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  1. JoJoGirl

    cantaloupe / 6206 posts

    @stiletto_mom: @catlady: Don't cancel your trips to Florida! There's no zika there! Nobody has caught it IN florida yet. Yes it may happen "eventually" but hasn't happened yet.

  2. mrsmacandcheese

    blogger / clementine / 985 posts

    Got my specialist appointment confirmed for later this month! It's actually a telemedicine consult which is kind of crazy but also kind of awesome because I don't have to leave town or miss work.

  3. noelani

    olive / 58 posts

    @delight: It has meant so much to me following our experience last year to know that we were not alone (although it is heartbreaking that any other families have experienced such traumatic loss) - I have always appreciated your openness and willingness to share your story.

    I'm doing much better, I'm actually currently pregnant too. I'm 22 weeks now, due in August, but was so anxious early on that I couldn't bring myself to participate in the boards. It still makes me nervous to say/type "I'm pregnant." We've had numerous anatomy scans, my doctor has been monitoring me every two weeks, and so far everything is going well. It still feels like there's a long road ahead of us but we are very hopeful and cautiously optimistic.

    Again I am just so incredibly happy for you and hope that all of us on this board will be taking home our rainbow babies soon.

  4. Shantuck

    pear / 1767 posts

    @MrsDragon: That's great! All of my RE appointments have just been sitting in the RE's office across the desk talking about my labs, options, etc. Definitely not something that you need to be person to person for. Glad you are getting in soon!

  5. mrsmacandcheese

    blogger / clementine / 985 posts

    @Shantuck: Yeah, I've had zero testing done aside from thyroid levels as part of a basic workup, so I'm hoping he can order the tests. Somewhat worried that because two of the losses were CPs, that he won't do anything, but at least I won't have to drive 5 hours for that.

    Also kind of hoping I'll be pregnant at that point, though I don't know what I'd say to him in the appointment if I am -- maybe get him to check my progesterone levels? But that's getting way ahead of myself.

  6. Shantuck

    pear / 1767 posts

    @MrsDragon: At my first appointment with the RE I was pregnant and didn't know it yet. I found out the next day. I told him that I thought I might be and he was like, "yeah, uh huh." I guess they are a bit disillusioned in that line of work. Even though that pregnancy didn't work out, I did end up having to cancel a later appointment with an RE because I ended up pregnant on my own. Hoping you will have reason to cancel!

  7. delight

    pomelo / 5326 posts

    @JoJoGirl: I know! I'm in shock! How are you? Have you been able to relax at all?! Hope you're feeling great!
    @noelani: it is nice to know that we aren't alone. Unfortunately there are a handful of us who have TFMR on these boards. In real life I have felt pretty alone. I am so so happy for you too! I can't believe you are 22w!!! Congratulations to you. I'm sure you're a bundle of nerves but just keep thinking positively. Did you find out gender? I think I will this time, I don't want any surprises anymore. I wish you all the best, you're more than half way there.
    @MrsDragon: so glad you got an appointment! I hope you find some answers.

  8. catlady

    grapefruit / 4988 posts

    @MrsDragon: Good luck! Glad you got an appointment! Hehe, hope you are pregnant by then too.

    @delight: Thanks, looks like I'll have an early Dec due date. Although my LO was born early so it could still end up as Nov.

    I had an appt with my primary care provider today (just for my normal checkup) and when she found out I was pregnant, she prescribed progesterone and had me switch from my midwife to an OB (same practice, luckily). I hope this ends up working out. Just got an OB appt today as well and it's not for like 6 weeks (!) so I guess I'll just be hanging here in the meanwhile.

