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Following. My son who is 4.5 always wants to beat his younger brother at things and boasts when he does something faster and says ha ha I won and it bothers me. I know he is young and is proud of himself for doing something first or fast but I try to tell him not everything is a competition or about winning but he doesn't get it. If his younger brother does something first he gives the pouty face. Grant it he gets over it quick. Interested to hear others responses.

We deal with this sometimes...we try to say, "There's always next time!" I do find that I let him win a lot of the time though, which is probably not good. My nephew at 12 is still somewhat of a sore loser!

I noticed this when she first started playing a lot of games at summer camp last year, but then she just learned how to lose after awhile. So for her it was about increased exposure and I didn't have to do anything to try and help besides a few talks about how you can't win every time and there will always be another game with a different outcome tomorrow. I haven't heard of any other issues lately and she seems fine at getting tagged out when I take her to soccer on Saturdays now. This was difficult at first, too!

Must be a stage! The other night LO just threw the blocks down when she lost at Jenga. I gave her timeout and then when she came out I explained and modeled ways to handle when we are a graceful loser and graceful winner. We also talked about what it means to be a poor sport and the benefits of being a 'good' loser. I think it sank in. Time will tell. DH was thinking we might throw the game next time to encourage her and then support her in demonstrating being a good loser/winner.