughts right away. Things aren't always as they seem. 2015 was a rough year for a few of my closets friends and it reminded me that this life is so fleeting. Our one best and most important asset is having good health....everything is an added bonus. Hope you can find ways to de-stress and think positive thoughts.

This might sound weird but try listening to a song that might be related to what you are going through... like a sad song related to what you are going through.

I did this a lot in college and it worked for me, because I was stressed a lot in college. Haha. This might totally date me but "in the end by linken park" was my go to song during finals week.

Recently I read that it actually something to it because it validates your feelings and makes you feel better because you know that you are not alone in your feelings and you have the right to feel that way. I hope that makes sense.

Now in days I just talk to DH about my stresses and he usually calms me down.

I write in a gratitude journal and really try hard to focus on silver linings in overwhelming situations.

for instance:
money stress - I focus on income coming in, paid bills, good credit, etc.
busy with work - I have a job, I'm doing well, growing, learning
minor cold/flu - overall health

@JennyD: I'm so sorry - AB has been hit so hard due to falling oil prices.

I really just think about all the things i'm grateful for every day. I'm finding myself being pretty overwhelmed these days but i think about how lucky i am and it puts things in perspective.

(I now can't get "in the end" out of my head!)

I pray. I try to commit to nothing and cancel whatever I can. I exercise. I do whatever it takes to de-stress and avoid anything stressful except the bare minimum. And I give myself permission. I remind myself that this is temporary. I read non-fiction and take naps too. I avoid the news. Sometimes I call a friend. Hope you feel better soon.