  9. stiletto_mom

    persimmon / 1183 posts

    I'm pregnant again, Monday I go in for my second round of betas. But since the miscarriage, every time I go without symptoms, I get paranoid that something is wrong. >_<

  10. delight

    pomelo / 5326 posts

    @catlady: I hope everything ends up working out for you too. Please just keep thinking positively. It's really all you can do. It's great you are on progesterone. I've been on progesterone and low dose aspirin this time and it helps me feel a bit more secure. Can you push for a scan sooner? (but not too soon! You know my 7 week one was a disaster, I should have gone at 8!) I'm sending a million positive thoughts your way that next Christmas you're snuggling your sweet little babe.
    @stiletto_mom: I'm hoping for wonderful betas tomorrow for you. It is such a scary stage, these first few weeks. I didn't have symptoms this time until after 6 weeks. Good luck with everything.

  11. janeybee

    pea / 22 posts

    I think it's safe to say this is a club no one wants to join.

    Date of loss: March 30, 2016

    How long are you waiting to TTC again: My doctor says to trust my body and try again as soon as I have a normal period.

    Any kids: No

    How are you feeling? Really, really sad. The rapidly changing hormone levels are pretty terrible. I think once the bleeding stops, which will make going to the bathroom less traumatic, things will start improving emotionally. I just miss the joy we were feeling, and the excitement. I miss knowing it was happening. I miss watching my husband's heart change each day as he processed what we were doing. I miss our little Sweet Pea.

    I started a private blog as an online journal awhile ago that I plan on sending to my husband one day as a gift. I've made it public now - feel free to visit if you want to read more about our story.
    https://dearlover.wordpress.com/

  12. catlady

    grapefruit / 4988 posts

    @delight: Thank you! I actually don't have a scan scheduled at all this time around. I have a call with a nurse in two weeks so I'll probably ask then. After my last m/c, they suggested that next time, I should try to get a scan at around 8 weeks.

    @stiletto_mom: Me too. Hope your betas look great!

    @janeybee: Welcome, and sorry you are here. I hope you are doing ok. Best of luck and hope you get your rainbow soon.

  13. Shantuck

    pear / 1767 posts

    @janeybee: I'm so sorry for your loss.

  14. Zbug

    persimmon / 1355 posts

    @janeybee: big hugs

  15. Nutella

    persimmon / 1045 posts

    @janeybee: oh so sorry to hear this. I know it's not much of a consolation, but know that you're not alone

  16. ksommer

    pea / 14 posts

    Never thought I'd join a group like this but happy to have support. I miscarried last week. I was very early...only 5 weeks but it still hurts beyond what I thought it would. I have a two year old son and have been desperately trying for baby #2. Hoping to conceive again soon.

  17. delight

    pomelo / 5326 posts

    @ksommer: I'm sorry for your loss. Best wishes when you TTC again. I hope you find comfort and support here.

  18. LibbyLou

    kiwi / 739 posts

    @ksommer: so sorry for your loss. We are here for you! Xo

  19. mrsmacandcheese

    blogger / clementine / 985 posts

    @stiletto_mom: congratulations!
    @janeybee: @ksommer: sending so much love to both of you.

  20. mrsmacandcheese

    blogger / clementine / 985 posts

    Couldn't resist anymore this week so I tested (and broke out the big guns after last month's stupid wondfo issue). Feels very surreal.



  21. Mrs. Champagne

    coconut / 8483 posts

    @MrsDragon: omg! Congrats!!! What a line! Ho many DPO??

  22. jaguar

    pomegranate / 3764 posts

    @MrsDragon: !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  23. mrsmacandcheese

    blogger / clementine / 985 posts

    @Mrs. Champagne: 10-ish most likely!

  24. delight

    pomelo / 5326 posts

    @MrsDragon: yeah so awesome!!!! A big congrats to you and best wishes for a wonderful pregnancy!

  25. Mrs. Champagne

    coconut / 8483 posts

    @MrsDragon: wow! Great line so hopeful for you!!!! Will your doc get you on progesterone or anything this time?

  26. oskarsmommy

    kiwi / 625 posts

    @MrsDragon: congrats!!!

