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I have a little research bug that bites me once in awhile.
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I have a little research bug that bites me once in awhile.
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papaya / 10473 posts
Formerly: an information resource, a way to broaden my perspective, and social connections
Currently: time filler. Hoping it will get back to the former purposes.
honeydew / 7444 posts
It first started off as a place to get parenting information (FTM going through bad sleep issues), then a community to turn to for advice, venting, friendship, unintentionally helped me broaden my perspective, and now is just a time filler.
cantaloupe / 6634 posts
@jaguar: Same here, that's why I am really struggling with leaving. I don't feel like I belong with TTC, I definitely don't belong with the Due Date boards but you ladies in the loss "section" have been amazing.
Eta: just sending you tons of hugs and hopes for a great day for you.
pomegranate / 3764 posts
@Arden: back atcha
@simplyfelicity: If it makes you feel better.. other than dabbing my toes back into the IVF thread, I'm stuck in limbo in the Loss boards too. And I can't see myself going anywhere else for a while, you know? x
eta: And more back in YOUR general direction too. Giant bear hugs.
bananas / 9227 posts
I used to think HB was a sanctuary: an outlet for a gal all alone in a foreign country where everyone else is multiple timezones (and families) way. I found this site friendly, uplifting and educational. The posters were encouraging and provided an interesting mix of diversity.
But through the years, I've noticed an obvious clique of a few individuals that has managed to turn a friendly, open community into miniature version of Jr. High School drama - not always, never always. But in some choice threads, all the drama and bullying is there. What's really disheartening is they seem to pick threads that are drama free. It's almost like a game that's played: The how much drama can I stir-up now challenge. It's usually started by one individual poster that's somehow "backed-up" by her posse of virtual high-5s.
I got all that shit out of my system in Jr. HS (and even then, I didn't care for it), and that was a really, really long time ago. It doesn't really motivate me to share more of myself, it forces the opposite. After reading pp, it seems I'm not alone.
To answer the question in summary:
Before: outlet, information resource, entertainment, motivation, education, shopping guide, sale hunting, encouragement, venting, motivation -- a lot of warm and fuzzies.
Now: information resource, product reviews, time killer, social connections, sales. I've learned my lesson that people on these sites don't really care. It's a sandbox. Some people play nice, some people cooperate, and some shit in it.
pomelo / 5866 posts
@simplyfelicity: @jaguar: I don't know your personal stories but I can attest that gentle words of healing and comfort during my own intimate grief process from a user (on the Bees' previous site, who then moved to Hellobee) gave me a lifelong appreciation for the women who come here with just an extra ounce of care, wisdom, thoughtfulness and/or love to share.
clementine / 918 posts
@jaguar: @simplyfelicity: what do you think about moving the "loss" subforum to a category other than pregnancy. That way if you want to use it you can still have pregnancy posts blocked? I'd love to talk with you ladies but I don't have infertility and feel weird posting in that forum
cantaloupe / 6634 posts
@Ms.Badger: I think that is a great idea. You can also select topics within pregnancy that you so want to show up in your feed but I think it would be a sensitive move to have it the way you suggested. How do we summon Mr. Bee?
pomegranate / 3764 posts
@Ms.Badger: @simplyfelicity: I think this is a wonderful idea. It's just too hard to wade through the pregnancy posts at the moment, when you're still processing the fact that you're NOT pregnant anymore!
@808love: I understand this completely. I still post on WB occasionally {Jag 4eva! haha} but they don't have a specific Loss forum, so I don't really fit in at the moment.
cantaloupe / 6687 posts
At it's best it is an information resource for me - there are some mamas I've "known" through HB since 2011 and they are so generous with their thoughtful comments. Not everyone posts on the threads I start but if I'm really looking for help/advice I've been able to message people with my questions (after doing my own research as well) and get thoughtful, detailed feedback and advice. I also love reading about products that others like - baby stuff, beauty/makeup, cleaning products, treats at Costco/Trader Joes, etc
It's also been a place where I can share/vent/commiserate with others going through similar experiences - potty training, TTC, pregnancy, discipline, etc
It's also a place where I am exposed to parenting choices outside of my social circle and where I can learn about experiences/choices other parents are making.
And it's a time filler
clementine / 918 posts
@jaguar: @simplyfelicity: Ok, I asked to have it moved to other. It was really nice to have the chronic care board when I was at that stage because I could just chat with people who knew what I was going through. Hopefully that forum can be similar.
watermelon / 14206 posts
@Ms.Badger: @simplyfelicity: @jaguar: great idea!
I'm here for any of you if you need to talk about losses, too. There's a grief cycle you go through and sometimes you feel like a crazy person and need to just vent and ask "is this normal?" So, if you need that, or any other resources, please let me know.
