A friend of mine just found out she's pregnant. Aaaaand now she has to suffer through Thanksgiving with the in-laws. How do you hide that you're not drinking and not spill the beans when you're with family early on in your pregnancy?
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You can just say you are on cold meds or antibiotics to answer the drinking question, and it would also explain if you aren't feeling well/queasy.
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I am so not helpful, but we told family. We are super close and are not ones to hide things like that. We just felt that if something happened we would share anyways.
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@babynumber1: my girlfriend has had a couple of losses so she is really nervous about telling anyone early. She won't even spill the beans here!
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You are the one that fills all the drinks that way no one is handing you something.
I had a work cocktail function at 9/10 weeks. I mixed juices together and it just looked like a girly cocktail.
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I'd probably just say I'm feeling dehydrated so I should really keep focusing on water rather than alcohol.
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I found out I was pregnant with c the Saturday before thanksgiving and wasn't ready to tell. I just poured myself a small glass of wine and held it all night without drinking and no one noticed. We went out to dinner the next night and I did the same, no one noticed I never needed to refill. It was a big enough group that no one watched my glass.
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I drink fake wine
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I'm 5 weeks and currently at my in-laws (after having had a loss in June). I don't really think anybody will say anything to my face about not drinking and I guess I don't really care if people comment when I'm not in the room. I just politely declined the offer for wine last night and requested a glass of water instead. They can think what they want....
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Vodka sodas, hold the vodka.
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When my SIL found out right before her sister's wedding, she would take her husband's empty beer bottles to the bathroom and fill them with water or soda and then just have one sitting there. She's a drinker so she tried really hard to make everything look normal and it would be very noticeable if she wasn't drinking at a wedding. Or she'd pour a glass of wine and take a couple sips and then conveniently "lose" her glass and just drink water. Or switch glasses with DH so it looked like she was drinking, when really he was just drinking for her and for himself!
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I'll either dump out a beer and fill it with water or go for mixed drinks without booze. Maybe she could bring ingredients for a cocktail like apple cider (pasteurized of course) and bourbon and just make hers bourbon-free.
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I pour a glass of red wine and take small sips here and there. As long as you have a drink in front of you no one notices and red wine doesn't need to be "refreshed" because you drink it at room temperature
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Once I took it a step further and called the restaurant ahead of time, described what I was wearing, and told them that I would order an alcoholic drink but to make it a virgin. I took a huge leap of faith doing that because I got no confirmation in the moment that my drink was actually a virgin as it would have blown my cover. After I "came out" and told my friends months later that I had done that it turns out someone else at the table was also secretly pregnant and had done the exact same thing!!
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@mediagirl: I would make DH call his mom and ask an unnecessary question about thanksgiving dinner "what time it starts, what am i supposed to bring again, ect." and then have him through in there that "it's been a rough week, J has had the touch of a bug this week, she's out of it but still pretty under the weather." and it answers not drinking and why you are tired!
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Antibiotics. Tell them you're taking antibiotics.
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I feel like everyone knows that the cop out is "antibiotics" and it'll be pretty suspicious. I think she should just carry drinks around with her or make fake drinks.
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Also saying you're on a diet and you'd rather eat your calories than drink them!
@Dandelion: in college I was on antibiotics and wasn't warned about no drinking and OMG that was the worse. I threw up bright yellow bile! That's all.
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: That's gross! I always thought it was because it make you extra drowsy/loopy or something! Good to know!
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Is anyone else perplexed by the antibiotic response? There's really only one antibiotic that can't be taken with alcohol and its used for BV, intestinal infections, PID...I'd just be wondering what kind of infection the person had!
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@sapphire: Haha, I'd think the same thing.
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I'm going through this same issue right now! I'm just going to say that I'm on a diet (was true) and haven't been doing well with it lately (also true), so I'm skipping the calories in wine so I can have more food.
Either that or say that I'm tired and want to enjoy the time with family without being more sleepy.
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I see people suggest the antibiotics excuse all the time on HB but I have never once in my life heard someone say they couldn't drink because they were on antibiotics. Sounds like a huge red flag to me. Family gatherings are super easy to be stealthy, just hold a glass of wine all evening. You can even bring it to your mouth occasionally without drinking any. Nobody notices.
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@mediagirl: on new medicine that doesn't do well with alcohol
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Antibiootics, unless family is the suspicious sort...
I'd go for having hubby switch drinks with you!Sounds like you have lots of options.
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Fake drinks. Either a mixed drink, with no liquor, or beer bottle of water. I drank several water "beers" at a family bbq and no one was suspicious (I also wasn't afraid to sip a drink that was offered to me to try from my SIL).
Also, my husband was my cover & helped me with filling the beer bottles discreetly. We told people it was my turn to drive home, so I didn't have to pretend for very long. -
I will add that I didn't hugely care if people suspected I was pregnant as long as they didn't ask about it. I just didn't want to discuss it until I was ready.
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@ElbieKay: agree with this that generally people don't ask. I never tried to trick anyone or hide my pregnancy or pretend to drink. If someone had the balls to ask if I was pregnant, I would have just told them yes. However, *no one* ever asked that question before we announced. Even people who knew we were trying. Several told me later that they suspected I was pregnant, but again, most people are just not going to ask.
Either that or say that I'm tired and want to enjoy the time with family without being more sleepy.
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