We waited two years after marriage before trying, so I was ready. If Mrs. Bee had wanted to try earlier, there may have been a convincing process involved. 
Was your SO ready to have a baby when you were?
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I thought my husband would be more hesitant since when I first met him he was on the fence about kids but in our premarital classes he made it clear he was ready right then. We waited a year because I wanted to just see how unpregnant married life was for a bit.
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We talked about babies pretty much the second after we got engaged. And we both agreed right away we wanted one the second after we got married
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We're in the middle of this discussion now (we're NTNT) but I have fertility issues and a surgery tomorrow. He is adamant that we wait until we find everything out before we have that convo - and I would MUCH rather have an idea of how things may go post-surgery. *le sigh* I know it will probably be a year or so, but because of the fertility issues I would loooooove to start actively TTC like, Oh I don't know, yesterday? Lol
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No! Hubs wants his career to be in a better place first. Super frustrating. He wants a bunch of babies but keeps hesitating, I'm only going mildly bonkers during the wait.
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Husband wanted to wait at least 5 years before having a baby! We ended up getting pregnant 8 months after we got married. Took him a few days to get used to the idea and to get over the initial shock
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SO was actually ready to have kids before I was. While I wanted to have kids I really wanted to wait after we had been married a year. We had always hoped that 2012 would be the year we would have a LO though.
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We always knew that we would get married and have kids together, but I was 21 when we started dating, so I needed some time to grow up and enjoy my 20's. My husband was 27, and just out of professional school, so he needed time to establish some security and a career.
We both decided we were ready at a trip to Disneyworld about 3 years ago- yeah, usually that is supposed to talk you out of having kids! So we got engaged and planned the wedding for a year. After the wedding we waited 3 months for health insurance to start, and TTC took 10 months.
Now we are expecting our son a couple of months before our second anniversary. My husband said the other day that he now wishes that we had come to the decision to have kids sooner, and I said that I was happy when we did, because now I feel ready in my career and our life to add another one to it. My 30th birthday present in January is a son! -
I was probably ready a year before my husband, but as a couple, we decided to wait two years after getting married. All of the great experiences we've had together and with friends makes me happy that we waited. I had a great weekend hanging out with friends. I wouldn't trade that in for anything. Right now, it feels like our relationship is a mix of hanging out with each other, hanging out with friends, babydancing, and hoping for a BFP. It's definitely different from the time when we were just chilling out after getting married and buying our condo.
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DH isn't ready yet but I am and it's super frustrating/I'm really bad at being patient, even though I know I need to be! I think it'd be easier if he had a concrete reason to wait, like career-wise or something, but it isn't that, he just isn't ready for the huge lifestyle change just yet. And I understand and appreciate that, but it's still hard to be ready when he isn't. We've talked about a timeline before, but it was a pretty arbitrary one so we aren't tied to it...
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DH and I always knew we wanted kids, but he was definitely ready before I was. I had baby fever bad, but was afraid to go through with it at first.
He's almost unreasonably confident about the whole thing... he thinks the more kids the merrier and doesn't seem to have a single fear about becoming a parent in May... I have a feeling his tune will change once baby comes home!
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DH was ecstatic that I was ready to right away! He's 7 years older than I am though; he's been ready for a while and assumed I would want to wait a while since I'm relatively young (I'm 23). You would have thought I told him we won the lottery when I said I wanted to try right away!
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I was ready to ttc before he was, but I was not to the point where I was getting impatient waiting on him. Six months ago he decided he was ready and we have been trying ever since. We'll pass our two year anniversary before we have a baby since I have not conceived yet, and I am glad that we waited a little while. I have enjoyed this time of just me and him.
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While I was in college (about 6-7 years ago), I didn't know if I wanted kids. My bf/FI/ now husband was the one that convince me that we would be good parents. When we got married, I was the one who had convince my DH that we were ready to start a family. It took a good year for us to be both ready.
