So would I be able to say "instead of gifts, please bring a book to donate to 'such and such place'"? I don't want to be tacky. If it's apropriate, is there a good way to word it?
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Are you donating it to another organization? I don't think it is tacky and there have been other posts on here that have some wording suggestions. Just be prepared for people to not follow it, though.
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@anonysquire: I don't think it's tacky, although some people would disagree. Maybe you could edit the text though, so that it doesn't presume that people would bring a gift?
Might be safer to say: "Please just bring yourself - no gifts, please. If you do wish to bring something, a children's book for [so and so charity] would be a wonderful way to commemorate Z's birthday."
The wording was adapted from various articles, including this one which has a number of options you may prefer!
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I don't think it's tacky and I like Mr.Bee's wording!
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@singingbee: well the local children's hospital.
@mrbee: perfect!!! I love that!
@Ginabean3:
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I think its a nice gesture
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The friends that planned my baby shower stated in the invitation that what we wanted as gifts were books to build our child's library, so everyone should bring their favourite book from childhood. Everyone did, and also got us gifts for the most part! So I wouldn't be surprised if people ignore the "instead of"...
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I think its a wonderful idea!
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@anonysquire: you could say "Z is collecting books for x Charity!"
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I went to a bday party this summer where instead of gifts they were collecting books or the bday girls school. I thought it was great, and easier for me, shopping wise, since I wasn't worried about duplicates or whatever. I forget how she worded t but you have good suggestions on here.
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I think that's a really sweet idea! I know etiquette-wise, people think it's "tacky" to make any reference at all to gifts on an invite, but in cases like this, I think it's totally fine! Plus it's not like people would be surprised at the suggestion of bringing a gift to a birthday party
I like @mrbee's wording idea.
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It's not tacky. I like the idea of partying with a purpose.
@mrbee: your link is pretty helpful.
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Ok so can I have some wording help? Her theme is royalty and her invitation is chalk full of hear ye's and fancy words. How can I put this more fancy, lol?
While we are honored to have your presence at the party, please no gifts! (And then I want to add that they can bring a book for Primary Childrens hospital if they would like to).
Anyone?
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"Princess Z's royal birthday wish is to bestow the gift of the written word upon Primary Children's Hospital."
Something like that?
Normally, I say no mention of gifts on an invite, but I think since it's a donation, it's fine.
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@loveisstrange: love that!!! Thank you! I know it's a fine line between tacky and maybe ok
I like @mrbee's wording idea.
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