I'm not good at making friends. I have a couple of close friends and would like to have more, but I'm a major introvert. I also have social anxiety issues, so even if I meet someone I'd like to be friends with, it's nearly impossible for me to follow-up. I want DS to be able to make friends easily though, but worry because I'm not a good role model for that. Any other introverts/socially anxious folks out there going through the same thing?
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No advice really but how are you around kids? I don't always like small talk with adults, but I have no problem say following my child to the slide and helping strike up a convo with another child.
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@T.H.O.U.: Ha, I'm the same way - great talking to kids, not so great talking to adults. I just worry because I'm a WOHM and we only have ever had a few playdates with one child - a little girl who used to go to DS's daycare. Just want to make sure I'm creating situations for DS to make friends.
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@Katrocap: I find once I know my daughter and another child hits it off well, it's a bit easier to strike up a bit of a conversation too. I'm sure you'll do fine.
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I think one thing you can do that doesn't require you too leave your comfort zone is to teach your lo how to introduce himself and how to carry a "small talk" conversation. You two can role play at home and then encourage him to practice at the park. "Hi, I am Jack!" goes a long way towards starting toddler friendships of their own!
It's nice to go to the same place each week at the same time too. Even if you just stop in the library each Tuesday evening on your way home for twenty minutes you might find that another family does the same. Plus, being familiar with the environment makes it much easier for kids to branch out.
I am pretty introverted too so it's been hard for me to figure out what works for me. Frankly, running into extroverted people works the best!
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