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Vacationing with in-laws need advice

  1. 2littlepumpkins

    grapefruit / 4455 posts

    @aprild: I don't have advice other than to have your DH split the chores or speak up, but whenever we are with MY family that last thing about the guys drinking and me taking care of the kids happens. I get pissed but not much to do since it's my family pressuring him to go. Hugs!!

  2. ElbieKay

    pomegranate / 3231 posts

    @aprild: I only skimmed the replies but I agree with the comments in general.

    I would use this as an opportunity to set expectations for your husband, and if you don't enjoy yourself on this vacation then I think it's fine to say that future vacations will be limited to your nuclear family so that you can enjoy yourself too.

    Note: There is no way I would go on vacation with my MIL or my parents, so I am a bit biased!

  3. Mrs.Pinecone316

    persimmon / 1316 posts

    That for sure doesn't sound like a vacation to me! My husbands family also consists of 2 BIL's who aren't married. They like to cook so I guess I lucked out there but my suggestion is if you guys cook then they do dishes every night. Since its a beach house I would also see if there is a BBQ so you can have them grill meat and you just have to do sides. Less dishes also.

    If they get to have their fun I would also request a date night for you and your husband and let the family watch the kids so you can get some kids free time in also. Also some other time you can go out alone and shop or get a pedicure and your husband can watch the kids.

    I think just keeping expectations clear with your husband before hand will help.

  4. alphagam84

    persimmon / 1095 posts

    In regards to the food, I'd create a schedule. I'd say something like X nights we will cook this, Y nights you cook whatever you want and then say let's ask each brother what they want to cook on their nights. Don't even leave it open to discussion. And if someone pushes back, I would bluntly say why shouldn't they take a turn buying food and cooking it? It is a vacation for all. And no way would by husband expect me to do the cooking alone on our night.

    For the outings, I'd say that's too bad, WE can't go since they aren't kid friendly. Have fun though! Leave it at that. If hubby is dying to do one activity, make sure it is fair and you get to do an activity of your choice whether with the group or solo.

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