To answer OP question, I'm here for baby advice, entertainment and time killer.
papaya / 10560 posts
When I was pregnant with my first, and then the first year of my first child I came for a lot of information/resources. Now that I have two, I still come for info, though not as much because everything isn't new to me. Mainly now I just get on after work, after the kids are asleep when I can.
cantaloupe / 6017 posts
Information and friendship/community, although since developing "off HB" friendships with a couple people, and after going back to work, the later feels less significant to me.
I joined when I was TTC- pregnancy was such a "baby brain" time for me- it was all I wanted to talk about, and I knew I was driving everyone I knew crazy. As a SAHM for 16 months, hellobee was a great place for me to chat with others and just feel less lonely during the day. I'm not sure how it fits into my life at this point. Its definitely less appealing lately, but thats not because of the drama or whatever (honestly, that stuff has never bothered me), it just doesn't fit into my life anymore.
hostess / wonderful apple seed / 16729 posts
Information, community, healing/emotional support, time filler, normalcy, some venting, entertainment, broaden perspectives and view other points of view.
Most of this is related to the IF boards. (I don't think I would be sane considering all the waiting I've done and still doing.) Some baby related because I'm pre-baby. Other non baby related posts or threads are to build friendship and feel normal or not normal (haha) with others.
admin / wonderful grape / 20724 posts
@Ms.Badger: would it be ok if we moved the Loss board to under Parenting?
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
For me, it's an information source, friendship community, and time filler.
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
Time filler, friends, info, venting and fun. Sometimes news source during work hours.
bananas / 9899 posts
When I was TTC, it definitely gave me a lot of support. It was a place to vent and talk to other women in the same/similar position.
Now I'd say I hang around here pretty casually. I like reading what others have to say. I like piping up when I feel I can share something. Sometimes I find some information that's useful/interesting. Sometimes it's just a way to fill some time.
I never really expected more from Hellobee myself.
pomegranate / 3759 posts
I originally loved that I could come here to relate to others. I could get all the answers I needed just by stopping here. Also, if I was having a hard time with a parenting issue, somebody else could relate. Lately it has been purely for entertainment purposes
blogger / pomegranate / 3491 posts
@mrbee: if non parents without living children/not yet parents have suffered a loss and block parenting boards, that defeats the purpose. I think other might be more helpful.
apricot / 390 posts
I said sanctuary, information resource, and friendship community.
I feel like I should clarify sanctuary: I said this because there are some things about my pregnancy journey so far that I didn't feel like I could share with many others (especially before i was "out"), so I like being able to come here to talk about it anonymously.
For all of those purposes, I find that for me, they are best served in my due date month board. Before that, my POAS thread. I don't participate very much in other boards mostly because I usually don't have much to offer. But I do read a lot of other threads.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
For me it's an information resource, friendship community, gauge of normalcy, form of entertainment, venting outlet, and a time filler.
papaya / 10343 posts
Equal parts informative, supportive, and fun/time killer. When I joined up I WAH and was pregnant, now I'm a SAHM until I find a new job-- so I would be so bored if I didn't come on here and chat with people during the day!
cantaloupe / 6634 posts
@mrbee: @Ms.Badger: Mr. Bee, I believe the idea is to have it moved to "other" or perhaps have its on category and have miscarriage etc within. Having just gone through two miscarriages, it's really difficult to have to weed through all the pregnancy (or parenting if it's moved) posts. I am definitely not asking for special treatment or anything and perhaps you have an even better idea.
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
Mostly information, community, support... I do like that I get so many different perspectives, it def widens my views on certain things. It's def also nice distraction during the work day!
coconut / 8861 posts
It's a mix of community, time filler, gear recommendations, and entertainment for me.
The diaper backpack discussion a couple days ago cut down doing product searches to a half hour at best. I have a Ju Ju Be Right Back coming today. Seeing all of the recommendations made it an easy choice.
pomegranate / 3872 posts
Entertainment, ideas/inspiration, information and seeing what other people who care about parenting are up to (and I think hb users are on average, more intelligent than on other sites). Because these are the things I'm in it for, I'm not bothered by the occasional drama.
pomegranate / 3533 posts
I also would support Loss (including Miscarriage, Family, Pets as a few possible subcategories) being its own board, rather than under Pregnancy or Parenting.
pomelo / 5866 posts
@jaguar: 4 eva!! I slightly varied my name here but kept it. My loss was only spoken about through private message. It started as an exchange of information in the form of please take my name off the pregnant list quietly- and was responded to so personally and kindly. Since it all happened so fast, only a couple irl people knew and it meant a ton to me.
@mrbee: A Loss, Healing or Grief board would be very valuable to promote dialogue when looking for words of experience and/or support during life changing events.
persimmon / 1177 posts
When I first joined, it was for TTC resources/support - also a place to talk about the TMI details of ttc that I wasn't comfortable talking about with friends in real life.
Still the same, but focus has shifted to pregnancy and newborn topics instead of ttc. It's also a lot more of a time filler for me now.
clementine / 918 posts
@mrbee: I know others have chimed in, but unfortunately, none of the large categories really fit with loss. I really think it'd be best under other or as it's own category. Sorry for being difficult
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