  27. mrsmacandcheese

    blogger / clementine / 985 posts

    Thank you everyone!
    @Mrs. Champagne: I don't think so. The NP I was seeing is gone -- I'm going to have to start over with my family doctor, who is the one that referred me to the specialist, but I won't see her for at least a month I'm guessing. I do see the specialist/OB-GYN when I would be about 5.5 weeks, and I'm going to keep that appointment, but I don't think anyone will see me early.

  28. Shantuck

    pear / 1767 posts

    @MrsDragon: ahhhh! What a beautiful line! Congrats!!!!

  29. Nutella

    persimmon / 1045 posts

    @MrsDragon: wow! Congrats!!

  30. catlady

    grapefruit / 4988 posts

    @MrsDragon: Yay! Congrats! Hope we both end up with December babies.

  31. Mmayo

    apple seed / 3 posts

    @MrsDragon: yay! Congrats.

  32. noelani

    olive / 58 posts

    @delight: I got out of the habit of posting and didn't mean to take so long to reply! Yes, we found out the gender, it's another little boy (the pregnancy we lost last year was also a boy). We are thrilled but I get scared any time I find myself getting too "comfortable" and thinking about the future. The folks on the August board where I've been lurking are talking about all of their preparations (clothes/gear/etc) and we just can't bring ourselves to think about any of that yet. Do you feel similarly, or are we just being overly cautious? (It doesn't help that I had a bleeding episode a few days ago - turned out to just be a benign cervical polyp but it scared the crap out of us!).

    This weekend was significant - Saturday was the anniversary of the ultrasound where we first found out something was wrong last time and it was also weirdly the exact same point that I reached in the last pregnancy - 22w 4 d. (Our termination was last May, so that will be the next extra hard day).

    I'm so happy to see the recent good news coming from people on this board. I'm so sorry to see the newcomers, but hope that this board provides the same "safe space" and comfort that it has brought me.

  33. AprilFool

    nectarine / 2591 posts

    @MrsDragon: Congrats! Beautiful line for 10dpo.

  34. mrsmacandcheese

    blogger / clementine / 985 posts

    @AprilFool: thank you.

    I am super super anxious today. One day at a time I guess.

  35. winniebee

    hostess / wonderful grape / 20803 posts

    @MrsDragon: Congratulations!!!!

  36. Crystal

    grapefruit / 4028 posts

    @MrsDragon: congrats!

    @ksommer: @janeybee: I'm so sorry for your losses.

    I hope everyone is doing well! Sometimes it's hard to participate over here, seems like most people have moved on (which is wonderful!) feels lonely sometimes.

  37. jaguar

    pomegranate / 3764 posts

    @Crystal: Still here cheering you on. x

  38. Crystal

    grapefruit / 4028 posts

    @jaguar: thanks, friend. I'm still cheering you on as well.

  39. Nutella

    persimmon / 1045 posts

    @Crystal: hugs! I'm still here! And I know how you feel, I'm also sometimes overwhelmed by the lonely feeling on here as it feels like everyone is lucky enough to move on! I've got a lot if real life pregnancies around me right now too but we are on a ttc hiatus until a few things get sorted in other parts of our life. It's ok but hard to not want to be pregnant right now. Think it'll be best for me that way though. Thinking of you & sending support

  40. delight

    pomelo / 5326 posts

    @noelani: I don't think you are being overly cautious at all. It's normal to want to protect yourself after what happened. I am very happy for my pregnancy, but I can't say that I will 'enjoy' it or relax the way I did when I was pregnant with my first DD. My TFMR took a lot out of me, and I'll never be the same. Getting through the first anniversary of the loss was really hard for me back in December. I had 100% thought I would have been pregnant by then, but instead I had just gone through a 10 week miscarriage. Maybe since you are pregnant and have your new little boy to look forward to, it'll be a little bit easier (but still really hard). At any rate, just know that there are others out there that totally understand what you are going through. Congratulations on your little boy. I hope the rest of your pregnancy is smooth sailing. You deserve it.

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