What day do you like to visit a new mom in the hospital? The day she has the baby (if she has it in the morning). The second day? Third day? Does it depend on type of delivery?
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Never! I prefer to wait a few weeks until she has had time to settle in, unless she requests a visit before then.
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@Catomd00 ditto! I guess it depends on the person but I wouldn't, even a close friend. I did not want anyone coming to see me in the hospital. I was a mess! Plus sometimes we'd try to take a little nap at a weird time, or they were coming in to do something to the baby, or I was trying to breastfeed, etc. etc. I felt horrible after delivery too, so I was not up for chit chat.
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the second day
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The second day if she wants hospital visitors. I liked having people stop by the hospital, but I know not everyone does.
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Second day.
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Never, unless it's close family. It was so hectic to have visitors in the hospital. I always offer to stop by and bring food once they get home and settle in (usually after a few weeks).
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@Mrs. Pickle: me too - especially when they brought food
eta: one friend had me stop on the way and get her oreos
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@Mamaof2: yes! One of my friends brought Starbucks. It was so nice!
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@MrsADS: agreed, I didn't want anyone there except close family. You only get 48 hours if you're lucky, so I was there to recover and take advantage of their help in recovering while I was there! All business no pleasure! I would never assume anyone would want me there unless they specifically asked. I usually message people congrats and let them know I'm so excited to see them and their new baby when they're feeling up to it!
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I only went once on request of a friend to take photos of her kids meeting for the first time.
I would have preferred visitors day 2.
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Never in the hospital. I always visit them at home. I would have preferred no visitors in the hospital.
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I only visit siblings in the hospital. My good friend just had a baby and I'm dying to meet him, but I am waiting! I feel like I'm intruding on a special family moment if I crash the hospital, ha.
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Second day, and always a short visit. Just to pop in and congratulate/meet the baby, and bring some food/love.
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Never
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Never!
I had so many people show up on day two and we were a mess, I was hooked up to all kinds of machines for my BP, my son was in the oxygen tent for his collapsed lung. Hot mess. Lol -
Never unless it was family! In that case, It just depending how she was doing. My sisters came the day of both times, I'd probably do the same if she wanted me to
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Whenever she says! I met my niece and nephew and our friends' little boy when they were all about 12 hrs old. Other friends, I've waited until they are home. I just communicate with the new mom and say "whenever you're up for visitors, let me know!"
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Whatever day the new mom says is okay!! I love love love visiting my friends and their new babies in the hospital.
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I will add that I didn't mind having visitors in the hospital, generally, but I was like a zombie that first day. I actually don't remember some people being there even though I have pictures of them being there. I had a rough delivery that ended with being given all the medication available to me since my epidural had failed and I was having an emergency c-section. So I was really foggy. Also, I have no idea how many of those visitors saw my boobs or other parts because I was so out of it that I didn't really care.
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I only visit immediate family, not friends. We went day 2 to meet my nephew. I only had immediate family visit. They came hours after he was born and the 2nd day. For baby 2, I only want 1 day of visitors. It was too much for me, plus it was hard to rest.
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Whenever she invites me. Lol I didn't have visitors at the hospital other than my parents and I didn't want any. I didn't want to entertain anyone or put myself together. I had a c section, maybe it would've been different if I had a vaginal delivery, who knows.
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Not at all unless invited to do so. I did visit a very close friend on day 2 but not until after checking first. Thankfully all my visitors checked in first.
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@mediagirl: the day she invites me. and i don't ask. but then again... i've never visited a new mom at the hospital. i don't want to invade their space unless they ask.
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Never unless my friend specifically expresses that she would like visitors at the hospital. If she wanted me to show up I'd probably try to show up around a meal time and bring their favorite take out.
My best friend really wanted me to come see her and the baby right after she had him so I showed up with some treats a few hours after she delivered. I would definitely do the same for my other best friend bc she has the same personality. All my other friends I drop off a meal once they are settled at home
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The day I am invited to the hospital, and not at all otherwise. I like to visit (with food) a few days or weeks after the baby is born, but only with permission from the mom.
I have several close friends who are currently pregnant with #2, so I will probably offer to go over and watch their kids while they take care of baby or take a shower or whatever they need to do as well as bring some lunch.
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I have never visited in the hospital. My sister gave birth during an epidemic and visitors were prohibited. No one else close enough to me has given birth. But I didn't really like people visiting me in the hospital either. I just wanted to sleep and eat!!!
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Never. Unless they specifically request it.
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First day family, second day friends
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I've been day 2 with close friends when invited.
Other friends that I'm not as close to we will wait until later.
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Depends!!! If friend asked I would definitely leave it I their hands to ask me when to come!
@sandy: Yes me and my best friend did that for one anotjer and ibolan to do it again for her in 8 weeks
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When I'm invited
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Never unless Im asked, and if I am I ask them what day. And that's only happened once (one of my bffs and she is a very social person).
I'm just very private and introverted so I guess I worry that she has the same feelings as me. So I always offer to go visit once she's settled at home and if she then says "come to the hospital!" I will on whatever day she suggests. -
I would never go visit a new mom in the hospital unless you beg me. After I had my son I realized I did not want visitors. It took me weeks to even want people to come visit me. I was so overwhelmed.
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For my sisters maybe I'll go if they ask me to.
For anyone else never. -
I would only go for an extremely close friend or family member and if they request it. I've actually never visited a new mom in the hospital!
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The only person I would visit in the hospital for a routine labor/delivery/postpartum stay is my sister. I would not even offer to visit anyone else unless I was explicitly invited.
I did not want any visitors when I was in the hospital. My parents came, which was fine and expected. My sister would have been welcome, but she was cat sitting for us. My MIL was traveling but otherwise would have been welcome to meet the baby.
Everyone was told in advance that I was going to deliver the baby, meet/breastfeed the baby, and then I reserved the right to take a nap before greeting any visitors. As it turns out, my son was born at 1am and visiting hours started at 9am. So this worked out well.
I definitely did not want the pressure of people waiting around while I was in labor.
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depends on the person and how close you are. i've gone the next day and i've not gone at all to the hospital, even with really close friends (but they are often only there for a day!). i always go visit within the first couple of weeks though!
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I never have. With DS1, I had 3 visitors. They all came the second day I think. Or maybe some on same day but he was born at 3am so it felt like second day.
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I never visit friends in the hospital, unless they directly ask me to come. I always wait until they are home, normally for about a week, then I bring over a nice meal and some snacks!
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