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We both weren't sure about having kids when we got married. When I unexpectedly was pregnant and m/c a few days later at 3 months into our marriage we grieved an both decided we are ready for kids. We agreed to try on our 6 month semianniversary- and voila! It was so rough the first months of newborn adjustments. We definitely weren't ready for all that. The stress an sleep deprivation was really hard on hubby.
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Pretty much exactly, even though we'd agreed on starting in another six months. Of course, I was more desperate to get off birth control than I am to conceive.
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We were both ready about the same time. My SO is 7 years older than me so that's probably why. He's worried about being an old man when our kids graduate high school!
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Yes, he brought it up before I ever did.
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My DH was ready for kids aaaages ago. I was the one dragging my feet...I initially wanted to be married 2 years before we started TTC. But then baby rabies hit me hard and I decided that around our 1 year anniversary would be a good time. So here we are
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I already had DS when I met DH, so we had a kid... in a way. But when it came to TTC our own, I was ready before he was. When medical complications came up, we both decided that we needed to try now, or we might not have a chance. He wanted to wait until about a year after marriage though, which was good timing and I was fine with, but I was ready before that!
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Not really. I was ready, he didn't think we were financially ready. He finally decided we're never going to be as ready as we would like to be so, let's just start trying. We're also a bit older, so that played in, as well. He was a bit disappointed that it didn't take longer to get pg.
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We caught baby fever on/off at different points throughout our first year of marriage. After DH's 30th last month, he's been 100% ready moreso than I am sometimes!
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We were more or less on the same page. We both wanted to be married a full year before trying. The year mark passed and I was starting to feel ready and DH wasn't. But, I needed to have eye surgery before TTC so we had to wait a little bit longer. The surgery was scheduled for January 2011 and we said we would start TTC thereafter. The first few months of TTC I was more TTC and DH would not have minded if it took a little awhile. Well, it took 8 months (with a miscarriage in there). The last few months of TTC DH was really really ready and when we found out we were pregnant we were both super happy. I'm 13 weeks pregnant and the thought of actually having our baby is still very scary but we are both really excited.
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I am ahead of him, but I'm slowly wearing him down. He will soon be there, I hope.
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We were pretty much on the same page. DH was ready whenever I was so it was totally up to me.
We had initially talked about waiting a year (per my request) but after getting married and considering where we currently lived and having found a midwife that I liked, I decided that at 3mths post wedding I was ready to start TTC with our first month being more NTNT since I hadn't done any charting or such and DH was all a go.... we got preggers that first month and he's been ecstatic ever since. =)
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Emotionally yes, we've been on the same page for awhile.
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Yes, we're both ready and have been since we started! We both got married a little older so we knew it was time!
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I was more ready than the hubs was. But my desire to try when we did was so strong that the hubs was very on-board with me.
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I was ready before he was mostly because I was already in my late 30s when we met. I wanted to start trying as soon as we got engaged, but DH was strongly opposed to getting pregnant before the wedding.
DH is 6 years younger than me and just getting started in his career whereas i'm already established. If my age wasn't a factor he would have wanted to wait even longer.
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My husband was ready way before me but that's can be explained with out 5 year difference. I will have my two kids by the age of 29, I think that's pretty good. I couldn't see myself with 2 at 25. Not ready for that.
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I was ready about two years ago, but it took Hubs a little bit longer. Now that it's upon us soon, we're definitely both really ready though!
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yup! hubby and i were on the same exact page.
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DH was ready before me! I want to have our house before baby, but since it looks like we're on track to have that knocked out within the next 6 months, I feel comfortable actively TTC now.
Oh, we just got married this past spring, for those curious about timelines. ...if it were up to DH, I'd have gotten pregnant on the honeymoon (or sooner! lol)
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My husband has been ready for at least the past year... And I am JUST getting to that point. I must admit that Hellobee has been very helpful in getting me to "turn the corner" in terms of being more excited about the prospect!
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